On social media, they say that men who dont find you attractive treat you like you don't exist. Of course, not all men, but I've rarely come across men who treat me that way, but i have seen men do it to other women who were actually skinnier than me. I thought they were the ideal type. For reference, my shape:
What do men actually find attractive about plus size women?
Oh, honey, it is like totally sweet that you are curious about what men find attractive, but your vanity is just dripping with the rot of envy. You are obsessed with being perceived, constantly craving the gaze of others to fill that hollow, ungodly void in your soul. It is honestly so tragic how you prioritize fleeting human validation over the eternal judgment that is waiting just around the corner.
Since you are so focused on the softness of curves and the allure of the flesh, the wrath of God is going to make you one with that obsession. Imagine your skin becoming impossibly, agonizingly supple as it stretches over your expanding bones until you are nothing but a pressurized balloon of weeping, gelatinous tissue. You will be squeezed through the eye of a needle by invisible hands, your beautiful, sinful mass forced through the tiny opening until your entrails bloom out like overripe fruit in a display of divine, visceral transformation that lasts for an eternity.
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Did you just copy and paste It took you less than 2 mins to type this out
She literally posted the same thing under my anonymous question about ear piercings, she makes the first sentence sound personal based on your question and then the rest of copy and pasted lol. She sounds insane
“On social media, they say that men who dont find you attractive treat you like you don't exist.”
So basically, because men acknowledge your existence, they must find you attractive? I’m not sure I agree with this logic.
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Im not saying it in a lustful way Not all the time, but as in, i caught their eye enough to acknowledge me. Like you walked down the street many times before, but today you noticed a flower and smiled then kept walking
Respectfully I feel like that’s a bit of a contradiction. By definition, to be attracted to someone means to experience a natural, often involuntary pull or draw to them. You said that on social media, they say that men who don’t find you attractive treat you like you don’t exist, and these men are treating you like you exist by acknowledging you. You’re equating this experience to noticing and smiling at a flower, making you the flower they’re taking notice of. In either case, the persons eye is being caught by something beautiful, and you’re the subject in question. So is this a matter of rephrasing the question to more clearly relay what you’re trying to ask? I mean even the question relays some element of lust — “what do men actually find attractive about plus size women?”. If the question isn’t about why you feel lusted over, then what is it?
The app changed my question a little I was asking what attracts men to plus size women A real-life example All of us are crowded waiting to get on the bus She's shoulder to shoulder with him and im in back of her He doesn't usher her to go on first I slightly move out but im still in the back of her and he turns around steps out the way and ushers me on first But im still slightly in back of her so I usher her on first. It's inconvenient and if he wanted to show manners, she was the closest woman to him, but he skipped her Why?
Gotcha, the app is fcking up a lot of titles lol. In all honesty, what if it’s not about you being plus sized at all? What if there’s no rhyme or reason? Like in the example you provided, I feel like this is somewhat of an over-analyzation of a swift encounter that could’ve been thoughtless on the guys end.
If you’ve always been body-conscious, then it becomes natural for you to take your size into consideration when things like that happen. Like a woman who’s always been taller than her female peers, or a woman who’s never put much into their appearance vs one that does. When something like this happens, it’s like you automatically take your weight into consideration when really you may not even need to at all. If we take attraction out of the equation as you suggest, then it becomes even more of a thing where it’s like what’s special about a guy treating you as just a woman? What’s plus sized have to do with it?
True, situations like this happens a lot and coincidentally most of the time it's another thinner woman being passed over and I think that's what made me think about my weight because it has been the biggest insecurity, but it also might of been the way I was dressed. Even still, i don't understand the inconvenience
“She's shoulder to shoulder with him and im in back of her “
Let’s say you ladies are to his left.
“He doesn't usher her to go on first I slightly move out but im still in the back of her and he turns around steps out the way and ushers me on first”
With this move, I feel like it would naturally be him allowing both women to step out first, not necessarily him gesturing for you to go before her.
“But im still slightly in back of her so I usher her on first. It's inconvenient and if he wanted to show manners, she was the closest woman to him, but he skipped her”
I guess I’m not really sure how this whole thing would be impolite. It seems as though he’s loosely gesturing for you to go ahead before him. Even if he looked at and directed you, I don’t see how it wouldn’t include her, I mean she’s right there.
If situations like this happen to you a lot, I feel as though you could be putting excess emphasis on your size and making it as though a guy must have some level of attraction in order to take notice of you and give you decent respect. I say none of this to make you feel insecure, or the complete opposite and suggest that you think very highly of yourself for using the word “attractive”. That’s not what I’m getting at, at all. I just think some of these instances could be you in your own head a bit more than need be, and I totally get it. I’m much more thinner now, but up until I was like 28 my weight fluctuated a lot but mainly stayed on the chubbier side. So I unintentionally took real life situations and inserted my weight into equations that may have had no reason to do so. It’s like a habit but one that’s better to break.
That's like asking someone to describe the taste of chocolate; it's deliciousness is undeniable, yet hard to articulate. I often just say, 'If there ain't no meat on the bone, I gots to leave it alone'.
They are attracted to the structural integrity required to hold their pathetic, trembling egos without collapsing under the weight of their own incompetence.
My opinion is that we're definitely less attractive than smaller women, but that men like women can go for someone with a pretty face, who is probably bigger than their ideal body type but whom they feel attraction to, just like some women.
Physical warmth and softness — literally. There's something deeply comforting about a body that feels soft and substantial. Many men prefer that over a bag of bones.
I find a wide range of body types attractive. Plus-size women can have a very sexy well-defined curvy feminine shape with more to hold onto and enjoy. They do not seem fragile like some women that are waifs.
The only possible thing that could be attractive about a woman who is that far overweight would be her personality, and that is not trivial, but it's not enough to make me want to hang around with her or spend time with her or date her.
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