Why would a guy downplay knowing you and leave your message on read after sending a nice message to him?

[Anonymous]

I understand he’s married and the message was very nice I meant to harm just showing gratitude during a time I was a loner and he was kind and wishing him well wishes

but how he treated me hurt my feelings.

[spartan55]

Please stop posting about this and let it go. You have plenty of good opinions from the previous times you've posted about this. Follow them.

[Asker]

Shut uppppp

[spartan55]

Okay, crazy lady.

[Asker]

Yo mama

[spartan55]

Lol... 😂 😂

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Because if he replicates this only he will be in trouble, you don’t have to express being thankful to him, it’s enough to feel it

[Asker]

In trouble for what? I haven’t said anything inappropriate

[SAMI_DABBAB]

If his wife gets to the bottom of this the jealousy alone is going to cause issues and you surely don’t want to be responsible for that

[Asker]

That’s very true… I don’t want her to feel any type of way and looking back I was wrong and I think deep down I was looking for closure or some type of validation through acknowledgment

[Asker]

But he was interested in me first during camp … he was the one that was friendly.. he was the first guy that called me pretty, he paid attention to me when no one else did, changed the page on my book when I couldn’t see the board.. he was just very kind to me and he had his sister try and talk to me and his mom do car pooling because his mom all of a sudden talked to my mom and they exchanged numbers to carpool.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I’m happy you have such good memories with him, but at this stage you should be extra careful for his own sake, he probably also feels grateful to have memories with you but cannot really express that now, be happy for him and I’m sure nothing will make him happier than seeing you also be happy and pursue your life

[Asker]

I did something bad… I called him a jackass and went off on him because I felt he was being rude…

[SAMI_DABBAB]

You got emotional, these things happen, I’d say leave it at that now and you’ll get a chance to apologise and take about this in the future

[Asker]

Well I was upset because he follows my cousins and he doesn’t know them.. he followed them in the past but when I tried to follow he didn’t accept it… so I let it go years ago but I went off and blocked him…

He did respond after I called him a “jackass” and he responded with “camp?” … like that whole nice message and that’s all..

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I’m missing a whole lot of context and backstory so I can’t really give you anything useful, all I know is that since he’s married you should be a good person and not jeopardise his personal life

[Asker]

There’s really no context we were teens and I just wanted to thank him… I did tell my cousin about him and bc I didn’t have a facebook I told her to look him up and for years they had followed eachother then he started following my other cousin who is on my dads side and she said she didn’t know him … so I just felt a bit hurt

So I let it go and didn’t think about him anymore then He popped up in my people you May know right at the time him and his now wife bought a house and started a family

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Your cousins shouldn’t be on your mind, he knows you and not them

[Asker]

But he followed them and not me

[SAMI_DABBAB]

You can only be mad if he actually talks to them, otherwise a follow is very insignificant

[Asker]

But overall it feels like he was jerk to me and that I was insignificant to him… after he made me feel like I mattered.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

We can never be sure that this is the case, and again simply following someone doesn’t mean they matter and you don’t, you’re letting a fairly nothing situation get into your head, it’s best if you don’t assume negative stuff

[Asker]

True but him ignoring my message that was kind hearted really did sting I don’t understand why he left it on seen and only responded when I called him a jack ass… the reason I take him following them personally is because he keeps me at a distance especially when he didn’t accept my follow in the past but my cousins can follow his life… it just feels like a blow. From making me feel like I matter to making me feel like I didn’t

[SAMI_DABBAB]

He could have been planning on responding at a later time until you offended him, but let’s not side with him, he definitely could’ve handled this much better than he did, as for your cousins they just happened to be in this position, it still doesn’t mean they matter or you don’t matter.

If you feel so hurt by what he did you can go all the way and actually hold hatred for him and not want to talk to him ever again for making you feel insignificant, but you know this will only hurt you, we don’t want that.

[Asker]

I was triggered because after I called him a jackass that’s when he replied with “camp?” And I said yes your kindness was impactful.. he left it on seen for hours

That’s when I responded “ where else would I know you from. The circus? 🤡 (referring to him as a clown) you’re really playing on my top and downplaying knowing me. Please don’t take my kindness for weakness. You follow half my family.. weird. I’m in a relationship and I apologize if you thought it was something else

(I’m not in a relationship but I felt the need to say that) then I just blocked him

But I was hurt for sure

[SAMI_DABBAB]

That’s one beautiful mess, you’re better off, there’s nothing to fix here, if he reaches out at some point consider apologising to each other and moving past this but otherwise you shouldn’t reach out to him if it’s just “camp”. Fuck the camp

[Asker]

What do you mean by one beautiful mess? Lol

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Don’t mind me I barely make sense when I speak

[Asker]

No you make perfect sense I just thought you saw beauty in this lol 😂

But in your opinion why is he treating me like this?

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I’d be assuming if I said anything, I just know you would be doing much better if you let this go, I don’t know much about you but I’m sure it’s not a situation where you need his validation anymore

[In_Trance]

Stop posting this you troll

[Anonymous]

He's married.