He friendzoned me but now he keeps calling me pet names. Why would he do that?

[Anonymous]

Like very regularly calling me doll and now he just called me lovie?

We used to be more than friends so I’m feeling a little confused. Am I overthinking this?

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He just called me “sweet thang”!

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Now I said I just got out of the shower and he referenced imagining me in there…

[milknhoneyy]

He is having second thoughts about friendzoning you, and he wants to feel it out to see if you want more without putting himself out there.

[Asker]

@milknhoneyy totally seems like that but when I lightly engaged with the shower comment I felt like he kind of retreated a little again. He really confuses me…

[Jennz6]

Do the same

[Asker]

@jennz6 any idea of what I could call him without being too flirty?

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain
Something like “Hey Handsome”

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain “Blue eyes” if he has pretty blue eyes

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain also “sexy” or “babe”

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain
Also “Darling or Sweetheart”

[Asker]

@jennz6 maybe handsome but I’m wondering if there’s something a little more low-key because doll and lovie aren’t really regarding appearance and I’m trying to think of an equivalent for a guy.

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain
What is a good “Pet Name” for your boyfriend? ↗

[Jennz6]

@septemberintherain
Someone said “Sugar”

[Asker]

@jennz6 thanks for adding that question! So far Dear I think would be the closest to the names he’s been calling me.

[ohsheeT]

Wow it's got me confused to

Something is wrong with this picture
From going to all the passionate sensual sexy emotion and creating that hot energy together
To just stopping and then even having a pet name name for you makes no since to me

Not unless he's going to say good by the it would just be kinda like a A form of manipulation to let you down easy

Like I said, I'm confused to.
Because I don't get why he's actually stopping
. I wouldn't stop if I was him
So there has to be a reason for it

[blueonblack22]

He’s doing this because:

1) he’s struggling to get the women he “really” wants and she’s a backburner.

and/or

2) he feels bad for not being physically attracted to her.

Either way she’s got to respect herself and get rid of this guy. @septemberintherain if he really had something for you it would be VERY clear at some point earlier.

Some guys do have the self control to not make it so obvious but they are generally nowhere as good as women when it comes to keeping a poker face.

Yes I know you are really attracted to this guy but it’s not going to end well. Even if he decides to go further then friends it won’t last long and he will ditch you the first second he gets when something hotter comes along. Unless you just want a hook up (and most women don’t) then you will be really devastated and heartbroken when that happens. RESPECT YOURSELF.

Just flat out tell him:

1) it’s fine he’s not interested BUT you are looking for someone who is.

2) this isn’t fair to you and your feelings

It’s painful reading this. But one good takeaway from it all is you can tell any “modern” feminist bitch to STFU about the so called claim “the friendzone doesn’t exist”.

[Asker]

@blueonblack22 thank you for your input! We were more than friends before but then he shied away and said he didn’t know if he trusted me. Today we were talking about our days and I said I took a nice hot shower and he was all like shhh don’t make me think of you in the shower lol

[ohsheeT]

@Septemberintherain. Well, maybe one day he will say or do something to let you in on the direction he wants to take it

[Asker]

@ohsheet yeah, seemed pretty clear to me with the shower comment but he still hasn’t fully engaged…

[ohsheeT]

Is it a game . or what? I mean, he's getting something out of this by doing it the ways he's doing it

[blueonblack22]

@septemberintherain this guy is weird. It would be one thing if he was being mysterious in the early stages just to peak your curiosity (some men know and game women but knowing how they like challenging/mysterious guys).

But you have known him for a while and he shouldn’t be doing this to you at this point.

[Asker]

@blueonblack22 yeah it’s really confusing. I’m thinking he has some pretty serious trust issues or something because he’s just all over the place lol

[ohsheeT]

Well, if you walk away, you're not going to have any prob finding someone new that's for sure

[Caroline91]

From things you're saying in response to some of the answers here, it seems to me like you have bought into a whole lot of game playing. If you enjoy being "confused" in a "relationship" then stay where you are with this guy. If you would prefer a straightforward guy who likes/loves you and is going to leave no doubt where you stand with him? Go out and find that guy. As it is, you're wasting your time and energy when there are so many other things you could be doing.

[OneViewpoint]

Forget your question.

New question... Why are you letting him live rent free in your head. Go no contact on this jerk!

[Kelly6]

@septemberintherain change of heart

[Asker]

@kelly6 the thing is besides the names things are still pretty platonic. You don’t think it could just be his way of being friendly?

[Kelly6]

@septemberintherain
Depends on what kind of names

[Asker]

@kelly6 He’s been calling me doll which I told him I liked before and lovie..

[Kelly6]

@septemberintherain
If you told him you liked it, then what’s the problem?

[Asker]

@kelly6 it’s just confusing to me because that was before and now we’re supposedly just “friends”

[In_Trance]

Because he wants to smash

[Asker]

@in_trance you don’t think it could be just friendly?

[In_Trance]

Guys don't want to be friends.
Ever.

If you don't rail, he'll disappear

[seeyounexttuesday]

why are you still talking to someone who friendzoned you

[blueonblack22]

Just respect yourself and ditch this guy.

[Anonymous]

He’s trying to get laid probably

[Asker]

But outside of the nicknames our conversations are still quite platonic. You don’t think there’s a chance he’s just being nice?

[Opinion Owner]

It’s odd that he goes from let’s be friends to calling you names like y'all are dating , I think something could be up there , keep an eye on him.

[Asker]

Right? It was one of those situations where he was like “I think you’re hot but I don’t trust you”. It’s killing me though that then he calls me names like this sends me pictures of every little thing he does. I don't know doesn’t match up.

[Opinion Owner]

He sounds weird just saying.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah if he’s imagining you in the shower , he’s trying to fuck🤣

[Asker]

He’s so confusing… I lightly engaged and then he went sorta cold again?

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t worry about him then if he has what I like to call emotional constipation.

[Asker]

Haha yeah something like that. I asked him what was going on once and he was like “I still think you’re really hot and I like being your friend but I’m not sure if I can trust you” 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah he sound like an idiot

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

What?

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't got a willy then you don't get the silly.