Choose what messages you surround yourself with and focus on.
I recently invented an extremely effective therapy I call SMARTE: Suggestions & Mood and Affect Rejuvenation Through Empathy.
I empathize with pictures of attractive women who are displaying expressions of the mood that I want to feel. I use them as desktop backgrounds in a slideshow to increase frequency of exposures.
- Women because women affect me more. It's likely that men would work better for women.
- Attractive because I have learned that the effect is more pronounced when I find the woman's face attractive.
- The pictures are deliberately not sexual/sexy. The point is to feel happy.
- I haven't been in a relationship since I invented this. When I am, I'll replace these with pictures of my smiling girlfriend so she won't be jealous (plus, pictures of a smiling woman I love would make me way happier lol).
Relationships and depression
A woman thought she was unlovable because of depression
I've been in love and been loved. All my relationships have been great. I just don't let it affect my love life.
It's ok to feel happy being with someone, the happiest I ever feel is with a woman I love.
The key is to not make your partner feel like they are responsible for your happiness. It feels great to be a happiness in a woman's life. So be cheer-up-able! 😊
You can do the same. You are not unlovable. :) <3
Inb4 another idiot says “hurr durr, I think your idea would work better with actual women”
1.) Relying on someone else to make you happy is called "Dependence." They are not responsible for your happiness. That's not fair to them.
Imagine if every time someone wanted to be happy they would come to you and tell you to smile so that they can feel better.
2.) A picture can be selected to a desired mood. I can completely control the messages that I want to absorb. This control does not (and should not) exist with another person.