Should someone regain weight because people keep telling them to?

Question

people keep using bmi against me to try and guilt me into gaining.

i got to my goal weight which was 108 lbs and i'm 5'5" but my family and friends keep telling me to gain weight because i got too skinny. i don't think i look too skinny and American guys generally like skinny bodies over average sized ones right? i still have boobs and a butt.

GracefulCharm · Accepted Answer

My only concern is what you wrote about healthy bmi. Is your bmi below what is considered healthy for your age?

Some fat on women is actually attractive. But you should really only listen to someone who knows health and fitness.

I've had guys tell me I have too much muscle and i need to slim down. I realized later when they reveal their jealously they just feel insecure next to me and rather than wanting to admit they want a better body themselves. They rather remove any reminder of it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I answered the first one. BMI isn't conjured on a whim by nutritionists. It is the result of multidisciplinary research, in other words it's not bullshit. Healthy bmi means healthy metabolism, immune system, and hormonal... something.

Still... if you really-really-really don't want to gain weight, it's your choice. Obamacare, amirite?

42ndstreet · Accepted Answer

Uhm.

Go lift some weights and build some muscle and put on the right kind of weight. You'll feel much better. Being strong, particularly as a small woman, has major impact on your life.

Eat more (of the right stuff) add some weight training and build yourself a strong and resilient body.

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archiz · Accepted Answer

if you re happy with yourself and I emphasize YOU not the guys then ok. also if you eat healthy, exercise and don t starve yourself then ok.

JulieXO · Answer

BMI doesn't necessarily provide correct information about one's health. You are very thin, but as long as you feel good about yourself, have enough energy to do whatever you want to do and maintain a well-functioning immune system, I'd say you're fine.
However, I wouldn't take your family's concern too lightly. I've been in a similar situation, I thought everything was fine despite the fact that almost everyone was telling me that I had gotten too skinny. -I was just feeling cold and kinda tired, no big deal. 2 weeks later i had to be taken to a psychiatrist and got diagnosed with anorexia. I'm not saying it's your case, but it's just something to keep in mind.

mooky06 · Answer

I had an issue with this quite recently. I was very caught up in maintaining a good weight for BMI purposes. I did have some people tell me that I'm too skinny, I need to gain weight.

The most important way to go about it is by asking "Am I malnourishing myself?" if the answer is no, then you shouldn't need to gain weight at all.

paulina_g · Answer

BMI is not everything. I prefer to look at body fat percentage in relation to muscle mass. It's more accurate than staring blindly at your weight even if it's hard to measure reliably. A person can have a healthy BMI and still have high body fat. That's almost as bad as being overweight. Same goes for someone with lots of muscle. The could be perfectly healthy with low body fat but still be considered overweight according to BMI, just because muscle is heavier than fat.

Kuraj · Answer

Don't gain weight.
There is no such thing as an "unhealthy low BMI".

Just make sure you eat the nutritious food and not junk.
Eggs, fish, meat, milk, beans, lentils, broccoli, spinach, tomatoes, nuts, mushrooms.
It is impossible to recommend any grains into a healthy diet, if you need "fiber" then just munch on some flax/chia seeds instead.

Anonymous · Answer

unless it's negatively affecting your health, I would attempt to maintain your current weight. I weigh a similar amount and have the same height, but I workout and try to stay healthy. As we age, women typically gain more weight so it will be easier to be a healthier weight when older if we started off smaller.

Amanda2 · Answer

Oh yeah I know about that, so fucking annoying people keeps bringing it up. As long you feel happy, healthy and confident in your body they can fuck off. It is really rude of people to comment on others weight. Ignore them and enjoy ya life

frozenhorizon · Answer

If you don't feel low energy and you don't feel like you're underweight then it's probably fine. However I agree with the person who said to put on muscle, it doesn't have to be a lot but you'd probably feel even better if you gained like 10 lbs in muscle without gaining much/any fat.

popsickle · Answer

Just normalize your diet into one that you can sustain without stressing yourself and see if that fluctuates your weight at all. You dont have to do anything for anyone but yourself.

stellamint · Answer

You shouldn't listen to what people say. If you feel that you like your body the way it is, then keep it. You should go to the doctor to see if you're healthy. Your BMI can be low but still be healthy, it's just a number, it doesn't take into account many factors. But yes, don't listen to them! :)

LaVilaine · Answer

I think that if people are concerned about your health due to your being underweight, it's probably best to listen to them. But it's your funeral, whether figurative or literal.

Juicy__Guard · Answer

Only regain weight if you're like dangerously small/ unhealthy. But if you're small but are healthy, then ignore them.

somebodysaycheese · Answer

108 at 5'5 is really skinny though. But if your happy and healthy thats all that mattera

Anpu23 · Answer

First, the myth that American guys like skinny girls is just that a myth. An unhealthy weight is just that unhealthy. Over weight and underweight are both hard on your body.

0112358 · Answer

How is your actual health? How is your energy level? Are you working out? If so, is your performance better, or worse?

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

The mirror is a much better assessment of body fat than the BMI is tbh. I mean, I'm slightly overweight according to the BMI lol it doesn't figure muscle composition.

kimmy87 · Answer

If your a healthy weight and your happy who cares what they think.

worldscolide · Answer

It's what ever you want, but I will tell you this. Most men don't like under weight girls.

06CuriousMind · Answer

that sounds really skinny... what was your starting weight? do you still eat?

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

Do it to be healthy, not because some people want you to get fatter

Tony_Tone89 · Answer

Do what you want but from a health stand point 108lbs is not good for someone your height.

Anonymous · Answer

I just think it's important to be healthy. Beyond that, don't listen to what people say. Do it for yourself.

sixnineanon · Answer

Please gain weight to have normal bmi

admles · Answer

BMI is the biggest load of BS out there.

Grungenoreos · Answer

Let me check something...

sp33d · Answer

Depends on your diet, not your... bmi.

jwhit · Answer

As long as you're healthy do what you want.

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