If you no longer plan on making the same mistakes the past is irrelevant and doesn’t apply to you anymore?

[Anonymous]

I noticed this when talking to some people about times I fell short in life I’ll say something like well I’ve already messed up. They respond with man forget that as if it’s irrelevant and hey you don’t do whatever it was anymore so that means it doesn’t apply to you anymore. So I’ve started to just respond to people who ask questions or maybe asking because they heard some gossip. Even if something was difficult for me as soon as other guys come around nah I got it man I just push through even tho 2 seconds ago I was kinda breaking down. I respond with nah I don’t do that or I don’t know even if I’ve made that mistake in the past I look at it as moving forward.

[Hardon-Collider]

Yes and no.

Avoid the framing of "forget it". Absolutely do not try to forget it. Otherwise if you tell yourself "forget it, I'll just do better next time" then the next time the mistake happens you won't just forget it, but you won't even notice it, let alone be bright enough to see it coming beforehand and dodge it.

You must try to remember it. But you won't remember it anyway. Just like you don't remember learning each letter of the alphabet as a child. Yet you do know each letter, and that's because at some point you told yourself "i better not forget this event."

You learn the lesson by vividly experiencing the event. But the event naturally gets forgotten once your mind is finished extracting its lesson.

In fact, it only stings because you're unprepared to face the challenge again that you failed previously. Vividly reviewing the mistake in your mind repeats the learning process without you having to repeat the disaster. And in a sense, the more the memory stings, the deeper the lesson is being cut into your character.

Once you learn to handle that challenge whatever you failed at first, the old memory will feel so insignificant you'll have no other option than naturally forget it. ㅤ

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

When people talk about their regrets, it’s often because they still carry the guilt for it. That’s why they’re telling you not to mind it, because feeling bad doesn’t help you.

[Hardon-Collider]

Right. Regret is just like pride. An egotistical stubborn refusal to learn. An imbalanced use of luciferic imagination, wishful thinking: thinking that the effect can be changed without altering the cause. Like pride is an ungrateful claiming of the effect without thanking the causes, so is regret a failure to see that the effect was inevitable given the causes. Both are out of touch, and myopic to the cause and effect relationship.

Still, when you make a mistake, you have to stop to reflect and even feel pain sometimes.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I think you can just call pride the source of shame and be done with it

[Nikki1989]

While your future is not determined by your past mistakes, the past remains relevant because it provides the data you need to ensure you don't repeat those mistakes.