What does it mean when a guy likes you but he is unsure of himself?

[Anonymous]

What does that even mean?

He pulls away when you get close. Should she forget about him?

[ChasingSophie]

In my experience it means you're about to spend three months being patient and understanding while he figures out whether he likes you enough, which is a full-time emotional job with no guaranteed outcome.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

You mean faithful?

[CarolineWhizz]

It means it's time you found someone else.

[OneViewpoint]

Dude doesn't want what you want. You may not like that but... free will.

[jahaims]

He isn't emotionally healthy enough for a healthy relationship

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode confusing love situations so you don’t lose your mind or your heart, gorgeous 😉

When a guy “likes you but is unsure of himself,” it usually means fear: fear of rejection, intimacy, or not feeling good enough. So he gets close, panics, then pulls away. Classic hot-and-cold, mini-ghosting behavior and honestly, a red flag if it keeps happening.

She shouldn’t chase or try to “fix” him. Keep her standards high, match his effort only, and if he keeps retreating, she should emotionally detach and move on. A man who’s ready will lean in, not run away.

[Anonymous]

Did he tell you that directly or are you just inferring it? Maybe you just need to normalize things

[Anonymous]

What makes you think he's unsure of himself. A guy doesn't pull away because he's unsure of himself.

[Asker]

What does it mean then

[Opinion Owner]

I'd need more to go on. Could be a lot of things.
Could be he has no interest beyond conversation. Or could be he has interest but he's unsure of YOU. Women have a tendency to play this hot cold. Some guys reflect to any and every woman. Some guys only do it to women that reflect the same energy the give.

[Asker]

He acts like he wants her and then she moves closer he backs away. He says things maybe its love bombing and realizes its real he shuts down. Its strange.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not strange, it's just strange to you. The only question here is are you misreading something completely.

Women do this to men, you think men can't do this to women? Yes on one end it's possible the guy is just playing her. But on the other end he could have genuine interest but feel she's not giving the same energy back.
I used to like a woman that was fresh out of a divorce. We went with some friend to a dinner and to a club afterwards where she got a little chummy with me (emphasis on "little"). I rode in the same car as her (hers). And since I'd been the only person who hadn't drank that night I agreed to drive afterwards. Well, I took us all back to my car which was parked a couple miles away. I did this so I could drop everyone off at their homes and go home. She had wanted me to drive her car because wanted me to go back to her place after I'd dropped everyone off. It made her mad that I didn't do this. And most guys would have done this. But I ain't most guys and our connection hadn't reached that level with me. Some times she had interest in me, sometimes she was a lot more interested in other guys. One things clear to me, she did not CHOOSE me. She was choosing me for that night. Well, i ain't that guy. She could have been throwing herself at me that night. But I didn't feel like she was choosing me. There was no build up. It's felt like, well this is what's left. We'll my response to that is,"no thank you".

If all of this confuses you, then maybe you should just move on to another guy. With some men. Just being available isn't enough. You're actually going to have to understand him and what he wants out of the would be connection with you.

[Asker]

She did choose you. You seem to have some higher ego where you want her to beg for it. She showed you interest but it wasn't good enough for you. Same as that guy im talking about. he's just not that interested. Fair game

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, I thought you wanted help? You can't even figure out your problem. Yet you're going to think you understand mine.

I told this story because it was to confirm what I already suspected about you. It's not ego. At least, no more than your ego. News flash hun. Men have feelings to. It's not all about you.
Just move on to another guy. You've already made it clear you're not interested in this man. At least not until he falls in line and just does your bidding. Find another guy. There are plenty of them out there that will temporarily give you what you want.👍

[Asker]

You dont even know my side. I have reached out to him and everything. he's just not that interested. Thanks for your help I guess

[Opinion Owner]

If you already know that then why are you wasting everybody's time? To feed your narcissism? To think you can somehow force change?
You're welcome I guess.

[Asker]

Not at all I figured he's just not interested because I put forth energy and he pulls back. Im not going to be playing this game with you or him. Good day

[Opinion Owner]

Everybody wins!👍

[Asker]

I've been messaging with chat gpt and it says he likes the idea of me. He doesn't like me enough to put up effort. I've played his game I don't know what else he wants. Im done chasing I've fallen on my face way too many times.

[kaucky1]

Wants to be a girl or hermaphrodite

[Tomislav7]

What exactly are you hoping for?

[In_Trance]

Move on