How can I become less intimidating?

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Okay I'm pretty,smart, nice, bubbly, sassy, outgoing, athlete, artsy girl with a little bit of attitude. And yet I still have do not have a boy friend. I used to think that it was just me but now I'm not s0o0o sure. One of my close guy friends told me that he would never approach me and when I asked him why he said that he it was because I was a little intimidating and also because I am really pretty . I Was wondering how can I become less intimidating and also what is a good way to meet some nice guys

Vyxzuw · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately your in high school, so the guys are going to me that mature yet.

That means they are thinking at a gut level (okay, so probably lower...)

This means they think that since they value a girl's looks, that that means that the prettier girls are better.

Thus, they think that the pretty girls will go to the best guys.

Then there's the other shoe, where you are not only pretty, but smart and whatnot. (As pretty on the inside as on the outside.)

You're a diamond in the rough and they all know it. And except for the jerks who don't really care about you, they think they are not worthy of you, and that someone else is.

Anyways, to start with, you may want to try dressing down. For instance, a t-shirt, jeans and no makeup. (I'm assuming you don't normally do this...)

I'm assuming you go around talk to people which helps with being approachable. (Such as saying 'Hi' to people who would not be considered in your circle.)

As for finding nice guys, you may want to keep this in mind. Nice guys will want to get to know you, and thus will 'stupidly' try to be your friend first.

With this knowledge you can do the following.

Become friends with people who you think are nice guys. (You learn whether you were right or not pretty quickly...)

Then try flirting with one that you like. (It's possible that the nice guy may not pick up on it, so you may have to become increasingly more obvious.)

That's the nice thing about guys, we seldom have a problem with taking a friendship to a relationship.

You may want to join some clubs. You said you were artsy, so try to find some club that interests you. And watch for the increased spike in male applicants to the club after you join. :P

The-Nash · Accepted Answer

Your friend sounds shy, lol, but however, (hypothetical situation, say you haven't introduced yourself to each other yet) I bet if you were to smile at him, make eye contact and say "hey" like you already know him a little - he wouldn't have too much of a problem being intimidated to talk to you. Ask him about that situation, see what he says. The thing is - you talking/introducing by just a little "hey"  First, like you would to a friend, would bring down a lot of the intimidation to a shy guy. Because a few things could happen, he's gonna feel welcomed to talk to you, and you're gonna catch him off guard from him thinking "what if I say the wrong thing?" or something like that. And common thing to do is say "hi" back, right? lol. Or just smile, and wait for them to say "hi", see if they do. Because a smile is welcoming in itself. And then by acting kind of like you already know the person (look at things about a person and see if you can relate to them, and ask questions even, it's what I do) and by doing that you'll seem more personable and less intimidating to approach and keep a conversation going.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I truly do not know how.

toguro16 · Answer

ur freinds probably right because I see really pretty girls that lots of guys won't ask out( unless the guys are on made and they have the cameramen with them lol), but anyway it doesn't help if all ur freinds are as pretty as you and you all walk together cause that's just so intimidating believe me. but you could do minor stuff so you don't look perfect to show guys you like to look good, but to a degree.. maybe a normal clothing or anything that would show ur normal and not some divine hot goddess I think would work.. as for meeting nice guys, try to find ones that like you on a more inside not outside level if ya know what I mean. oh and I like how you described yourself, you sound cool. please don't hate me for being honest.

i hope dis helps

sayWHAT · Answer

Guys who aren't over the top cocky seem to be intimidated by very attractice girls only because we think that WE'RE not what attractive women would want, so we don't seem to bother trying at all. Here,find a guy you like, and just talk to him. Once he feels comfortable and not "intimidated" by you, and once his confidence rises, he may ask you out.

Anonymous · Answer

try approaching the guy instead of waiting for him to approach you. if your really pretty, odds are that tons of guys will wish they had the courage to approach you, but only a few ever will. Keep in mind that courage isn't always a good thing. a lot of really great people are shy, and a lot of self-centered people are brave.

shes-a-lady · Answer

are you my twin or something?

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