go out and make friends. You are focusing on the wrong things. Focus on yourself. I mean seriously you think about suicide? Focus on how to make yourself more extroverted. Focus on getting into shape. Join some type of group activity. (hiking club, skiing club, biking club, book club) Don't be so insecure. All you have to do is smile and answer peoples questions. Then every once in awhile ask a question yourself. Don't be over the top and don't things that can get nagging and annoying. Don't try to act cool and be something you're not. Be yourself. People will accept you if you be yourself. If you try to be something or somebody else people pick up on it and it turns them off. Everyone goes through this in life. Now is your time to get through it. So stop procrastinating and start having fun in life. Stop worrying about the stupid little things.
Who cares if you ever get a girl? Some men might have been born without a penis. Now that's a problem. Then what good is a woman? They will only make you ears bleed.
Seriously man, If you were to write an autobiography about yourself what would it say?
"I went to school. I grew up. I went to work. I thought about killing myself. I killed myself." < That's a pretty boring story
or how about.
"I went to school. I grew up. I went to work. I thought about killing myself. I joined a club. I killed myself." < That's a bit more interesting.
or maybe.
"I went to school. I grew up. I went to work. I thought about killing myself. I joined a club. I made some friends. I killed myself." < A little better
ok last one.
"I went to school. I grew up. I went to work. I thought about killing myself. I joined a club. I made some friends. I had fun. I met a girl. We talked. We had fun together. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner sometime. She said yes. Life has been more fun. I remember that time I thought about killing myself. Then I realized my decision to live a fulfilling life was a much better choice!" < Wow that one is a lot more interesting. And it even has a moral.
I'm on Anti-Depressants. I have thought about what it would be like to kill myself. I realized my life is what I make it. My story is what I write. Your story is what you write so make it a little more exciting. And Don't worry about the girl. If you really want her trust me she will show up at the end of the book.
are you still there ?
this question is asked more than a year ago
so just woundering what's new
NO! Here is an idea! Try to speak up! Overweight or not, that is a way to get people's attention.
Try to lose some weight. Though that really isn't the most important thing, it will raise your self confidence! And if you're more confident it will be easier to start making more friends or getting closer to the ones you already have.
When you are called for those "chores" be social and friendly. Laugh as much as is acceptable and try to have a good time. If you make yourself seem as interesting and fun to be around as I'm sure you are, you'll get more attention and people will want to be around you more! Do you best! Don't give up!
don't be suicidal! its a permanent solution to a temporary problem. first you need to work on your confidence. also eat better and try to work out while you're doing this. even exercising for a week can improve your mood and confidence.
also, you need to realize that you are not anyone's doormat. don't associate with people who don't respect you. don't put people on a pedestal or care if they "need" you - hang around people who value you for the person you are
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I was overweight, and kinda in the same boat as you. I wasn't suicidal. but I lost a lot of weight. it was hard but there's help. a trainer at the gym helped tons. I now know what I need to do at the gym. I saw a Dietitian. you learn how to eat properly and eat healthy. its hard work but the reward is priceless/ you not only change the way you look, but how you feel about yourself and that's where you build your confidence from. now I'm not 40, but at 23 I chose not to let life pass me by and I went out and did something about it, and for that age has no relevance. 23, 30, or 40. you have many many years left, start enjoying them.
F**k other people, focus on yourself first! Why do you ask other people whether you should consider suicide? What if anyone says yes?
I suggest going out of your routine. What would you like to do? Start doing something that adds positive value to your life. If the virgin thing bothers you, consider hiring a callgirl.
That is really a hard question and I think I can't be more helpful on this one.
dont consider suicide! God put every1 on this earth for a reason and he will take you when he's ready. try losin the weight. go out runnin or maybe go to the gym. just don't kill yourself. cut down on greasy food and go on a diet.
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