Why does a guy get aggressive, mean and scary when approached?

[Anonymous]

So i know he likes me but everytime I cime around to be friendly he scares the shit out of me

[Anonymous]

What does he do to do that? I've liked a girl so much she gave me anxiety and was basically afraid to approach her. I was very confident she was into me. I would want to talk to her, but I couldn't do it when I got close to her. I believe it was a combination of my personal issues and the time and my inexperience with women are behind this.

[Asker]

Did you get aggressive?

[Asker]

Sorry that happened to you

[Opinion Owner]

In person, I internally retreated in my shell and played dead. It's possible I could display signs that could allude to that. I was probably too aggressive in my other actions.

[Asker]

Bummer man. You might have to take it as a lesson learned and grow from it. Learn that women arnt going to kill you for just smiling and saying hi💜

[Opinion Owner]

If anything, I leaned the opposite of that. I don't nervous anymore, because I know I won't talk to them and they won't try anything with me. Women can also smile and say hi.

[Asker]

Thats a terrible attitude.🫤
You're shutting down and being miserable. Yes other women can say hi and smile. Hell... both genders are shy and nervous.

Is it too late to talk to the girl you mentioned previously? Let her know there's a misunderstanding. You were shy/nervous?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm waiting for someone to say hi to me, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm content, not miserable. I'm not the type to chase after any attractive girl I see.

I can't do anything with that girl, and she clearly doesn't want to hear an explantion. If she wanted something to happen, she should know she has to reach out.

[Asker]

You can't wait forever lol if your not nervous anymore go for what you want. Rejection is God's protection anyway and everyone gets rejected these days. You can't let that stop you.

I don't know about the other girl reaching out to you.. if she will or not..

You just sound like you're stopping yourself. Ask yourself if how you feel and how you're going about things now.. are they working? Are you getting the girl of your dreams this way?

[Opinion Owner]

I just don't have the energy or drive to pursue anyone on my accord currently. I hope that will change, but I'm not going to force anything.

I'm not betting on her reaching out, but she gave me a slither of hope that could be possible.

I'm not stopping myself from doing anything. The girl not my dreams is just someone I can love. I'm a naturally introverted person, and I feel like I have to fake or change who I am. That doesn't seem like productive way to get what I want. I've grown accustomed to being alone, so I can wait for an opportunity or not.

[Asker]

What did she do?

[Opinion Owner]

It's something pretty subtle. It is not enough for me to do anything but enough to induce paranoia. She mirrored one of her profile pictures to mine. This is the only publicly posted photo I have, and she knows I occasionally visited her profile so I would see it. Is this enough reason to hold on to any hope? Not for a normal person, but she knows she literally drives me crazy.

[Asker]

I dont know... it could be a coincidence or you guys have something in common. I too was a victim of over analyzing. At the end of the day he's left me on read🥲

[Opinion Owner]

Unfortunately, the context of the photo is too similar for me to be able to overlook. It's basically my photo but in her version of the the setting of something we have in common with her on the opposite side of where I was. I wish I could rationalize that it was a coincidence.

Being left on read is not a pleasant experience. Depending on your history, there are a lot more mature ways to handle it. I'm assuming it has read receipts so you know he got it.

[Asker]

I have it on disappearing messages. So when we've both seen the message it disappears. So my guess is he's seen it. Not sure if it expires or anything.

Well I guess you can count that as she's copying you. But if she was so into you.. why not her just reach out?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure how most social media sites work, so I couldn't tell you. I only really have used snapchat or regular texting. I did have to use facebook in school, but I don't know or care how any of them work.

The situation became messy. She probably is just as afraid to reach out as me.

[Asker]

How did it become messy?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't want to get into the details of as I'm missing details. From my point of view, I overstepped and she overreacted.

[Asker]

Ouch. Doesn't sound like something good. We'll i hope you find better maybe

[236color]

Oh Goddess save the poor girls turned on by dangerous men. This is a good way to end up dead.

[Tomislav7]

I don't know, maybe its a defense mechanism to keep others away

[NathanDavis]

could be PTSD...

[Summeroflove]

Sounds like you should move on that isn’t normal