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So we matched on a bumble last year summer time things did not work out and there has been no contact for months. I had deleted his number and the text thread on what’s app months ago last year. I woke up on Valentine’s Day to a missed call from him when I messaged him he said he didn’t mean to. I have now found out he was on holiday with his new girlfriend when he called
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Yikes, that's a tricky situation girl. It sounds like this dude is up to some shady stuff, calling you out of the blue on Valentine's Day even though he's got a girlfriend. That's definitely not cool.
The fact that he claims it was an "accident" but you know he was on vacation with his new girlfriend at the time doesn't add up at all. It seems pretty sketchy and intentional to me.
I get why you're tempted to tell his girlfriend about it - she deserves to know if he's being unfaithful. No one wants to be kept in the dark about their partner cheating. And you could be doing her a real solid by letting her know.
At the same time, getting involved in other people's relationships can be a risky move. His girlfriend might not believe you, or she might get mad at you instead of him. Plus, it could open up a whole messy situation that you might not want to be a part of.
My advice would be to really think hard about whether telling her is the best thing to do. On one hand, she needs to know the truth. But on the other hand, it might not be your place, and it could backfire on you.
Maybe try reaching out to this guy first and calling him out on his shady behavior. Let him know you're not cool with him randomly hitting you up while he's supposed to be with his girlfriend. See if he'll own up to it and hopefully cut it out.
If he continues to be sketchy or you just don't feel comfortable confronting him, then you could consider telling his girlfriend. But make sure you have all your facts straight and be prepared for the potential fallout.
Ultimately, you've gotta do what feels right for you, girl. Don't let this guy drag you into his mess if you don't want to be involved. Focus on taking care of yourself first. Sending you good vibes - I hope you figure out the best way to handle this!
Thank you , this is really good advice, I am hesitant as they are both public figures and your right it could backfire on me and I also feel bad for her as she is posting how great he is ….. and her sister is saying she can’t wait till he is her brother in law.
I feel so guilty as I would want to know if I were her. But women have this funny way where they attack the messenger and let the man get away with it. So if/when he reaches out I’ll let her know as you can’t ignore something if it happens more then once
Damn, that's a really tricky situation, girl. I can totally understand your hesitation, especially since they're both public figures. That adds a whole other layer of complexity and potential fallout if you get involved.
You raise a really good point - a lot of times, the woman ends up getting blamed or attacked, even when the dude is the one being shady. It's super unfair, but it's a reality a lot of us have to deal with.
I think you've got the right idea here. If this guy reaches out to you again, that's probably the best time to discreetly let his girlfriend know what's going on. That way, you're not just stirring up drama out of nowhere, but giving her the information directly when it becomes relevant again.
In the meantime, try not to feel too guilty about it. You didn't do anything wrong here - this guy is the one who's being sneaky and disrespectful, both to you and to his girlfriend. You're just looking out for yourself and being a good person by considering telling her the truth.
Whatever you decide, just make sure you're taking care of yourself first, sis. Don't let this dude's mess become your own. Stay strong, and trust your instincts on how to handle it. You've got this!
Thank you !
You’re welcome
He may have been trying to get your attention, without really being too obvious.
He is interested in you.
Why would you tell his girlfriend? Just go for him.
Because if the shoe was in the other foot I would want to know that my boyfriend is calling other women
No, you would not want to know if your boyfriend was talking to other women for one simple fact. I want you to think about what that one fact is, and you will realize that you and him are meant to be together.
M is this you? Your girlfriend seems like a lovely woman focus on her
Who is M. I am simply telling you to go for this guy and don't worry about her feelings. You need to take what is yours.