How can I help her sleep better?

[Kerbie]

My girl Hannah wears a Fitbit all the time except when she's swimming but for some reason her laptop crashes when I attempt to get the results on her laptop so I do it on via my xeon based server and then show her what it says I got a shock this week as her data is showing a pattern of Hannah only getting around 3.5 hours sleep now which is showing as she's been a little moody first thing in the morning and she's yawning and I saw her the other day mid afternoon struggling to keep her head up while she was on her pc.

I have a few bits on my bed which help me health wise but Hannah aslo loves like my thick duvet (blanket) which she loves to curl herself up in and my memory foam mattress saver and my pillows are hypoallergenic I am just wondering if anyone has any other ideas I could try to help her sleep a little more happily and would things like stroking her hair gently which she likes and things like that help?

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mmm I will suggest that to her when she wakes up tomorrow zzzzzzz she's been super busy today as her friends bridesmaid and she's exhausted so much she has not even taken her dress or heels off !

[sjoes006]

Does she have a hard time falling asleep or staying asleep? How long have you been dating? My boyfriend usually wakes up briefly around 4am and he used to come snuggle me a little too rough and sometimes it would wake me so I asked him to stop. If I get woken up I have a hard time going back to sleep. I also have to have the fan on and lots of pillows. But he helps me fall asleep because he falls asleep first and I time my breath to his.

Everyone is different she probably had sleep problems before you met. She just needs to figure out what works for her. If the problem is that she isn't used to sleeping with someone it is probably temporary and will go away. I used to have a hard time falling asleep with someone in my bed. If they move it would wake me and I didn't want to move too much. But you have a memory foam bed so that helps. Good luck!

[Kerbie]

Hannah's used to sleeping beside me now as we have been sleeping together for a year and a half now and have been together 3+ years but I just got a new bed.

[sjoes006]

You didn't share a bed for the first 18 months? Wow. Did she have any input on the new bed? Does she say the bed is the problem? It may be something unrelated like work.

If the guy I've been in a relationship with for 3 years bought a new bed without my input I would be disappointed. Bit those beds a re comfortable so I doubt that is it. They kind of suck for sex though. 😕

[Kerbie]

nope we did not Hannah was a little scared of sleeping together at first due to her traumatic past and we did I personally think it might be something else because she's not mentioned the bed only other thing that jumps to mind is Hannah recently retired from doing ballet something she loved and has been doing since she was 17

[sjoes006]

That's probably why then, she is t expending as much energy.

[Kerbie]

I will keep a close eye on her and the data coming from her fitbit and see if it settles down

[Hannah591]

I think it's really cute how you treat your girlfriend. She sounds like a lucky girl. :3 I hope I find a guy one day that will treat me and care for me like you do for her.
Does she have counselling for her issues? That may help. Stroking her hair will most definitely help her fall asleep happy whilst feeling safe and she would love it. Before bed, make sure she doesn't use any technology or TV because it stimulates her brain. Maybe get her snuggled up in bed with a lovely hot chocolate and a book to rest the brain before bed.

[Kerbie]

She likes reading and hot chocolate so I might give that a whirl I think I might stroking her hair a try tonight.

[Kerbie]

Thanks Hannah I tried the hot chocolate with her and it worked superb she's sleeping much happier at the mo plus she loves the affection of my stroking her hair and gently bouncing it around 😊

[Hannah591]

Oh yay, I'm glad you followed my advice and it worked! Hot chocolate always seems to help. She can try herbal sleeping pills too, they're great.

[AmeerX]

Yes that would help her, the last things.
Well, try to get her to drink milk and keep her PC away from her for awhile.
Other than that keep the bed sheet in while color and tell her to wear loose clothes.

[EmmaBack]

I`m happy for your girlfriend as she has such attentive and careful boyfriend. I personally used to have a bad night, but one day my sister made me a great present - Core Deluxe Water Pillow, and everything changed. It feels good under my head. I will have to buy another one for my husband who keeps sneaking it away from me:)

[9mfeo]

Do you snore, maybe? Could it be keeping her up?

[Kerbie]

Nope, she did for a while but she had a tiny Operation done so she could breath easier

[9mfeo]

No, not her. You! Do you snore? That's what kept me up with my ex - his snoring.

[Kerbie]

Haha no i dont