Before, you think I'm putting all the blame on her, I am not. I'm aware that I was naive and perhaps I took things too seriously, when there really wasn't a lot happening.
Basically, there is this girl who liked me. We're both from religious families ("no dating, no sex before marriage" kind of families). She would talk to my sister about how she could get my attention. I also liked her and, eventually, we talked about our feelings, about the future (marriage, kids, etc). She asked me never to talk about our situation to anyone (her parents would kill her if they found out).
For a few years we remained very close. We would talk about everything (from very stupid to very perspnal). In hindsight, I realize that our bond was more like a very close friendship rather than a romantic relationship (although she would put her head on my shoulders when nobody was looking, we never kissed or had sex). I was really in love with her, but, eventually, she told me she doesn't like me anymore, because she thought I was too awkward. I learned a little later that during these few years, she had similar stories with other guys (she would tell them she likes them, be close friends but there was no physicality going on).
I asked her about it, and that's when I found out (I wasn't aware of that before) that she never thought she was in a relationship with me. Although I may understand her point of view, I do think she could have been honest given how close we were.
I am genuinely hurt. I really thought she was the one. It's been 8 months now and I can't stop thinking about that. How can I let go?
Basically, there is this girl who liked me. We're both from religious families ("no dating, no sex before marriage" kind of families). She would talk to my sister about how she could get my attention. I also liked her and, eventually, we talked about our feelings, about the future (marriage, kids, etc). She asked me never to talk about our situation to anyone (her parents would kill her if they found out).
For a few years we remained very close. We would talk about everything (from very stupid to very perspnal). In hindsight, I realize that our bond was more like a very close friendship rather than a romantic relationship (although she would put her head on my shoulders when nobody was looking, we never kissed or had sex). I was really in love with her, but, eventually, she told me she doesn't like me anymore, because she thought I was too awkward. I learned a little later that during these few years, she had similar stories with other guys (she would tell them she likes them, be close friends but there was no physicality going on).
I asked her about it, and that's when I found out (I wasn't aware of that before) that she never thought she was in a relationship with me. Although I may understand her point of view, I do think she could have been honest given how close we were.
I am genuinely hurt. I really thought she was the one. It's been 8 months now and I can't stop thinking about that. How can I let go?
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