Do you have anger management issue? Do you have some advice on that issue?

[Anonymous]

Most times, I am a quite nice guy. But sometimes, I could not control my temper. When I get angry, I just wanted to destroy something, or engage fight with someone.

For example, once I broke up, I torn down my bedroom door, and burned my parents' stamps collection.

Another time, my parents told me they could let a doctor to come to home to figure out some solutions of my temper, I said OK. When he came, I went to open the door, and punched him in his face and said "shut the fuck up and get the fuck out", and he was forced to turn back. My parents asked me if I did not like him, why I agreed to let him come, I said "he comes, so I can punch him". It took a long time to make me calm down.

Do you have similar issues?

And do you have any advice on me?

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Another time, I opened a bottle of beer because I was very exhausted on my courses. My father told me "stop drinking, it is not good for you", and I told him "OK, well, do not drink, fine", and then grabbed two other bottles of beer and threw them out of windows of the apartment we lived in.

[GirlsLie]

I mean if you really wanted help, why did you have an issue with the doctor who was trying to help you, are you going to put your hands on anyone who offers you advice here too?

I don't know my entire family has anger issues and I think it's so childish and honestly it's bullying the way people act towards others at times, I think you act that way because no one has ever told you to grow up and how disgusting you look from the outside to other people or that you don't have the right to take advantage of other people who don't have anger issues, by putting your hands on them. And that you don't have the right to put your parents through so much stress due to it. You're lucky your parents are so nice and offered to help you instead of turning their backs on you, you shouldn't take advantage of that by continuing your temper tantrums just because you can.

A doctor can come and get to the root of your issues or maybe you can figure those out for yourself but he can only tell you so many breathing techniques to calm yourself down etc. At some point you just need to change because you want to and because it's not fair to the people around you and because you're going to lose the people around you, if they're smart.

[Asker]

I am not that type of terrible. I am nice at 99% of time, so very few people know that I have such issue, and they think I am a very responsible person.
I do not know why I just wanted punch that doctor, maybe because I was so stressed.
I actually do not know whether it should be called "Anger Management Issue" or not, since I seldom get angry. But when I get angry, it is terrible.

[GirlsLie]

But you still make other people feel bad when you do it, regardless of how often it is and that's a sense of entitlement in my opinion. I'm not trying to make you out to be this horrible person who goes around raging at everyone all of the time but you have to understand how your behavior effects others in order to fix it. I'm not an anger expert, i've just been around people with anger issues and it's a horrible feeling for the people around you, even if it is only a few people who know. Maybe go see a therapist and find out what's really wrong, I know stress has a lot to do with it for some people too and always get away from whatever is making you mad at the moment and give yourself a chance to calm down, hell we could all use some therapy whether we have anger issues or not lol

[Musicnote]

One of my close friends has anger managements issues and it's not going to go away until you seek some help. It takes time to calm yourself down with anger problems but if you don't find a way to help yourself you may end up hurting someone you love

[Asker]

I am sure that I am nice for 99% of time, and I really hate seeing the doctor. Do you have any idea to let me calm down when I see the doctors?

[Musicnote]

What you can do is before they come over close your eyes and take a deep breath a couple of times. If you see them and you feel yourself getting mad close your eyes and take a deep breath until you feel yourself calm down. My friend would clench his hands into fists and when he'd close his eyes and take a deep breath he'd unclench his hands and try and calm himself down.

[EarthToKepler]

Fuck I thought my anger problems was bad hahah.

I tend to hurt myself to relieve my anger (not cutting) just punching and headbutting walls.

I stumbbled upon a mindset that relieves most of my ager a few days ago.

Everytime you're starting or feeling angry say to yourself inside your own head 'let it go ___ <~~~ your name'

Have you ever heared anyone say 'let it wash over you'?

It's exactly like that but more of a brainwashing type thing going on..

I honestly hope this helps because I know how hard it is to feel anger almost all the time!

Anyway bro goodluck!

[Asker]

I do not know your frequency of being caught in anger, but what I know is my frequency is very low, but behavior gets extraordinarily violent.

[RayImReal27]

someone told me eating sugar helps you about that. Seriously. When I get angry I just stop myself and cound from 1 to 10. x'D

[Paris13]

No, not me, although I can be a spunky chicken and have a hissy fit at times.
However, as wise as an owl that I am here, dear, with you rown Not so Short 'Temper' that "I could not control,' you definitely have mental issues tha tneed to be quickly addressed tomorrow. Make an apointment at a Professional's office, keep him at arm's length and out of harm's way when you get there... but listen to him. He or she knows what they are talking about and so do I. If you don't do something very soon, the older you get, the worse you will get with your Boiling Point where yoyu could end up Burning something Bigger than a 'Stamps collection' the next time... like someone's house.
Good luck. xx

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

No, but I was sent there now I feel like I might actually have higher more intense anger than the usual threshold.