Do guys like it when you talk them through it in the moment?

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard mixed opinions. Some people say it’s a turn-on because it shows confidence and makes things better, others say it could feel like too much. Genuinely curious what guys think — do you prefer being guided, or do you just want to do your own thing?

[kmg9150]

I dont think I have ever been talked through the moment but I definitely have made it clear that if its something they are not enjoying then speak up. If its something they like and I change it up to where its not as pleasurable, speak up. I had an ex one time that didn't want to say anything about it hurting to much when we were trying anal. I asked if she was ok she she said yeah, but I could see it in her face, in her eyes that she wasn't miserable, so i proceeded to pull out, we went to different bathroom to wash up quick and when she came into the bedroom laid on and asked why i had stopped when she said she was ok. I told her could see that she wasn't, and that I can't continue unless she's content and enjoying it regardless what she says. In the bedroom my focus is in her… my pleasure comes from their pleasure…. If she tried to “talk me through” everytime it would be an issue just because it would be annoying, like i was 2 year old. But I have no confidence issue at all in the bedroom.

[jahaims]

To vague of a question

[BarryLiverstone]

Which moment?

[Asker]

Any sexual moment.

Etc does feel good that type of stuff

[BarryLiverstone]

Regarding it being mixed, just don’t fake it. Dirty talk, moaning, talking through it is ok. But if you are auditioning for a porn and reading a script that’s not as fun.

Makes sense?

[BarryLiverstone]

Overall I’d encourage my partner to speak up. When I masturbate that’s a solo activity. So when I’m intimate with someone I’ll speak up and want to share the pleasure with them. If she was silent the whole time I’d worry something is wrong

[BarryLiverstone]

Im guessing if your partner was silent the whole time you would also be worried?