Is counselling a sign of weakness for a man?

[Anonymous]

Have always wondered if it was loserish for a man to seek help like low self esteem issues or problems like if a guy is born ugly and has trouble coping when getting respect or girlfriend etc is it shameful or does it make him in any way less of a man. Especially if its a man telling a female counsellor about his problems would she think he was less of a man because he has no confidence and she would have no respect for him?

[Neurath]

The way I try to explain to men I have counselled is like this:

You are the King of your household. Would a King not take Counsel if he or his Kingdom was in Peril? Would he be seen as a bigger fool if he discussed the best way forward and failed, or tried to go alone and failed?

If counselling has been used by Emperors and Kings across the History of Mankind, it is now your time to take up their spirit for a short while. You can pace, you can be prone upon that sofa, you can look at me, tell me to write, we can do whatever makes you comfortable but I think we both in agreement that the time for me to listen and for you to talk is fast approaching. No one will see the process, they will only see the results.

[therussianconcussion]

please dont take any opinions from a woman. they have no idea what men go through. were suppose to be tough, never show emotions. and yet they want to say "no go to it, its fine" its not. i understand what you feel. but coming from russia, i would say yes. its a sign of weakness BUT every single man on earth goes through what you go through. i would recommenced waiting it out. counseling its simply bullshit unless you're going through ptsd or some serious problem.

[Asker]

yeah but everyone needs someone to talk to, not everyone can tell their wife or parents and open up

[SirenDep]

It's a good thing to have counselling to help solve your problems. It means you admit that you have some problems and you actively try to solve them, to become a better person. It's a positive thing to know yourself and trying to improve. A counsellor is a professional. His job is to make people get over their problems, not make fun of them. And whatever you say to the counselor is confidential of course.

[Asker]

yeah but would a female counsellor lose respect for a male client?

[SirenDep]

No. Many of her clients are male and have similar problems

[Iwjwamo]

No actually it's sexy when a guy can admit he's human and needs help. Same with asking for directions. It's hot when they're can laugh about it and be like "fuck I have no idea where I'm going " and ask someone for directions.

But I'm not big on guys crying haha

[BangBadBxtches]

What the fuck? I hope that was a joke, crying is a human emotion, you sound like an asshole.

[TheDevilInside]

Not at all. If anything, it only shows that he's not afraid to admit his weaknesses (something that everyone has). It's hard and takes a lot of guts and strength to admit that one is no longer as strong as one thinks and that one needs help.

[BeingCreative_]

No of course not! I would be more worried if someone was to ashamed to admit help. I think the whole 'be a man' thing is stupid! Like being physically male is not enough? If you can rise above all that I have big respect for you! It's not easy!

[Basketballchick4eva]

If anything I believe it makes him more of a man because he is able to realise that there is something wrong and he is taking measures to fix it, It is not "weak" to seek help. In my opinion it is a sign of strength!

[Roycaryn]

There's nothing weak about acknowledging that you've got problems that are beyond your control and seeking ways to deal with them. Making the effort to get help is a sign of strength as opposed to keeping everything bottled up.

[MyNameIsJonas]

I believe that seeking out help to overcome a problem shows strength, not weakness. Ignoring the problem and letting it affect your life negatively would be weakness. Be humble learn and grow.

[EllaC]

No. It's good to recognize you have a problem and seek help if necessary. It shows you want to be better and you want your life to be better. That's always a good thing.

[randomasker94]

No, it's a sign of common sense. There's a lot of men out there suffering in different ways just because they associate seeking help with weakness.

[Aud_Queen]

Your seeking help to get stronger. Anyone who calls this weak is just silly.

[Anonymous]

Never. It's a sign of strength that you won't just resign yourself to feeling that way; you're looking to get some help and work on it instead. Good for him. I think that's something to respect.

[Klaatu51]

i'd consider it a waste of money seeing a counselor basically

[Anonymous]

The inability to accept ones problem is a weakness. Everyone needs help at some point in time. It would be even more pathetic to not seek help when you have a huge problem. Ego is a weakness.

[Mentality]

No! Absolutely not! Life is tough and it effects everyone and sometimes, regardless of any physical traits, people need to seek help!

[Jersey1]

We don't even like to ask for directions for cryin out loud :)

[Anonymous]

No. Nothing else to say. You want counseling. The only thing that's not manly is letting another man tell you what is or isn't manly.

[emerald77]

No. we all have issues that we sometimes can't deal with on our own.

[Drast]

Of course. As men were only supposed to grunt and throw large rocks.

[Asker]

am guessing that was run of the mill sarcasm

[Drast]

You must not have enough large rocks where you live.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. If there's a chance to improve your life you should grab it. Your future self will be thankful for it.

[DaddyRollingStone]

Sometimes you need help but you can't help yourself. No shame in asking for some help.

[front2back]

Anyone who says it's weak is just a moron.

[phanindra554]

O, men is human and humans need help of others😃