How to handle my bf eats too much?

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hi i got a problem with my bf's eating habit. he eats too much and to be honest i really hate it. like yesterday we ate together with my family. we cook enough for every person but lately he told me that he still hungry. or when we ate at restaurant. 1 portion is enough for a guy but he said "its so little." what i most hate is he likes waiting for me to feel full so he can eat my food. one day i ate noodle and he said "i can't believe u finish it by urself" well he just ate noodle too. or one day at restaurant he finish his food first but keep lookin at me eating. i really know his look desperate for mine so even im not full yet i share my food with him. we just eat at restaurant and soon after he feel hungry again. i told him to less eat but he can't he can die. im not told him to diet because his body still looks normal. his metabolism is fast and i don't know its good or not. if he feels hungry he's not focus and bit bad mood (even he said no)

Raven1990 · Accepted Answer

Hahahahaha... I'm laughing pissing of this... This reminded a lot about myself in some situations in the past, but in a much more exaggerated way. I wasn't used to change in bad mood if I became hungry though.

Well, girl you should be a bit more comprehensive. There are guys like me who has a very high metabolism and even practice sports regularly so they demand a lot of energy. But I understand how creepy can be the feeling of eating your own lunch while a starving face is staring at your food.

Even though, you can settle an agreement with him. Have a frankly talk to him, bring this issue on the table. So follow this step:
- Make him acknowledge he is a starving beast, exemplifying such actions
- Make him explain why he is like that
- Do not acknowledge anything he says as justified and ask him if he worries more for your well being or for his stomach,
- Makes him to acknowledge his temper and emotional state changes because of food,
- If yet you realize he does not agree with this, tell him to at least pretending he does not want to eat your food while you are not satisfied yet
- At some point of the discussion he will demand something, then you only offer this:" you can cook more food to him in family dinners"
- After that, makes one more demand: not become bored because he is hungry at other situations and sustain this by himself

Man are thinks rationally and so a bit predictable if you negotiate with logic. Even more in a couple discussion, because he always tends to take it easy to his girl, his empathy is much more high towards his enemy. For sure you will succeed at your demands because you are the girl and not the guy at this story. If the outcome does not happen as planned just tell me.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Well what does he do for a living or a hobby I mean if he is has a very physical job then the body craves more things such as proteins to make energy. I body build about 5 days a week on top of martial arts training so I am always hungry I mean very hungry my body requires much more nutrients and food then other people to keep up with my physically demanding hobbies. On average I eat 3 large meals a day and about half a dozen to a dozen smaller meals on top of supplements and nutrients pills. It could also be that his body just requires more its nature nothing you can do about it at all.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

Let the man eat.

My boyfriend eats a lot too. I told him not to eat breakfast because we were going to go to this huge brunch thing with my family and I didn't want him to be too full to eat there. What does the boy do? He eats 6 pancakes for breakfast, swings by Mc Donald's on the way to my house, gets 3 breakfast burritos or something and then goes to our brunch where he eats 2 Belgian waffles, 3 thick slices of ham (the kind that take up the whole plate), 2 servings of mashed potatoes and gravy, who knows how many chicken tenders and two slices of apple pie.

If the man's hungry, let him eat. Both my boyfriend and I have fast metabolisms and it's not a bad thing. I just eat smaller amounts than he does at more frequent intervals throughout the day and he...eats massive portions.

I seriously would just let him do his thing and get over it. His eating more than you isn't an issue for you, really.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's rude of him to stare at your food wanting it when you're eating but I have the feeling you've mentioned his eating to him before and he's reluctant to order extra side dishes or bigger portions for himself so he's eating portions too small for him and going hungry to make himself seem less greedy to you.

I think he's eating a regular amount for a man and you are over exaggerating a lot of it, if he was eating ridiculous amounts he would at least gain a few.pounds even with a high metabolism. If he is eating like a starved wolf constantly then ask him to go to the doctors to see if his internals are fine who knows maybe he has a mild case of prada Willis syndrome.

Melissayo · Accepted Answer

Tell him how you feel about him eating.. My ex eats a lot to.  He is 6"4 and about 300 pounds.. Once I was at his house and he made me lunch and he ate to.. He made like a 4 or 5 egg omelet for each of us.. So basically you should just let him eat as much as he needs to eat.. Go to restaurants that can fill him up

HortAgent56 · Answer

Hello there ganjenband. Hope you are well today. Teenage boys and young men between the ages of about 12 to 21 or 22 are usually bottomless pits because we have to feed a body that is growing rapidly every day and building muscle and bone and body size. This usually stops by the mid 20s as our eventual size is reached. If we keep eating the same way or are not working out, we can gain weight and develop the characteristic gut though that usually does not develop until middle age if we don't stay active enough and don't start to eat sensibly. In your guy's case, (I'm assuming he is older than his early 20s) and especially since you say he is fit, he probably still has the same appetite that most guys have when they are young. As long as he's not showing it by gaining weight, I'm afraid to say that this might be more your problem than his. The one thing he should not be doing is watching you eat, hoping you will not finish your food. That's just plain rude and very bad table manners. Tell him you do not want him eating off of your plate and that if he's got a big appetite he should order more food for himself. If he stops eating off your plate and his eating habits still bother you, you might be with the wrong guy because eating habits are very hard to change; even when people need to do so for health reasons. One more thing is that studies have shown that men automatically eat more when they are with their girlfriend or if they are in the company of a woman they would like to date. This is probably because men subconsciously feel that a healthy male appetite is a sign to a woman that he himself is healthy, strong and confident. You might want to find out if he eats this way when he is not with you, though that may not be easy. Bottom line: If you like him in lots of other ways, just tell him it bothers you when he eats off your plate or takes your leftover food and that he should be ordering enough of his own food to satisfy his appetite. Good luck!

koibito · Answer

Sounds like you just don't want him to steal your food lol. Just ask him to order desserts or extra helpings.

Yang-gwang · Answer

It seems like he has some kind of problem cause if he's hungry all the time he should bring his own food instead of depending on someone else's that's what I think.

heavensgift2girls · Answer

He isn't fat so he clearly isn't eating too much. His body just requires a lot more food than yours does.

lamebabe · Answer

If you're so grossed out by him, then leave him? I think it's cute when guys eat a ton.

PhiOmega · Answer

He needs to order more food and leave yours alone, I eat tons!!!

sean1234 · Answer

Hmm, I feel as if there not enough info here. You make him sound like he's a big fat whale that can't get enough to eat. I mean, if he ordered a hamburger, would it be a quarter, half or 1 pound burger?

biggie90 · Answer

Real men gotta eat I don't see a problem here?  What do you want him to stave or something?  I eat a lot too.

Anjellygirlyeah · Answer

maybe he's preggo and so he gets hungry & needs to eat for 2

kitkills · Answer

Then stop eating with him lmao, deal with it or don't but you can't force him to do shit because you're choosing to be judgy.

knotme · Answer

i dont know how you handle a non problem, break up with him i guess. since he disguises you so

Drummer4Lyfe · Answer

Never tell me when & how to eat. We're gonna have problems.

GoldCobra · Answer

Maybe he has 2 stomachs

fonduegirl · Answer

What a glutton

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