Should I go up to the full 120 lbs?

[Anonymous]

a year and a half ago I joined an anorexia recovery group. I was 5'5" and 80 pounds. the doctor in the group told me I should be 120 pounds. I currently weigh 110 pounds and I'm not part of the group anymore, but I check in with the doctor once a week. she's still pushing me to gain the last 10 pounds. however, all my friends and family say I look great now, better than ever, and guys are starting to notice me and make nice comments about my body. should I listen to the doctor or stay the weight I am?

[Anonymous]

I am not going to lie, but if a girl had an eating disorder and was too thin it would suck to not get noticed because you are to thin. Similarly, if a girl with an eating disorder worked hard and gained the weight to a weight that is too heavy, and did not get noticed, that would suck. I am pretty sure that if you get to a weight that you are happy with , that is still healthy, but still very attractive to boys, this would be a good thing.

I think the worst case scenario is getting too heavy, and then having to lose weight after that. I imagine that would be a dangerous game.

Basically, an anorexic girl at a healthy weight, being told she should lose weight by someone who did not know she was anorexic before could be very bad.

Looking at the BMI, the 120 would be a healthier look that would likely not get many complaints from boys. At 110, the bmi of 18.3 would get a few guys to not notice you as much if they don't like thin girls.

I think splitting the difference at 115 would make everyone happy. You would make your doctor happy for gaining even more weight then now, and you will still keep the attention from all the boys.

p.s. I am not a doctor.

[Belgie]

Always listen to your doctor. The last ten pounds you gain don't have to be fat. If you started a light free weights program in the gym and took up cycling, you could add several pounds of muscle, giving you a healthier heart, toned legs and toned arms. Your lungs will be better too. Ask your doctor to help you with this. Muscle is denser than fat too, so putting on 10lbs of muscle won't mean going up several sizes the way that 10lbs of fat would.

But seriously, when it comes to your health, always listen to the Doctor.

[DaveMicharl69]

Well said. You put it like I was trying to & couldn't...

[HotPepper302]

Gain the extra weight. You'll look and feel much better. Everyone loves a bum and some boobs. And muscle never hurt either. Your optimum weight is around 120 pounds for a reason. You will learn to love it., and I'm sure that the men will appreciate that you'll look so much more feminine! But more importantly, you'll be healthier, have more energy, and will live a longer, more balanced lifestyle when you're not basing your life around nutrition charts and weigh scales. You might also increase your chances of actually being able to have a family one day, if you chose to do so. Otherwise, you risk becoming infertile. Just a thought. :) Good luck! I wish you all the best!

[Anonymous]

They say you look great now because you've gained weight. Another 10 pounds on your frame will make you look even better! Listen to your doctor- your ideal weight is 120, so that's where you'll be healthiest. Most guys love a butt and some boobs :) I know it's hard, but you'll learn to love it, just like everyone else already does.

Congratulations, I'm sure the process has been hard, but your accomplishments just show how strong you really are.

[DaveMicharl69]

I'm leaning towards listening to the doctor, but if gaining those pounds makes You feel bad N risks a relapse, then don't. If gaining the 10 pounds won't have an affect on your mental health N make You feel bad about yourself, follow the DRs advice! I'm REALLY happy that You recovered tho. I've delt with being overweight all my life N I can understand how you got in that situation...

[DaveMicharl69]

The more I think about it, you should listen to your doctor. And at your height and weight I'm sure you do look good at 110, but I don't think going to 120 would make you look chubby or heavy. The 10 lbs would be healthy weight, and give you a little bit more of what you've got where you want it, like making your curves just a little more shapely and some muscle tone in the right places. You'll just look really fit, healthy & in shape, and your figure will look even better than it does now...

[BeerME]

I'm not a doctor, but your doctor is. I'd listen to her. At your size, guys aren't going to be put off by an extra 10 lbs.

On a related note, congratulations. You should be very proud of what you've accomplished.

[Shawzie]

Gain the weight. You won't look that much different and you will probably feel better. Health is always more important that appearance.

[Lamnad]

I think you should gain it, if they say you look good now, you might look even better.

[WeaponZero]

If your doctor says it, I'd do it.

[VoraVora]

Ur very ideal weight is 122 lbs