I met a great guy, but should I worry that he drinks every day?

[Anonymous]

What to think…?

[Calyptomaniac]

Even if he seems perfectly functional, yes you should be concerned. Functional alcoholics are still alcoholics. Functional drug addicts are still addicts. I ignored this once and it only got worse. Whether he needs to or chooses to, it's a problem to do it EVERY day.

[TonyMetal___86]

I agree with calypto eucalyptus maniac hehe

[Asker]

What does it mean « functional » alcoholic?

[Calyptomaniac]

It means despite drinking, he is still able to show up to work and keep his job, pay his bills, fulfill all his responsibilities while so happening to drink every day, as opposed to non-functional ones who would be fired for showing up to work hung over or things of the like.

[Asker]

Ahh yes ok thank you, so it seems the case

[Nikki1989]

Yes, you should take it seriously. Loving someone with a drinking problem is genuinely one of the more painful experiences a relationship can hold — because the person is still there, still themselves in many ways, but increasingly unavailable in others. It tends to get worse under pressure, not better.

Been there, done that.

[Lesbologist]

I mean I've just recently quit... elevated liver enzymes, cholesterol, and protein... getting a liver ultrasound soon. I managed to be a happy drunk and not do damage to my social realm, but it still was taking a toll on my body.

[Asker]

Good that you care for yourself !

[Bricealan]

Yes, you SHOULD be worried about someone that drinks every day. That is definite red flag.

[Asker]

Yeah and I mean not just one drink 🥲

[DryGermanGuy]

Absolutely you should. I had to distance myself from such a person, despite knowing him for 30 years. These people are on a downward spiral and it almost never gets better just by itself.

[Anonymous]

He could be a nice but have you been
around when drinking even drunk
My dad was a Alcoholic he was mean
He died at 47 to early life end

[Asker]

Sorry for your loss :(

[slatyb]

Probably you should. What do you mean by "drinks every day?" More than one? You should definitely worry. More than two? Deal breaker.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s like one pint…two pints…and possibily more. :/ last time we met on Tuesday, he arrived at cinema late.. he was smelling alcohol (and u think not just one beer). After we sat at a bar and he ordered 2 whisky coke and took a shooter while I was not even drinking…

[Staximus]

That depends on how much he drinks. What you should be worried about is how often he’s drunk, not if he drinks everyday or not.

[Spencer10]

Yeah a bit... that is a red flag in my opinion.

[Asker]

Yeah me too :/ especially last time he ordered again right before to leave the bar

[Spencer10]

Maybe you need to have a frank talk with him?

[Asker]

Yess im still a bit reserved because it’s still early

[Spencer10]

There are ways you can discretely bring the topic up... but eventually you will need some answers. Best to find out sooner rather than later.

[Asker]

Yeah exactly. Especially, I noticed he was justifying himself about alcohol from the beginning while I didn’t make any reproach!

[LC75LC71]

If you mean alcohol, yes. Been down that road. And back up it.. Don't get involved.

[TonyMetal___86]

Drinking everyday is a problem, better be cautious girl 🍺🤪

[Anonymous]

Be worried if he can't go a day without drinking.

[Anonymous]

If it interferes with other aspects of his life, you should. I drink a lot and often, but I haven't had any issues stopping when I needed to.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it is.

[In_Trance]

Walk away

[beenherebefore]

Red flag.

[jahaims]

Stupid question

[Djkelly]

Yes you should