Do men generally go out of their way to talk to women?

Question

I am really shy girl so I really struggle going up to strangers to start a conversation. I do develop physical attraction to some of the guys but I never try to start a conversation with them. On the other hand, guys never come up to start conversations with me neither. I dont think this "shyness" is only unique to me. Do guys generally start conversations with random women who they don't know?

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

An unfortunate phenomenon in this country (and largely in Western culture as a whole) over the past couple of generations including yours is the emasculation and feminization of men.

Men are designed by nature to pursue women. That's how the human race is perpetuated. But in the past few generations, masculinity has been demonized. Men have become effeminate. They have become afraid to be men because that natural behavior has become a societal taboo as if there is something wrong with natural behavior. They even developed a term for it, "toxic masculinity." It's a disgusting trend and has left a lot of women baffled about what to do.

Hopefully, that trend is coming to an end as more and more people seem to be awakening to the assault on natural traditional Western culture and family formation that has been taking place in the political environment from the political left and are starting to come to their senses.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

Generally, no. Not unless you're in a social context where going up and talking to people is the expectation.  Cold approaches are a great way to make people feel uncomfortable.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I was shy and id avoid it, the more attracted the more I'd run. I learned to communicate with them and at times, went out of my way to talk to them.

it's developmental thing..

some do.

figure out why you are shy and start working on that. possibly afraid of... pain? Fear, rejection? some of that is legit. so learn to enhance your skills and strengths so you have more confidence to handle situations.

your energy and words are powerful. rarely do you have to use physical might.

Anonymous · Answer

I think unless it is more a part of the guy's personality to approach women each generation has gotten less and less in their numbers for going out of their way to approach women.

There are a lot of reasons for this.

The more each generation utilizes or incorporates social media, phones and other such aspects into their daily lives the less social they become. Decades back if you were waiting for the bus, waiting for a food order, maybe just walking and exploring casually one day, etc you didn't have a phone you could pick up and scroll through or bury yourself in either because one was using it for something or if one is using it as a shield to fill that gap of waiting. Thus, without it in the past there were more natural or sometimes even spur of the moment chances to strike up conversations with people to either pass the time or because maybe you were interested in that person possibly as a friend or romantically.

Another reason is that I have seen a trend in universities where men are told that X isn't okay to say to woman, or X isn't okay to do to woman, never approach a woman while she's doing X, never talk to a woman romantically in an X setting, etc. Same with online you see posts of teenagers and adult men asking where should I go to meet and approach women and you get answers all across the board. Don't approach them in the gym or supermarket. Other woman say I am regularly at the gym and/or supermarket if a guy wants to strike up a conversation there that would great!

Then of course men hear horror stories of approaching certain women and her making a mountain out of a molehill. The guy is socially awkward and is trying his best but to her it comes off creepy best case scenario she rejects him worse case scenario she interprets this as some kind of harassment.

Then there is the fact that there are introverted guys or just guys who have personalities where they are in their own heads so much they just don't know how, when or where to approach a woman like that. I know there are many that would love to strike up conversations but they either don't have experience in it or the relationships they had previously didn't happen like that and thus they don't know how to approach women in this day and age.

There are other factors but I think this highlights several key ones. I fear this ongoing trends could be disastrous for both men and women of future generations if some changes aren't adopted and applied properly. Hope this was helpful to your question!

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Not anymore for the most part unless you're putting yourself out there like a piece of slut (free) or whore (priced) meat for us to look at. You have feminism to thank. You're equal now... more than equal. Times have changed and instead of looking for a man that will support you, you need to look for a man you can support. Enjoy, and don't forget to thank feminism.

Do men generally go out of their way to talk to women?

You got to understand that we've been sent a message that we'll get #metoo 'd if things don't go right, that we'll be seen as creeps and the worst of the worst if you're not drizzling vaginal fluids at our sight from the start.

I mean to be perfectly honest, if you don't make it absolutely clear that you will accept an approach... he's a fucking retarded idiot if he still approaches you. That fat ugly feminists are saving you from our toxic masculinity... so enjoy your new freedoms, get a job, get taxed, and go find a man that depends on you because he can't find a job because now he competes with a whole another gender in the workforce... and illegal immigrants.

This isn't the old days... time for you to change your thinking.

Makeushiver · Answer

Anybody will be happy to talk about tjoernintwrests, passions what's important to them. If you like an particular type not music, esp. If it's a little offbeat andnnoticens ok me one listening to it. Tell tjem, oh you like that too, I've been starting to listen to some of their stuff and they sound interesying. What do you recommend of theirs for example. Or if you are with a group of peopkend ok ingnsomethinhnsailing, tennis, golfing, drawing, horseback riding anything g. Yoh will habe an preselected topic since you are both already participating its natural to fall into a discussion. ' How long habe you been doing this'? I was in a college class and a woman I really wanted to date was reading one if thenassign! e ts. I saw her reading it and walked up to her and said. Oh, I see you reading Blake's the narrative of Heaven and Hell, what do you think of it!" We talked anou yet not for awhile hand we started talking about mother things since we were chatting and it turned intonanprettynexciting, pretty long relationship. by the way her answer was something like , " I can't make heads or tails out of the. whole fucking thing'. Don't be nervous, be interested. Their is no topic men like ! this more than themselves. Take a look at what their wearing and tell them. did you know that Tweed you're wearing was knitted by Kazakh midgets who are considered experts non herringbone? Anything.

alice55 · Answer

They do, many men do go talk to women the street but if you're shy it won't lead to anythng I know this from experience as I'm also shy and awkward and everytime guys flirt with me it lead nowhere as they think I'm not interested (even though I'm sometime like two time guys that were 100 % my type went to talk to me but as I'm shit at flirting they thoughts I wasn't interested and i didn't dare to ask their number either, didn't want to come off as desperate).

Garud · Answer

If I see that I am the one who is dragging the conversation for 4-5 minutes and she is not taking it further then I don't try any more.

I usually start the conversation with some questions and then talk about some other things related to that topic in a funny way. If she doesn't say anything from her side other than answering me then I leave the conversation.
Because I don't have enough battery to entertain her anymore and that is enough in today's time for a man

Oliverskier · Answer

Some guys do some don’t it also depends on a lot of other factors like if your with a large group of people. Another thing with being shy that can be a big thing is sometimes people mistake it for distaste or disinterest, which I’ve been told people thought about me when I was being shy, so they don’t feel like making a move. If you really work on it though and feel comfortable making the first move almost all guys will give you a chance and hopefully continue the conversation from there

Anonymous · Answer

I don't. I have no ability to approach women, and I'm pretty sure I am ateast average on terms of physical attractiveness. I have wanted to, but I get too anxious when I get near her. Unfortunately, I think I have been approached by one women, who I accidentally rejected.

shades777 · Answer

Generally I just live my life and improve myself across the board, chasing women is a great waste of time for any productive man.

I introduce myself and watch to see if there's any interest out of that, no interest no problem. That's the nature way of doing it. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Men generally approach women they find attractive. They haven't approached you because they don't find you attractive. Being shy isn't cute, you're not a little girl, grow up. Men don't find this trait attractive its childish

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

A common trick when you don't know what to tell them is simply to ask questions. This way they talk and while they talk it gives you ideas, either for you to answer the same or for another question

Truthatanycost · Answer

I only used to do that when i didn't know any better and had no purpose or direction in life. Now I have better things to do...

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

I totally understand this because I'm a shy guy and I rarely talk to a girl. I'm a better at it now. But I don't think I would start a conversation with a shy girl unless there was some chemistry.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Men will go out of their way to talk to women they find attractive.

So if you're on the "hot" end of the spectrum, you can probably expect a fair number of men to walk up to you out of nowhere and start talking to you.

glennos89 · Answer

You have no idea how many guys are just as shy or perhaps even more shy then yourself. There a truly a lot!

Nikki1989 · Answer

The more outgoing and proactive ones do. The rest tend to bitch about not getting on social media.

Juxtapose · Answer

No, I'm not that extroverted. I know I have to put myself out there at least once in awhile to even have a chance but damn do I hate initiation.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Only the stupid ones I don’t even give a girl my phone number right away. And if they give me theirs I probably won’t even call them.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  now be a shy guy like me, while its always said that the men have to initiate and approach women. Usually its mostly extroverted men who talk to women

Dan290290 · Answer

I'm too shy to walk up to a woman I don't know and start talking...

Shy_Steve · Answer

Most Guys are the same, The only difference is we get pressured to Approach Women By Society and Women.

SunnyRS · Answer

No, I don't do that. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Emmytexrex · Answer

Some shys guys don't they are scared to but guys that are confident will

Christopherthegreat · Answer

Oh wow I’m a shy guy sorta it just depends.

Predetor · Answer

KIf you want to chat about the topic, write a message

Anonymous · Answer

I'm too shy so I usually wait for girls who like to take initiative.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Only really extroverted guys do that a lot

SolitarySolace · Answer

Do women go out of their way to talk to men?

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the guy

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

Slim57 · Answer

When I do it yes

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