I was rejected:did he actually not like me?

[shaemac]

So I liked this guy, we only had a few interactions and it seemed he was attracted to me too. He would linger around to say goodbye to me and ask me questions about myself and visa versa. We would also have prolonged eye contact. So I mustered up the courage to ask if he was single. He said yes but that he was separated and it was very complicated but if thinks were sorted he would and added that he did find me very attractive and appreciated me asking him. I felt stupid after and bad so I approached him later and said that I felt bad for asking and didn't want to make things awkward. He said no it won't be awkward. I told him I really liked him and he said he liked me too ( but looked to the side) I think he was lying but explained that it was because of his situation again. I told him he didn't have to sign out before he left ( i didn't want to see him cuz im hurt) which makes him have to see me whenever he's on site (he's a contractor) but looked sad when I said that. Later when he left he came to sign out and smiled and said goodbye to me. I feel like he didn't like me at all and is just trying to be nice and I feel stupid for asking.

[silvermoon84]

“Separated” is a grey area in my opinion. It implies he’s basically single in the technical sense but since his divorce isn’t finalized, he’s still married in the legal sense. He might have liked you, but you dodged a bullet. I’m sorry this happened, but he should have waited until his divorce was finalized before starting something with you or anyone else.

I’ve had guys hit me up on dating apps and then tell me they’re “separated”. I tell them to either finalize the divorce or kick rocks (of course I say it in a nicer way of course but that’s basically the gist of it).

[MasterKS]

@silvermoon84 you dodged a bullet. perfect analysis!

[shaemac]

It just stings a bit, I feel like he didn't really like me but was super excited to hear me ask if he was single lol

[silvermoon84]

I know it stings. It will for a while but I think your best bet is to let him go. It will get easier, I promise. But he’s the bad guy in this situation, not you. I don’t understand why men (or women) can’t wait until they finalize their divorces before looking for another person. Even if the wife already moved on and found someone else, it’s no excuse. Also, if she found out and decided to be a bitch, she could legally accuse you of being his mistress. Definitely a bullet dodged.

[HollyK21]

What you’re doing here is the equivalent of licking your wounds, and you should really stop it. He already told you he liked you, but whether or not he meant it doesn’t matter because at the end of the day he just isn’t in a place where he wants to pursue a romantic relationship. Confessing feelings to someone is always going to be a gamble, you took a risk and although it wasn't fruitful at least now you have an answer. Please just make peace with the result and move on.

[bowenw]

You have no reason to feel stupid. I expect he felt very flattered that you asked if he is single and told him you like him. If you don't have those kinds of conversations with people of interest you may never meet the right person.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[MasterKS]

You dont know much about seducing a man? LOL

[shaemac]

That doesn't answer the question

[MasterKS]

@shaemac i find you acted low confidence, otherwise he be more clearer.

[MasterKS]

@shaemac followed you.

[shaemac]

I didn't act low confidence, I asked him?

[MasterKS]

@shaemac seriously 30 years old?

[jazzy34]

I’m in very similar situation. Try not to overthink this. I believe he was telling the truth when he told you he liked you, but you don’t know his situation. Don’t feel embarrassed or stupid. You very bold when you told him you liked him. You miss out on all the shots you don’t take. 😊