How long do you wait for replies before concluding no interest?

Question

If a girl or a guy somehow contacts their person of interest (email, Facebook, text, phone, etc), how long do you think one should wait before assuming genuine NO INTEREST?

december1990 · Accepted Answer

Well first of all it all depends but for me it's a day lol because I'm an emotional person.. but you have to take in some factors:

For instance if the person you add, see's you as a friend, and you've never laid any moves out on them and have treated them in a friendly manner may not talk to you because they may assume what you have is a mutual friendship and they are probably going after other people because you never "showed" interest. Doesn't mean they can't possilby be interested.. but it means that you never made a move so they are practically ignorant that you like them so therefore its up to you to talk to them. Evne if they see you as a friend or your interactions are usually friendly they should reply back because that's the polite thing to do.

Also take into the factor of how often they use Facebook. If the person you like adds you on Facebook yet they're extremely busy and don't usually use Facebook but occasionally get on you can't expect them to reply within a day but if they completely ignore you time after time that may be a sign.

Also if you made it clear to them that you like like them and you message them to say "hey what's up?" and they use Facebook all the time and typically ignore you they probably aren't liking you *dunno* lol

But for me I think if somebody is a good person they'll message you back out of politeness and if they like you I think they will be messaging you first and not you messaging them all the time first plus if they like you they should usually respond whenever they have time.

one thing everybody should know is people don't always have a lot of free time nor do they think about Facebook.. so they may not get back to you because they are busy with work/school/ hanging out with friends so they may never get to your message, than its time to say hey in real life

or they may be pursuing somebody they like better or have always liked or they are already in a relationship

so its better just to say "hey what's up?" in real life and hang out with them as a friend and see where it goes in life

don't depend on email or Facebook or even texting, those are good tools but hanging out in person is better

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

2 days at most, I tend to drop one message during those 2 maybe 3 days but not a really long one, just saying I hope they are having a good day to let them know I'm genuiely wishing them happiness, and I usually just don't bother messaging any more if they can't be assed even spending one minuite of their time replying, not worth my time trying really. Just don't expect anything from others right away, I feel that is what a lot of people do these days is expect so much so fast and totally freak out if I don't message them straight away before they even know what they are losing. Had it before from guys, it would only be 2 or 3 min id not reply for and in those few min they have sent me 3 or 4 messages asking me why I haven't replied as if it took me forever, I'm usually put off straight away when guys do this as sometimes I can get a guy that starts yelling at me freaking out saying what I typed on my profile is a loud of crap and that I'm one of those girls who types good things as a "honey trap" jsut because I didn't reply to them within a few seconds... lol tlak about spoilt lol. I really don't expect too much from anyone any more as if I do people they act like total hypocrites by turning the whole situation on me when they expected too much as well, not sure where even socializing got so complicated but I hate it.

Tamikaze · Accepted Answer

Put it this way, the more time that goes by the less I would even think about that person. But, I am turned off by someone's lack of interest so it makes it easy for me to stop thinking about them.

If someone did contact me after 4 or 5 days and they did not offer up a reason as to why it took them so long to respond or they did not seem very interested in talking, I would recognize they had a weak interest in me.

planetearth · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for Facebook because if you're smart you're not using FB to manage your romantic relationships. Too much info shared there.

Text - I would hope for the same day but have made an ass of myself when I started to whine only to find out the girl had lost or phone had died the day before. Still may be an excuse, but I would think after 2 days the interest is not good. Most people check their phones, whether they'd like to admit.

Phone - If I leave a voice mail I'd expect a call back within a week's time. Although again if it takes more than two days to tell me they are busy for 2 minutes in a conversation, I'd highly doubt the strength of the particular person' s interest.

kholland65 · Accepted Answer

I don't exchange emails, so I'll refer more to texting and calls. Facebook is also hard to tell because some people can go weeks without logging into theirs. If I send a text to a girl, I would expect her to respond the same day, otherwise she is clearly ignoring me. It's not like you go an entire day without looking at your cellphone. However depending on the circumstances. If she texts me the next day and her phone died, or she was at work, or something like that then I can understand. Otherwise it shouldn't take you more than a day to return a 3min text, especially if you are interested in the guy.

Anonymous · Answer

From my experience, the longer the wait the better.

No matter what!

If you wait, a girl will think you were not interested because she was not good enough for you!

She will re-evaluate her interest if you have not contacted her.

If a guy calls "too soon" by whatever standard the girl considers too soon, he is dead in the water.

Some guys know this and wait a VERY LONG TIME to contact a girl.

I met about 5 women, and waited like 3-4 days to call or text. They were not interested at all and give little to no reply.

I left the country for 6 months and called again after and 4 of the 5 women were totally up for a date and to get together.

So...6 months only made a girl seem to want me more.

So to answer your question...apparently it is never too long for a girl to conclude a lack of interest.

Anonymous · Answer

Every guy is different I think, but because you said GENUINE no interest then I think between 4 days- one week. Some guys that are genuinely interested will contact the girl within one DAY. The ones that try to play hard to get but are still genuinely interested will wait a max of 3 days.

Life gets busy but if the guy is thinking about you throughout the day he will send you a quick message at least to let you know he is thinking of you. It's like the other guy said, people check their phones multiple times per day, there is no excuse not to contact you within 3 days.

WeaponZero · Answer

I don't wait for replies and I don't assume interest to begin with.  I go on with my life after sending the initial message and if I hear back, great.  If not, oh well.

Anonymous · Answer

idk I don't think like that. I know for me, I'm a busy girl. I have a lot going on in my life, a lot of friends and activities to give my time to. I don't have the time to just be sitting my my phone or on my computer so that I can reply to a damn text or an email with the speed of lightening or within two hours. When you're out and about, driving around with places two go, two hours is nothing. I get so annoyed when people get kinda whiny and they're like "You're not interested in me because you don't stop everything you have going on to text me within an hour or so when I texted you. Why do some people always have to internalize a situation and make it about them and whether that person is interested in them or not? Maybe that person just has a busy life and doesn't have a bunch of time to be sitting around next to their phone or computer.

Now if someone waits to reply to you for days or weeks, then that means they aren't very into you

Deepthinker25 · Answer

If a guy is interested enough, he will make sure to contact back as soon as he can, however guys try not to seem to on edge by conducting consistent replies within seconds therefore pushing the girl away. If he goes longer than 3-5 day without replying he probably isn't interested. but then again everybodys different

MrEM4N · Answer

If you text me on a Monday chances are I won't get back to you until maybe Friday or Saturday. After working 12-14 hours and getting off work at 4am chances are I'll forgot anyone texted me anything. Its only when the weekend comes around that I'll go through my phone and see what's up and plug back in to the social world.

Alexeiv · Answer

I'd say a week.

People tend to play games these days out of pattern.

And work ties into that.

If an unemployed girl isn't answering my text messages after I've sent two in a span of a few hours, then screw that bitch.

However if it's a Monday and she has a hectic schedule I'll wait a week.

But if you know the person always checks their phone then I don't know what the hell is going on.

Nashton · Answer

5 days...

call on 1st and 3rd day

with a voice message on the 1st day

5th day text message saying "Hey [insert name] , I tried to call you."

if nothing in 12 hours of the text.

i fade away and move on.

if I receive a call after

with a really good excuse then

i will make my actions as needed :/

Amorina · Answer

If they are interested than I would assume that they wouldn't make me wait in agony and would get back to me relatively quickly...

islands7 · Answer

F as long as it takes ... if they are worth it Life is cruel and often interrupts, then destroys impatient or weak relationships

lindsey1227 · Answer

It really does depend on the person. If they're on Facebook all the time, then it would matter. But if you two are older and only on once a month, and reply a month later, they could be very interested. However, I'd say two days gives you enough time to sleep on it.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

I'm kinda dense, so I'd probably keep waiting until it was more apparent in their words >.> hah. One e-mail or whatnot wouldn't be enough for me to assume no interest at all. Then again, I kinda assume no interest from anyone anywhere anyways :P

Ugliness · Answer

I don't wait for replies. I just offer replies to others and ask few questions.

Sure I'll get responses from my smart a$$ answers (including this one) but it seems like nobody cares about my questions. Why bother waiting?

Belgie · Answer

2 weeks if you're *certain* he got the initial contact (like, he wasn't on holidays or something)

rallz93 · Answer

In general, we often expect that person to respond immediately ( because that would mean she/he shares the same interest ) but often life gets in the way ..so one week is the best term..

Shpongolia · Answer

2 hrs.  I jump to conclusions and assume the worst without an immediate response

JonnyBG · Answer

I'm very very patient, but after a week I think the person would have had plenty of opportunity to reply. If I'm interested (or generally like the person) I'll reply as soon as I can.

yopyopyop · Answer

I think things have to be natural. So in my view, if after 48 hours I don't receive news, I'll assume there's nothing that's going to happen.

thehunter699 · Answer

Fair enough life gets busy, but it won't take too long to send a text of recognition or anything like that. My vote is 2 days.

idrumsowhat · Answer

Honestly it depends on how much they are on Facebook and otherwise. If often, then not even two days, if les frequently I give it 3-5 days, tops.

bassman · Answer

11-14 days and then  I conclude low interest...or possible no interest.

Elaine1 · Answer

Choosing two days. If there is a real feeling I can't do nothing in 2 days. lol

bellybuttonlint · Answer

2 days...since this site gets a lot of new questions in a matter of hours mines gets buried underneath with all the other old questions.

sunshineboy · Answer

If your sure they read the message then a week. A month max because by then they have to have read it or its a dead account.

kartoos · Answer

At times I get desperate otherwise I'm all chill..If someone doesn't reply then it's their fault they will be the one who would suffer!:D

sweet_18 · Answer

It depends on what kind of response we're talking about here. But generally, after a week, he is most likely not interested.

rotarymoon · Answer

1 week. Life can be busy sometimes.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Judging by the poll, women are impatient :P

Anonymous · Answer

5days or a full week. People are busy don't assume people will get back in a few days.

enlightenment · Answer

meh...few weeks or so

aggressiveneandertal · Answer

max. 2 days, depends on what I am waiting for...

Anonymous · Answer

one day then I move on

kaitlovesyou · Answer

I picked e because ik my life can be hectic

Anonymous · Answer

I don't wait very long

JustChris · Answer

4 days.

Anonymous · Answer

2 weeks. 14 days.

Anonymous · Answer

2 minutes.

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