If life has raped you badly and you are on recovery, how did you manage to get on recovery?

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If life has raped you badly and you are on recovery, how did you manage to get on recovery?

DISCLAIMER

This is not a cure for depression (there is no cure for depression as of today in 2020). This is showing the way towards recovery.

I have heard several common methods how humans in a terrible and long life period were impacted with depression and despair and what they did about it. All of them are ineffective to me to say the least including religion/god and faking optimism (or as they may say "dancing during the storm") like these "everything will be fine (while fire burns in the environment)" pseudo-faiths. Or to imagine the voice of depression with a high pitched voice or a small monster. I have seen it all - "middle class problems" (derived from a rather insignificant matter saying "first world problems") as I call these.

For me those methods are no different than slapping "100% organic, natural, no GMO, no added sugars, no artificial aromas, no chemicals" labels on a Big Mac burger from McDonalds and then devouring it without finding it suspicious on any level and not expecting to damage your own health. Then you wonder how you became fat and why your heart is experiencing stinging pain. And the therapists are useless mailboxes for complaints about your life.

If life has raped you badly and you are on recovery, how did you manage to get on recovery?

To say how constant overwork, lack of sleep, lack of fulfilling wishes or fulfilling goals or that your wants (not needs - even worse if so) are not being met for a long time results in depression, that requires professional medical intervention is no different from telling me, that you will burn yourself if you touch fire.

No shit! Tell me what happens if i dip my hand into water. No seriously, go ahead!
No shit! Tell me what happens if i dip my hand into water. No seriously, go ahead!

We'll likely need a sign like this, that warns "Warning! Causes depression".

I may have found my somewhat functional coping mechanism (that is complementary to having money and the antidepressants, that I am still missing). Don't expect it to be a miracle for curing your depression.
Limited choices are better than no choices. Every day we land our choices. Some may expand more choices. Some choices may narrow down other choices. Some choices may expand further other and better choices.

If life has raped you badly and you are on recovery, how did you manage to get on recovery?

Snowball your choices into the right direction. Yes, that means you must consistently place 1000 times the right choice to get a level up and see significant differences. E.g. for 1000 days long you starve and you make the right choices 1000 times and in the 1001.st day you no longer starve but you still want to get a surgery to cure your medical condition. Again for another 1000 days you endure it, save up cash and on the 2001.st day you pay for the medical bills and your medical condition gets solved (at last). And so on and so on. Consistency in the right choices here is key. Don't expect it to become better overnight or even in 3 years. Yes, a change requiring whole 3 years is ironically THE CAUSE OF DEPRESSION ITSELF but you know what is even the bigger risk factor? Delaying it. Having no commitment. Not doing anything about it. Making poor choices. This only increases the price up to 4, 5, 10 years...

The right choices every day will keep me going. My intuition, intelligence and survival instincts will guide me. Money will "transport" me there. Time and trust are my other currencies.
I shall consistently reward myself as I earn my way through it and I am not going to give away my autonomy and independence at any point in my remaining lifetime.

You're either a fighter or a quitter/loser. It's all or nothing.

I'll give up when I'm dead.

Thank you for reading!

If life has raped you badly and you are on recovery, how did you manage to get on recovery?
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