I told a guy I was attracted to him, should I be embarrassed?

[Anonymous]

I am reflecting on a situation that happened 5 years ago. I was a good friend of his and was also a few years older than him. I told him that I was attracted to him, he seemed suspicious. Then he never really said anything else after that. I decided he wasn’t interested and went my separate way quietly. We haven’t talked for 5 years. He got married since. I still feel embarrassed because of his lack of directness.

[Anonymous]

You have no reason to be embarrassed it's normal to feel embarrassed by situations involving rejection, awkwardness, or perceived social missteps.

It takes courage to be vulnerable and express your feelings, especially when you are the one making the first move. You should be proud of yourself for taking that risk, regardless of the outcome.

At the time, he may not have wanted to lead you on or risk the friendship by giving a direct "no". This is a common reaction when someone feels caught off guard and doesn't know how to proceed.

[Asker]

Yeah, I get it. However, I think it would have felt better if he would have just said “no thanks, I’m not feeling it”. His reaction made me feel ashamed that I mentioned it, and I still think about it sometimes.

[slatyb]

No, you should not be embarrassed. If no one ever said anything, people would never get together.

[Nikki1989]

No, not at all. You got it out of your system.

[beenherebefore]

There's no need to feel embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Never be embarrassed by sharing your true feelings.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Alex-Snow]

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. He should appreciate your compliment. Do you still like the guy?

[Asker]

No, but and he’s married. I just think back on it with embarrassment sometimes.

[In_Trance]

It was 5 years ago...