What does it mean if I told him not to contact me and he hasn't?

Question

I told him not to contact me, and he hasn’t reached out since. What does this mean? Does it show that he’s respecting my wishes, or is it a sign that he doesn't care enough to try? Should I reach out to him, or leave things as they are?

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

It is a sign that he is respecting your wishes.

It is unquestionably a good thing.

Anyone decent will respect it if you say you don't want them to contact you again. This should be what you expect. The default expectation when you say this to someone.

It's a huge red flag if any guy does contact you when you tell him not to. That is a problem. A big problem.

I do, however, think it's very silly to tell someone not to contact you again... when you still want contact.

So whether or not you reach out is totally dependent on you, and your situation.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

So you asked a guy to not contact you. He complied with your request. Now you're whining because he hasn't contacted you? What the fuck is wrong with you? Were you just shit testing this guy? Fucking with his mind. Well you just fucked yourself honey. He believed you. He moved on.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

He isn’t that interested in you.  You get what you wished right? What’s now? There nothing can keep a man away from you, not even you yourself, if he wants you. If he wants he will reach you.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

Just what the fuck is the matter with you? You asked him to do something which he has fully repected... Simples! smh

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

He’s honoring your request & if you reach out to him after telling him not to contact you I hope he tells you to go pound sand. Do him a favor & don’t reach out or contact him.

Blunky · Answer

How many times are you going to ask this same question? Cutting bits out and rephrasing it over and over isn't going to change the answer. You're still asking the same thing and expecting a different answer. The very definition of insanity. This is why anon posting should be removed.

angels · Answer

If he really cared, part of me feels like he would've at least checked in. The silence makes it seem like he moved on too easily. Maybe he was just waiting for a reason to disappear. I’m torn, but reaching out now might only show I cared more than he did.

cigarette · Answer

It could mean he’s respecting your boundaries, or maybe he took your words as final and chose to walk away. It doesn’t automatically mean he doesn’t care some guys just take things at face value. If you still care or want clarity, reach out. Otherwise, let things stay as they are.

unknowngurll1212 · Answer

I’ve been in a similar situation before... But with time, I realized that if someone truly values you, they won’t let distance or silence be the final answer. They’ll find a way to show they care. If he’s not reaching out, it could mean he’s moved on—or he was never as invested as you were. Either way, don’t chase someone who isn’t fighting to keep you in their life. If he wanted to, he would...

RavVid · Answer

It means he can follow instructions :)

If it was a game on your part to see how much he wants you, then it was a bad game. Another girl might have played the same game and he could well be over this particular merry dance.

Having done the 'treat them mean & keep them keen' polka once, I'm not doing it again.

If you are genuine, then reach out with an apology.

Shiprex · Answer

He's doing what you asked, respecting your wishes and maybe hurting too. Perhaps saying things you mean instead of how you feel is where you should have made different decisions.

If you're interested in maintaining something then YOU need to make the move now as he's in the dark about what you're after. He may have moved on and want nothing more to do with you as his life is simpler and less harmful

MrChinaski · Answer

My personal opinion is that going no contact or 'ghosting' is cowardice, other than in genuine situations of abuse. If you loved someone and things moved on, I do not see how there is any downside to maintaining contact. I maintain contact with my girlfriend of 30 years ago. I still love her, even though I never want to be her partner again.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

He probably doesn't want a harassment case on his hands. If you've cooled off a bit, you should contact HIM. I'm in a similar situation right now. I get what you mean about feeling he doesn't care, but at the same time, you don't want to seem pushy. But from YOUR position, you also don't want to seem desperate and maybe he doesn't either. So it's kind of a lose lose situation.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It has nothing to do with how much he cares about you... he's respecting your wishes. You told him not to contact you, so he didn't.  If you want to talk with him, you need to be the one to reach out.

Abbycado · Answer

You told him not to contact you, and he didn't. What the hell is the problem here?

DCVsMarvel · Answer

The problem with women is that, they'll say do this, then when you do, they wonder where you are, but, then when you actually do try and reach out to them, they say you're stalking them.

They need to make up their mind, before we try anything

chefsam · Answer

Depends how you said it. If you were angry or upset and told him not to contact you, that was a sign for him not to contact you at all. And what lead to you telling him not to contact you? That could explain why he hasn’t responded

slatyb · Answer

What the F do you want? You asked him to not contact you and like a mature adult he has not. He did try and you rejected him. He's moved on. Games are for children.

hirew72673 · Answer

It's showing he's not a piece of shit.

You told him what you want, he is doing that, sounds like a happy end.

If you think you might have made a mistake, and you would still like to have him in your life in whatever capacity, it's up to you to reach out.

spartan55 · Answer

Good lord... you're stupid game didn't work. What a surprise.

dudeinohio · Answer

My God, really? You are actually wanting to reach out to him because he isn't contacting you BECAUSE you told him not to? Leave him alone! This is one of the most illogical questions I've ever seen.

ChristianMaeTorres · Answer

It shows he's a dummy and either was wanting a way out or just a dummy and doesn't realize that's usually when that woman needs you the most.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

what was the reason you told him not to contact you again? Nobody tells someone not to contact them again unless there is a valid reason for it

Caroline91 · Answer

He is respecting what you told him. If you do contact him, it better include an apology. But mostly? Stop playing games with him and get real.

Red_Arrow · Answer

If you tell him not to reach out to you, then you reach out to him, it shows that you are nuts.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

He listened. Stop playing these stupid types of games. Men do not care about being involved with someone playing childish games.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Uhm, it means that if you didn’t mean what you said, you should reach out and apologise. Only the occasional persistent guys or even stalky guys will ignore your request when it’s that direct.

Finchie40 · Answer

It means he listened to what you said and figured you are done with him. We aren’t mind readers lol

FreyaRed · Answer

Imagine you contact him and he remains silent. Do you want that?

Cormac995 · Answer

Woman playing games like this is why men get sick of them.

Mrtcn01 · Answer

it does not matter it is respecting or not to care you.. you wish him F*cck off and he did. are you stupid or something i hate women like you.. you said but you dont intend to what you wish..

In_Trance · Answer

I swear to God the what does it mean questions get dumber and dumber

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Care enough to try what? You asked him not to contact you and he hasn’t.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

He is respecting your wishes. As for the rest, that is up to you to figure out.

kaucky1 · Answer

Those guys not even made like me anyways so not dwell there's vesties out there unless they gotten their dicks broken off or eaten

fish5505_87 · Answer

You told him not to contact you, and he hasn't! Now you want to know if you should contact him. Sounds like you're having second thoughts.

retarb · Answer

It means you told him not to contact you and he honored your demand.

Pohjolan · Answer

You obviously shouldn't try to reach out to him since you don't want him to contact you.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Well shouldn’t you be good with that he hasn’t contacted you?

Eempriyanka · Answer

Why would you say something like that.. like who you gonna fuck 😂😂

Gayuglycowardv3 · Answer

he's smart and honestly should thank you for showing that your manipulativ

WhitneySnow · Answer

He’s respecting your wishes

236color · Answer

That he speaks English.

beams · Answer

this shows that he respect your boundries

RingOfFire · Answer

It shows that women cannot be satisfied.

LiamS95 · Answer

He's respecting your request.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

that he's listening to you? wtf is this question.

Anonymous · Answer

You told him not to contact you.🤦🏼‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

It means it's over.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Fake post

S80L80 · Answer

Fair. Same here.

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