My boyfriend said his friends come before me?!

[Anonymous]

I asked if we could hang out on fri and he said he is with his friends tht night than I said well I would like to spend a fri night with him once in a while and he said "well my bros come first"...so I said "You mean your friends come before I do? shouldn't we be equal?"

...and he said "well...they are my friends"...seriously

[Darkfairie17]

I can understand your side of things, I had a boyfriend who used to cancel on our plans all the time because his friends, well not just friends, anyone was more important than I was. What you need to do is have a talk.

It's fine for him to have friend time, but he also needs to give you time too. If he has plans, then he has plans. But if Friday night is free and you would like to do something, then he shouldn't be waiting around for his friends to call or ditching you when they call. He should make special days with you as well.

You are not taking away his friends by asking him for some of his time, you are his girlfriend and he chose to get into a relationship, that obviously has some time commitments involved, so he shouldn't be surprised. If you guys go on a date Friday night, he can still go out with his friends on Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or next Friday. I don't think asking for one day every once in a while is too much to ask.

You are important to and should be a priority to him.

[doctat]

Well would you put your best friend before or after your boyfriend? I understand.. Bro's before hoes.. He's known them longer.. You have to understand, girls come and go but your friends stay true :+P you can't blame him.. you just have to accept it or break up..

[porcupina8]

If he already had plans, I don't see why he should break them for you.. I definitely wouldn't ask my boyfriend to ditch his plans because I felt like hanging out.

Just make plans for another day.. really, it's not that big of a deal!

[InquisitiveJoe]

If he has a prior engagement, it is unreasonable for you to expect he would break his appointment with his friends simply because you say you want to hang out. Now if this is an ongoing gathering (poker, bowling, etc.) I'm sure you could ask him for an exception for a special case, say a school dance or a friend's wedding. But it is in your best interest to find a man who keeps his commitments. You want someone who says I will do "X" and then keeps his word.

If you guys are new in the relationship you are still getting to know one another. He knows and trusts the opinion of his friends whom he has most likely known for years. If you were married or even engaged, then you might expect him to break appointments with his friends for your whims, but at the moment that is too much to ask.

[gonyr]

bros before hoes is a real thing.

he should spend some time with you, but if he wants to go out with his boys on a Friday night, don't stop him. are you guys in college/live on your own? maybe meet up after?

[NothingGoldCanStay]

How long has he been with you? How long has he been with his friends? There is your answer.

[Asker]

We've been together for 2 years.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Well you should give him the freedom to hang with the boys. It is healthy.

[Asker]

I dooo trust me. I only see him 2-3x a week when the 'boys' are busy

[NothingGoldCanStay]

I get it... guess there is not much you can do. If he doesn't do it that much now then don't expect it to grow much. tbh.

[BlackStar]

In the relationship, it should be 50-50, let him have fun with the boys then ask if you two could do something together afterward or the next day. :)

[Anonymous]

That's mest up I'd dump his ass..he believes in bros before well you know

[Anonymous]

That's messed up. At your age it should be 50 50

[dudeman]

youre not his wife

[Anonymous]

dump the jerk

[Anonymous]

lol, oh wow