Will my ex-friend show up to our social group after our falling out?

[MissSunshine2]

I had a falling out with a friend but I made it clear that it’s up to him if he attends the same social group and I said I’d be polite. He’s tried to reach out on a dating app and has been watching me on social media.

He also hasn’t said he won’t go and hasn’t unfriended me on Eventbrite even though I unfriended him. I’m wondering how likely is he to turn up to the social group? I’m feeling nervous about it, as this is a new situation for me and the social group means a lot to me and I’d hate to spoil it for anyone else by not being polite, which is rude and foolish. However, it’s going to be hard to be polite.

[sage2021]

Since you haven't refriended him from unfriending him, I seriously doubt that he will show up. Why would he want to put himself in such an uncomfortable situation?

He's not going to stick his hand in that snake pit!

[msc545]

Well, really, why not? I don't think he's required to lose all of his friends just because things didn't work out with the two of you...

[MissSunshine2]

Good point. Like I said, you have as much right to be there as I do.

[msc545]

Yeah, exactly, I do appreciate how awkward this sort of thing can be, but perhaps it will lead to the two of you making friends together, and that would be a good outcome, I think.

[MissSunshine2]

Yes it can be when you’re new to it, especially as an Autistic person. I don’t know, but I do know that good manners are important and our social group and the people in it matter to me, a lot. I don’t want to screw it up by losing my temper and I hate being rude to people.

[msc545]

It's good that you've realized that.

[MissSunshine2]

Important, I suppose.

[Grond21]

I hope not. If he does, I really hope he doesn't make it awkward.