Guys, Why do guys always fall for the lost/clueless gal act?

Question

I was listening to a guy friend tell me about YET ANOTHER gal who basically mooched off him for months only to leave him high and dry. He is sitting there sipping a drink looking all pissed so I hollered at him to just stop playing the victim when this is HIS FAULT.

Why do I say this?

All a gal has to do is walk into a room looking lost and clueless and he thinks she's f-ing adorable. No matter what our group of friends is doing he abandons ship and ultimately vanishes for a few months (traveling and galavanting everywhere with said chippy) till she claims he's too intense or too stressful or too smart for her... and leaves him for a richer or better-looking simpleton.

He got all resentful of my synopsis of course... so I said, "Wait right here, ok?"

Went to the restroom, took off my heavy sweater, fluffed my hair up and did my best to keep a wide-eyed, gape-mouthed forlorn look on my face as I walked back outside.

Literally two guys who had arrived while I was inside doing my bimbo-morphosis asked if they could get me a dink or some food or anything I wanted at the bar... and my guy friend couldn't stop glancing at me, which I knew was bc I looked like I'd never seen my own shoes before.

WHY, GUYS?

Y'all are SO much better than this! I don't get it! Stop falling for the clueless chippy!

Updates

4 mo

I’m sitting next to Exhibit A now… Gal’s got a nasal whining voice — like nails on a chalkboard to my ears and I’m just trying to sit peacefully and enjoy my meal. The guy’s ALL OVER her chair while she whines on and on… “OMG, I can’t believe you FOUND this place… how did you do it?”

I said “Google” … it escaped me before I could stop myself. I suddenly can’t get out of this place fast enough. Her voice makes my eye twitch.

I guess a guy will tolerate anything if he thinks he’s getting some.

sawno · Accepted Answer

I think this has more depth than you notice in your post, especially considering the girl in your post is doing it intentionally as effectively a mating call.

So first up, lets say the girl is actually lost. You have guys who don't have a good opening now see an opportunity. They have a chance to proof their worth, help the girl and hopefully get seen. So naturally they do. In your example the girl may be smart and do it on purpose, but then really its just an elaborate mating ritual where she pretends to need help and sees who steps up, giving the opportunity to the guys who are looking for such an opportunity.

From the sounds of it though you failed that. You went for a bimbo look with gaping mouth. In my mind that registers as the typical dumb drunk slut bar girl kind of look that so common in easy girls. You see it constantly on TV that those are the girls who are there to just get their drinks paid, get drunk and have some sex. So now guys who want an easy girl step up and try to take advantage of that. I don't think those will be the same kind of guy, and I don't think those would have been in it for more than sex.

So I don't think its a falling for it kind of thing, its actually very logical if you think about it. In the first example the girl presents a situation which interested guys can respond to and they do hoping its an opening. In the second example where you did it you used bimbo looks which also communicates that you're there for a fuck. So naturally guys who are looking for a fuck noticed that and act on it. That doesn't proof they fell for what you were trying to proof, it just proofs that they thought you were in it for sex and were happy to oblige.

Orion84 · Accepted Answer

It's the male protective instinct.

I call it "Damsel in Distress syndrome" or "White Knight syndrome." When we see a woman who we perceive to be vulnerable, we automatically want to help her, save her, and/or protect her. We perceive her "weakness" as feminine, and it's endearing to us.

Unfortunately, many women know this, and take advantage of the fact that we're hard wired to react that way. Even if they don't purposely manipulate us, we tend to overlook obvious red flags because of it. It takes getting burned by those relationships a few times before we learn, although not all men do learn that painful lesson.

MisterWack · Answer

I’m a dude, I don’t function that way.

I will say, when girls “act dumb” or “bimbo-like”, I’m the total opposite.
Kills the mood, kills any interest I might’ve had.

Literally don’t go for those kind of ladies fellow dudes, ain’t worth it.

Especially of you send hints of “I’m not interested”, the ladies would go over their head and cross boundaries so you knew they are a red flag not worth dealing with and stay away. Airheads and playing the bimbo or being the bimbo aren’t good qualities to find in a partner.

Guys who find this sexy, you can find a normal woman then do this as a kink thing or something lol. Like do it behind closed doors, but have a woman with a head on her shoulders.

lightbulb27 · Answer

makes them feel good to rescue her. educated from cartoons and video games. see the game donkey kong, movie king kong, and the movie the wizard of oz... and while you are at it, enjoy a "ding dong".

Summeroflove · Answer

No it’s super cringe I guess it makes a man feel masculine. It’s the male equivalent to females who think they can change a man…. Fix him. Some men believe they can rescue a woman, save her as well as protect her from herself, and be the hero.

I don’t know…. I like women who are genuine. Not loud and obnoxious either… But being slightly abrasive has almost become a green flag.

Some men also like someone they think they can control. Yeah, many of these women don’t have anything going for them. I feel sorry for women who are genuinely ditzy I’m not saying they don’t deserve to be loved. But…. Many times it’s so painfully a act.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Well, I feel like different guys fall for different things.. Maybe a clueless woman probably seems easier to talk to and to get her number since she essentially needs saving in his eyes.. It just screams a good opportunity because it probably means that she's looking around for someone to help her or talk to..

I can see the appeal, but I don't care for the dumb bimbo act at all, but they do seem like more fun women overall.. Just fun to be around if you can get pass the fact that they are either not so intelligent or acting that way..

HawkPerception · Answer

The truth is (and there's research in psychology on this), men are generally attracted to women with around the same level or lower intelligence than themselves. Conversely, women are generally attracted to men with around the same level or higher intelligence than themselves.

It's all about the dominant, submissive dynamic between men and women. Men want to feel like the wise, protective ones in relationships, and conversely, women want to feel like they're protected and have someone they can turn their brains off around and trust their judgment blindly.

This is not saying that women are less intelligent than men in general (it's quite the opposite nowadays, especially with women being more educated on average and performing better in school), but that's just the dynamic that males and females tend to gravitate towards.

Theunfadeable · Answer

I got nothing but respect for my fellow man. We civilized the world and built society but when it comes to women our stupidity, never ceases to amaze me. It’s absolutely mind blowing to see these goofballs fall for the same game over it over and over again. There has to be some kind of Simp gene 🧬 😆.

I see productive men who I would be tempted to call smarter than me getting scammed by raggedy ass women, and they never see it coming. I’m a go with the Simp gene theory but society encourage men to act like Sims and allow women to get away with murder. I can’t say for sure but it’s usually very hard to watch.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I like to pretend I don't know because either she's going to fuck me or someone who's jealous of her will.

If you know what you're doing you can turn someone like that into an accessory like a Rolex or a nice tie.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Guys who lack confidence often assume that if they rescue a damsel in distress, that she is obligated to fall in love with him.

slatyb · Answer

Men don't always... men with low self-esteem accept behavior that an emotionally mature man would not.  Women enter abusive relationships for the same reason.

ManOnFire · Answer

This only happens to guys who are very inexperienced with women and can't tell what she is. And if he  is  experienced, that's even worse. But quite rare for men who know about women to let that happen to them.

Chayce · Answer

I mean if you're at least sleeping with the woman sure. Have fun & spend time. The thing is that you end up moving way too fast sometimes when you start spending a heap of time with someone.

Quigly · Answer

I wouldn't say I fall for the clueless act. It's a projection of innocence, which I know isn't true. Many girls jokingly do the clueless act in front of me Which is done as a joke. It's funny cause I'm not stupid and in most cases she laughs along cause she knows I'm not stupid.

SixFootSexy · Answer

A lot of guys like feeling "useful" to women. Unfortunately, a lot of women exploit this; like women exploit men for resources. Using naturally good instincts against a person.

Rangers · Answer

Because we wear love goggles which hang onto hope that all the warnings are wrong. Just like how you ladies ignore the warnings you get that a guy just wants to use you

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't know because it has never happened to me. What girls do to me is ignore me, which is why when a girl says hi to me, my heart skips a beat!

exitseven · Answer

looks can othat was never a turn on for me. I was more interested in personality and intelligence. Looks can only go so far.

snermcger · Answer

At this point in life, it is NOT an act.  Women are born lost and stay that way till a man sets their course.  Nothing more lost than some childless cat lady.

Fruitpunch1789 · Answer

NO. You may look like Sydney Sweeney, but I ain't holding your hand without an extremely good reason.

jshm2 · Answer

They don't.  Some guys are easily manipulated, is all.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we think woth our penises. Women can be very manipulative of men by feeding into our masculinity.

Mike_Hum · Answer

Men are programmed to protect women.

Staximus · Answer

They go for the low hanging fruit, the easy pickings.

Anonymous · Answer

I never do. I'm not into clueless or bimbo type of women. My type of girls are dominant, they take initiative.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I don't, but I have cover boy good looks at age 72 and a 160+ IQ.

worldscolide · Answer

Dunno I find it obnoxious

stratford · Answer

Serious question - do you like men?

Iron_Man · Answer

Because they want to get laid easy pick up

_Troian_ · Answer

I don't.. we just pump and dump them

dragoblack · Answer

I don't. Lack of intellect is unattractive to me

Smegskull · Answer

Men have not evolved to see women as a threat.

Guys, Why do guys always fall for the lost/clueless gal act?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Guys Said

Guys, Why do guys always fall for the lost/clueless gal act?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.