Why would someone call you and then just do their work silently?

[Anonymous]

I've a very good friend. We share a lot of life views and talk a lot often. However, I never understand one aspect of his behavior—he sometimes calls me/ I call him and he talks a few words. Then he would go silent, just keep doing his work or go on his post-dinner walk but won't discontinue the call either. In person too sometimes he'll just tell me to sit beside him and then he keeps doing his work. Often when we're talking, at times we're just silently sitting or standing beside each other. Is it normal? He doesn't do it with anyone else.

[HollyK21]

So what elements are in place that makes you two just friends?

[Asker]

The fact that there's hasn't been a confession yet, lol

[HollyK21]

Gotcha, I ask because usually with opposite sex friendships it’s rarely ever fully platonic from start to finish unless there’s certain elements in place. Elements such as sexuality, looks, one (or both) already being in a relationship, or distance. Other than that, I’d say that if you’re both at least conventionally attractive then there’s really no good reason for one not to fall for the other. It’s easy to happen since there’s already the elements in place for a relationship: you talk every day and make it a (maybe subconscious) priority to do so. You hang out, have similarities with certain hobbies, you’re fond each other.

I ultimately say all this to say — we can’t give you this answer, it’s a conversation you’d have to have with him, and then decide what comes next. But there’s no good reason not to like each other or pursue a relationship, and if there is then you certainly don’t wanna have those lines blurred. If he’s trying to show fondness or interest then I’d say it’s time for an adult conversation.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sounds like body doubling. Is he neurodivergent?

[Asker]

Oh, I didn't know about that possibility, I don't know if he's neuro divergent.