Coworkers bully?

[Anonymous]

My coworker literally bully me. The guy threatened to punch me in the face and nobody cared. He told another girl, who laughs at me because I am quiet, to run me over with carts. I am literally just a quiet chill girl I do health and beauty at the grocery store. Like people are psychos.
I guess I just try to find a new job. He is mean to me everyday.

[SteveSmith1985]

No, don't let co-workers bully you into quitting. That's bullshit. You are going to have to stand up for yourself. Luckily, that shouldn't require you learn how to take a punch.

You work at a place that is either a publicly traded company. Or an owner.

No business wants their employees feeling bullied. They won't tolerate it. They have all sorts of complaints procedures and shit, I'm sure.

Use any tools you need to, so that you keep your job, and don't have to put up with feeling bullied at work.

You do something about this. You really should. This isn't right, and you shouldn't be driven away from anywhere by a bully.

That is one of the advantages of being an adult. You don't have to even pretend this shit is ok. It's not. The tools are there for you to handle this. You have a right to not deal with this at your workplace. You need to speak up for yourself. This is wrong. But if you don't speak up YOU lose your job or have to put up with being bullied.

I hope you stand up to them. You're not in high school. I know you may not have been "an adult" for long. You may not even feel like you truly are an adult (maybe you do. I don't know you).

You are however, an adult at work. I don't care if it's part-time or you're also in school or whatever. You are an adult at work. That's what this situation is about.

No adult at work, should be getting bullied. I promise you, that somebody will care, if you speak up and take it as far up as you need to.

You're not important to the company you work for. That's why they don't pay you more than they do. What they do care about are the repercussions (of various kinds) of allowing your problem to remain unaddressed. It's not something the "big boss" will allow to continue. For economic reasons at the very least.

I think though, it'd make anyone feel it was wrong; to hear this is how you feel at work. Someone should care for human reasons too. Either way. You can do something about this. I hope you do.

🙂

[Hassaniscool]

Not simple as it sounds

[SteveSmith1985]

@Hassaniscool I can totally concede that may be true. I don't see how it's not something that you can get dealt with, if you're willing to go to the mat for it. I'm not saying you're wrong... I just would need to know more about what you mean. What is it that makes you say that?

[Hassaniscool]

You might lose your job, and many things

[SteveSmith1985]

@Hassaniscool

I'm not sure where you're located, but that's not true in most places in North America. The only way something like that would happen, would be if it's a mom-and-pop owner-operated business.

Otherwise, that's not true. False fears of exactly what you said, is what often keeps people from feeling they can speak up. There are all kinds of labor laws (not to mention company-specific policies and procedures signed-off-on by lawyers that a company commits to; in terms of providing a safe and harassment free work environment).

So it really is as easy as it sounds, if you're willing to do it. There are so many different reasons that losing your job and other reprisals aren't as easy as they seem. It's not worth the headache unless the "big boss" personally doesn't like you, and is willing to do shady-shit to make sure you lose your job. Again, that is only in a mom-and-pop owner-operator type situation.

I'm gonna stick by my original post. (no offence, and no hard feelings. I'm not trying to be a jerk, or pick a fight. I just, disagree)

🙂

[Hassaniscool]

Bullying is not under federal law unless its someone with protected characteristics

[Asker]

what are protected characteristics

[Hassaniscool]

Google it

[SteveSmith1985]

@Hassaniscool

Dude... obviously "bullying" isn't going to be written into laws or policy. It's the specific behavior that you complain about.

Getting punched in the face is protected everywhere.

So is talking about physically harming your co-worker.

You don't know what you're talking about man. What would you suggest?

You come by and say it's harder than it sounds. I ask why, you have a vague answer about losing your job.

Now you come back to say that the word "bullying" isn't a part of law or corporate policy. No shit. But the behavior is covered. They just don't refer to bullying. It might be "ongoing harassment" for example. Regardless, getting punched in the face at work is something anyone should complain about. What are you trying to do here exactly? What is your suggestion? That this girl should quit her job?

[Hassaniscool]

I'm not suggesting that I'm suggesting lawyering up

[SteveSmith1985]

@Hassaniscool

@hassaniscoolI can absolutely get behind that. I just don't think it's necessary unless you find some problem going through the regular complaints process. If they're not acting on your complaint like you expect, then for sure lawyering up makes sense.

[ohsheeT]

That is bull shit. Is he your boss? your eyes say your quite to and don't bring attention to your self. Do you like your job? Why should you be the one that Quits. He the one that doesn't belong there

This is wrong for me to say this. I hate people like him because he does what he does because he know your not going to fight back and he won't do it to people. That won't put up with it. Because he puss and know he will get his ass kicked.

Ask him one day if he really enjoys treating you the way he does. If he says yes. Just smile. And say good. My brother is going to love that

And if he says what. Just say oh nothing I've said way to much Already. And that will drive him crazy. Because he thinks something is going to happen and since you stopped where you did and gave no details it will mentality make him sick everyday. Because he does no what is going to happen or when

[sage2021]

I guess bullying people extends into the workplace. Someone needs to tell him "Ok, you're an adult now, it's time to stop being a bully.

[alice55]

You're in a very weird company, I also had weird coworker but no to this point

[Sevenpointfive]

why does he want to punch you? he probably just likes you and doesn't know how to act around you. he wants to talk to you. if you want to really surprise him. say this to him the next time in front of everyone.

"If I let you kiss me, will you get out of my way"? (obviously, DON'T!!)

He'll be so thrown off by this incredibly confident defense. He will turn red and I am pretty sure he'll leave you alone and start talking to you like a person instead of a target.

[Surely]

If you work for a ma and pa store.. there isn’t a lot you can do. Without going to law enforcement about their threats. If you work for a chain store. There probably is a HR department that you could file a complaint with. The more witnesses you can have stand with you the better.
Depending on the management of the store. They may not be sympathetic to you.
Be careful on whatever you choose.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea he sounds like a coward, picking on the quite girl, bitch nigga move ngl, maybe finding a better work environment wouldn't be a bad idea

[Spencer10]

Is there an HR department you can discuss this with? You should not be the one to leave.

[Hassaniscool]

Hr is not your friend they protect the company

[Hassaniscool]

Hr will screw you over

[eagle1951]

My daughter is or was quiet and put up with bullies for 12 years. On nights, just 6 months ago, her and 3 other girls got together, turn him in, wrote him up, got the union in on I, t and two months ago they fired him

[bowenw]

Try to record some of what is going on and take it to the sore owner or most senior manager.

[MannMitAntworten]

You haven’t filed and HR complaint against this individual?

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd take this to my boss and HR you don't deserve this. Plus it's your bosses responsibility to provide a safe environment for you to work in

[Rohaan2020]

People are mostly mean to quite people who mind their own business

[Anonymous]

Kick him in the balls
See if he is still tough
Careful, he may kill you for kicking him in the balls.

[Jay-_-]

L advice 😂

[NathanDavis]

manager, supervisors or bosses, directly

[Staximus]

Did you tell your boss?

[fish5505_87]

Leave that Job, F-Him, and her! Good luck.

[vj0090]

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