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It does not always get better

‘‘It will get better!''


As someone who’s had to battle with depression most parts of their life and will have to for the rest of their life. This is something that makes me so angry to hear from people around me. What is it that you think a silly and very worn out quote will actually do to me? Suddenly heal me from the depression? and the same thing with saying ''I will pray for you.'' empty words to someone who doesn't even exist. If you, as a friend, or a relative have someone close to you that’s depressed. don’t give them this bullshit. Don’t quote nice sayings, don’t say that you will pray for them, don’t pat them on the shoulder and say that things will get better. or as some people have done. or actual worse, listen to the person who’s depressed to then just ignore how they are feeling and just go ‘’Yeah I've been depressed too.’’ And then don’t care anymore.


You want to help? You TRULY want to help whoever there is that’s feeling bad? Take all your thoughts about quotes, praying, telling them they need to smile, etc. and throw those in the trashes. Let them know that you and others care about them and are available for support. Offer to drive them to treatment or, if they want to talk to you about how they're feeling, know what to listen for. But remember to be more to them than just a shoulder they can cry on. Depression it a medical condition and it needs medical care. That you as a friend or a family member can listen to the person and give the best support you could. But that’s not enough. Think of this then you’re about to lose your patience or getting frustrated with them cause even when you’re trying with your best efforts it won’t cure their depression.


People with depression (like me) we can’t avoid it. We just can’t sleep it off. People around is can pray, quote, care and support how much they even try to. But it’s not going to solve the problem we are dealing with. Tell your friend or family member or whoever there is you know about this. That depression is a medical problem and ignoring it will not make it go away. Look around in your community or search online and check there for help for you to find the right specialists to talk with about depression treatment. And remember to encourage a person who’s maybe later on have gotten a medication for depression to make them take it/them. Also, try inviting us to join you in things you’re doing. Give us a call, a visit whatever. Just be in contact with us. We often isolate ourselves because we constantly feel like we are bothering people. Also, while where speaking about this matter, a depressed person often question things. Like why we should do this or that cause we often don’t find a point in doing a lot of things. You can help with that by answering these things and positive reinforcement.


I hope this helped. As someone who has had to fight with their depression with out having someone to support me regarding this matter these are just some of the things I wish people had done to help me (and had done when they promised to do).


It does not always get better

It does not always get better
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