How do I stop seeking validation from guys?

[Anonymous]

I think and have been told I am attractive. I do get those "looks" frequently etc. But my problem is that I am so insecure now that I seek validation in the form of getting checked out/stares from guys. If an attractive guy doesn't look at me or just glances/walks past me all indifferent I start to feel not good enough and not pretty. What is wrong with me and how do I change this? :( :(

[Anonymous]

I had this a little too, self esteem dropped a little if a guy I found attractive didn't look at me. However these days if it happens, I go through a number of possible reason's why they didn't including:

-i'm not their type

-they must have a gf/already have pulled a girl

-didn't see me

-don't need to vye for a girls attention since they get a lot of it already

-he's good looking, but realistically he's not actually my type either

-a more attractive guy has looked my way before

-generally, guys don't approach me unless I've spoken to them before

I try to no longer conclude I'm not pretty enough.

[Jager66]

daddy issues?

[Asker]

I don't think so? I know I am deeply insecure though