Why do men complain when we choose attractive men as if they would go for ugly women?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Here's the problem: the more physically attractive a man is, the more likely he is to be very selfish and self centered. Such men have endless options with women and they know it, so most such men have zero respect for women, because women will break every one of her rules and standards to be with him. Then, when she finally realizes that he doesn't respect her and doesn't care how badly he treats her, she inevitably blames ALL men.

Even worse, if she has men in her Friend Zone, she will go cry on those men's shoulders about the hot guy (who they warned her about in vain) hurt her. The guys that aren't good enough to date have to console her because she went against their advice and dated the hot guy who treated her like shit.

Everyone appreciates beauty, and we all understand that, but most men don't choose women strictly based on looks - yes, a few definitely do, and men have little sympathy for those men when it goes wrong, and they don't blame the woman, they blame the man who chose her, because she didn't change.

It's the same with men: nearly all really attractive men are selfish and self centered and do whatever they want without caring about who gets hurt by them. They don't suddenly become jerks, they always were jerks. But women never take accountability for their choices and expect everyone else to both be sympathetic and to accept the blame for what one class of men did to her.

Every woman thinks that she is the rare exception to the rule, and will be the one who wins when everyone else who follows that path looses, because she was told that she was special and could have whatever she wanted.

Men don't ask what is possible, because almost anything is technically possible, even if the chances are astronomically low. Men ask about the LIKELIHOOD of something happening - what's the percentage of success? Because we understand that 5% odds of success are absolutely terrible, and 1% is abysmal, and 0.0000127% means it's basically impossible. But to so many women, if it's possible to win, no matter how terrible the odds, she will go for it, and is still surprised when it fails.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A lot of guys are better than women give them credit for.

A lot of women, especially young women, have an inflated sense of self due to the simp economy. Not to mention the favoritism they receive in academia and the workplace.

Men will have to work circles around their female counterparts just to earn the same if not less pay for the value they bring to the company. I have experienced this myself, before anyone tries to argue. Especially in recent years. I’m reminded of all the TikTok women that basically had a spa day at work and aired it out to the world these last few years and labeled it “a day in the life.” I don’t have the luxury of spending my work day like that, that’s for sure. I’d have to take on 10 times the amount of work and then I find, the girl on my team got a 30% raise. I sat in all the meetings, I knew what she was doing. Ridiculous.

Men have a right to be frustrated. Not entitled. Frustrated. Tell a man what it’s like to live in his shoes. The world expects everything of him, and often gets nothing. Just more expectations.

And if we want to talk about attractiveness on top of all this, this could be any guys experience. A lot of reasonably decent looking guys out there are out there busting their asses for nothing because everyone and their mother wants the same 10% of men. Leaving a huge number of ABOVE AVERAGE men wondering what the hell is going on.

Like I said, a lot of women do not give men nearly enough credit.

Apulu_backagain · Accepted Answer

In this question I can say not all men, and also not always a man. It's more of an immaturity thing than gender thing. And this is a pretty broad question considering that attractiveness is subjective to everyone.

Like both my ex boyfriends were handsome to me, but they were conventionally ugly to my friends and my friend's boyfriends were not that attractive to me.

No one is ugly, unless one is an immature kid, no one dates only because the other person is book perfect. So there's nothing like 'we' choose attractive men, we choose what we like.

And again, there are immature females complaining about how good looking boys only have pretty female friends or stuff like that.

Complaining on other people's preferences is something very immature and definitely not a gender thing, like I said. So in a way this question is in some sort of way... sexist by targeting males when there are clearly females who do this too.

Everyone is entitled to their preference.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Hahahaha.

LMFAO….

Perfect question.

It’s a mystery of life, I guess. There’s a biblical passage about seeing the splinter in one person’s eye but not the log in their own eye… and that’s the best explanation.

ManOnFire · Answer

Slow down a minute. This question is meant to try to stir guys up. Most women are not choosing attractive men like you're trying to portray. In fact, most women are not choosing most of the men they meet like they also want to portray either. Many of them are settling for guys who are neither all that special looking or great as partners, and often going with men simply because they are bad dudes, no looks involved.

Let's not pretend women are still living by their fake "standards" anymore.

ohsheeT · Answer

You can look at it that way , because that's what they're doing But what they don't know they're doing is they are projecting a person themselves as they are not a confident person, they don't believe in themselves. And
Then they're going to cry about it  Because they want to hear, you say, no, no, no, no is a form of manipulation? But you have to read right through it , and see what the truth really is Just like a woman, a man can become anything he wants. But it takes dedication , discipline , strength , wisdom , not manipulation So anytime , a guy pulls that on you wants some sort of sympathy , don't give it to him , you're feeding right into his b*** sheet   If he doesn't feel like he's man enough or goodenough And just look at him and think we'll grow the f*** up then and become who you want to become  Quit feeling sorry for yourself

Purpleronnie · Answer

As your profile suggests your under 18 I’m gonna go out on a limb and suggest that your talking about “boys” and not men and not even all boys just one or two that this question relates to.

A helpful hint , men / boys being generalized as ALL the same in any way don’t like this anymore than girls / women do so you might want to re-consider attempting to place us all in the same category by how you phrase your question.

I for one have NEVER complained if a woman has chosen me as an attractive man or another man , clearly not everyone’s taste / rationale is the same.

Being attractive is much more than what a person looks like , most people understand that !

Joshydavid25 · Answer

You working on extremes.. First men complain about unrealistically standards of women and most women are not ugly, but normal looking, and most men are just fine with the normal looking woman.. They feel as if women are not fine with the average men, and they that only get with the top 10%.. That they cycle through the same few guys just so they could have that 6 ft, 6 pack, and 6 inch packing dude.. But I also think that most women are actually fine with normal looking guys.. The internet has just messed with both genders perception of each other..

Spencer10 · Answer

Just another double standard women experience. Men better get used to this... as women gain more power and money women will choose men more and more on their appearance too. Lets face it 21st century women freak many weak men out. They can dish it out but not take it.

snermcger · Answer

Not completely true.

I been hoggin, ain't no shame in that.

Man gets in a battin slump he needs something to kick start operations, set his mind in the right place.

Dockside bar ,1AM , she's drunk, you're drunk, sharin a bowl of long cold fries prepared at 8, before the kitchen closed.

Pink on the jukebox... IIIIII'M COMIN UP SO YOU BETTER...

Your eyes meet, and somewhere in there, under the mounts of frizzy hair, single gold-capped front tooth, round cheeks smeared with ketchup, she is your ride out of Palm City.

Sure, she's big, real big but that's a hill you are willin to climb. A sleigh you will captain tonight, as your basement dwelling ends.

Rhonda you dockside rubenesque dream...

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆 Men do not care if you choose a hawt guy. What men do not like is you b****ing about it later when he turns out to be a piece of 💩.😆 You b****es want sympathy. Why? Would you have sympathy for a guy who Chose Jenna Jameson? F*** no!😆 Porn Stars with a heart of gold do not exist.😆 And neither do hot guys that are the total package.

We don't care. If you're shallow that's fine just accept that being shallow also comes with a price. You don't do that and we're going to remind you when you're whining about it on here.😆 Welcome to reality, enjoy your stay.🍸😆

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've gone for an ugly woman or two because I liked their personality and I know of a number of other guys that went for ugly women.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6EqFVWzOfN8

I still don't know what my present girlfriend looks like but, I'd still marry her even if she wasn't all that pretty because I like her personality and we've become VERY attached.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

not really. I seen and personally know men who are 7-10/10 going after womren that are 6/10 and even lower when their options are depleted

women in the other hand can be a 4/10 and still demand men that are way above her league.

therefore women's stamdards are far less realistic than ours

SieghardWalsung · Answer

Lot of media aimed at kids romanticizes choosing people for "what's on the inside." Way too many young men take that shit to heart for some reason.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't care whom others go for. As for me, I have lived at the beach my entire life and am numb to outer beauty. As long as she is not morbidly obese and doing nothing to change it - I work out six days per week and know that a voluntary couch potato is not a good romantic fit for me - I do not care what other people think of her looks. I have dated tall and short, slim and curvy. I care that she is pleasant and fun, yet willing to tell me when I am wrong.

Smegskull · Answer

We don't complain that women choose attractive men. We complain that they lie about what they want.
You're right men wouldn't choose an ugly woman... but a man also wouldn't lie and say "I just want a girl who can make me laugh.

Men don't care that you are shallow, they care that you are filthy hypocrits.

Zack-Bann · Answer

A fair point  Life would be easier if both men and women understood that  No one wants unattractive  Many settle for it  But no one wants it

AviatorTom · Answer

Turn about is fair play. Many women complain when a man looks at an attractive women, claiming personality and intelligence should be what really matters. Well...

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because they are hypocrites, especially the ones who are average appearance or below (though luckily for men only a few are really below average)

OneViewpoint · Answer

The people who aren’t being chosen are always gonna whine about not being chosen.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't complain about it at all. Fair is fair. Elite people mate with elite people. I just try to be the best guy I can be and I'm proud of my character.

Ava-ryday · Answer

there is nothing as an ugly women first off. (not even ugly men except some asshole. ifykyk) but i get what you are saying so lets get one thing straight : everyone has different things they find attractive in someone. you can't change what u like. and other person should respectfully accept it. but if its after u guys in a relationship and u realise "oh no i am an asshole and i think someone else is attractive" then you are clearly the problem here mate.

Redbeardviking · Answer

Those that complain are too sensitive. It makes sense we all want someone we are attracted to. I believe the problem is that women tend to be much more picky when if they would give more men a chance they’d actually like them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have happily dated many women who had a plain and ordinary appearance.

RxR0954 · Answer

A lot of people blame other people for their own failures

DextroShade · Answer

The problem is that even the ugly women think they are 10s and deserve only attractive men so they reject their looksmatch.

genericname85 · Answer

cause women can't stop pretending as if looks won't matter for them, when clearly they do matter for everyone.

itsannalee · Answer

The same way like when women complain when guys choose a fit girl over fat women.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men don't know what they want. They just say they do.

Anonymous · Answer

Hi Imjustagirl15. It's more they feel they are willing to settle for average than women are than ugly

stratford · Answer

We're not all as shallow as that. The ones that complain are best avoided, regardless of gender.

Jackblue · Answer

That's true, you have a right to go for who you want to.

Anonymous · Answer

For me, it's completely understandable, I would never be with an unattractive, obese, nerdy, or too old woman.

blackeagle007 · Answer

A woman can make herself look attractive. As for us, we’re screwed. Not much we can do

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women complain when we choose attractive women as if they would go for ugly men.

Ben9500 · Answer

People try for the most attractive they can get

Deserter3 · Answer

Cause men don't gaslight women about caring so much about personality above all else

robocop666 · Answer

I dont complain as many women seen to choose me

ABC1x1x · Answer

All of your boyfriends have gone for ugly women.

BADGER44 · Answer

yes you should cause your not into looks. now are?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'm a golden cover boy. Ask an ugly chap.

FlaffyCheez · Answer

Because its not them

queenofcardio · Answer

Exactly 💯

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Jealousy.

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend has a facial deformity.

Anonymous · Answer

Nice troll

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