How can I lose my fear of going out on the street?

[Anonymous]

I have not been out on the streets for years, I am very afraid of not being able to defend myself or be kidnapped and tortured, I know it sounds like paranoia but it is true it is something that happens a lot.
I have not gone out for four years, not even for a day because of the great fear I feel.
I am afraid of what is out there. I tried to overcome my fear with therapy but I could not, I have been treated by three different therapists (the therapies were virtual because I have not been out for four years) and even then it did not help me and I continued with the fear, it is because my fear is not so much Psychological, it is due to a greater extent to my physical state which is very weak, so that causes me a lot of depression.
What if I go out one day and someone kidnaps me to torture me and I can't defend myself or run (I suffer from dysautonomia, it would be difficult for me to run or force myself to avoid being kidnapped)

Do you suggest something to face my fear?

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+1 y

It hurts... 😓 I wish it were so easy, but I don't have anyone, I'm an orphan therefore I don't have a family.

[Explorer91]

Okay. I do actually get what your saying. It’s suprisingly common.
I am a short female. I’m not a fearful person. But I’m realistic. At close to 5 foot. I can’t defend myself and I did not grow up rough and tough so did not have forced exposure to scary situational but even in more privileged socio econonmic situations I have had a few close calls because I am an easy target.
What helps me feel safe is to focus on how I can reduce the chances of being in a situation where I could be attacked or dragged into a car or whatever.
You might not like the answer of this but it can cost money to pay for safety.
I pay more money to live in a highly secure apartment complex.
I pay more money to rent right next to the train stop.
I pay more money to rent In a safe area that is richer but hardly any crime.
I make sure I only get work that is during day time hours so that I don’t have to commute home at odd hours increasing my chance of being alone in the dark.

If you can afford to pay for safety which I’m guessing you can’t which is what is making you so anxious.
Try getting a housemate so you feel you have someone to be accountable for your whereabouts.
Try getting a car so you don’t have to commute public transport odd hours.
Like just adding more safety measures in general to your life.

[Asker]

thanks for your advice, they are very useful.
What scares me the most is not being in my house, I live in a safe area, so I don't want to leave it, because this house is a place I know where I know nothing will happen.
But on the street it is very different, you cannot even go out, because out there it is full of thieves and kidnappers in the shopping centers.

When I was younger they tried to kidnap me in a shopping center, a couple of men approached me.
You go out on the street and run just by having someone next to you, even in a crowded place someone can come and smear you with some sedative so that you are an easier victim.

[Explorer91]

Yes all this could happen. But you could also fall down the stairs in your home or trip over something and die that way too. Or choke on a piece of food. Life is not risk free. All you can do is put you in a situation where you have good odds of safety and go from there.

[Honesttguy]

You know how assasins have that pill that they swallow to killthemselves in case they get captured? Have that with u in case someone kidnaps you, then u can avoid being tortured.
That would release some fear of not being in power. It gives some power back to you able to at least not be tortured, giving u better chance to go out.
Next start small steps do go far away but go near door in backyard for minutes on rdy to go back in or chain yourself to pole so u can't be easily kidnapped. That would slowly reprogramm your mind. You have to reprogramm yourself. Choose day time, less chance for bad stuff. Look around for people.
Learn from animals who are not predators what do thry do, they can't defend and they will get captured and eaten. Rabbits have great hearing, they look around and absorb suroundings ans come out when its safe. Research other animal strategies od survival and pick up some usefull stuff from them.

[Asker]

but how it is called? the pill that killers use to commit suicide.
It would help me to know the name.

[Honesttguy]

No idea, its not like they sell it online as assasin pill. There are hovever plants and other stuff out there u got to do research and make your own pill. Its all DIY.

[exitseven]

Have you ever considered getting a handgun? Getting a handgun and then going to a range and having proper instruction will give you confidence. You have just learned a new skill. You now have the means to defend yourself. Then when you feel like going out, pack your gun where it is accessable and go for a walk.
It is a million to one that you will need the gun but having it will give you a sense of security.

[Asker]

Yes of course. it would be nice to buy one.
but... sometimes I get to thinking.
What if a guy who is also armed tries to rob me or kidnap me? How could I defend myself from someone armed even with a gun.

[exitseven]

That is where training and practice comes in. The bigger part of this is gaining confidence so you won;t be afraid anymore.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Vikkrram]

If it is written by the god... You will get kidnapped then believe me... you can't do anything... I am not Making you afraid...
Hey...4 years you haven't gone out to a street a single day... hey please don't torture yourself... go out... meet some people... hang out and share your thoughts... with people... Trust me world is bad but not that as you think...
Chill Girl...

[NicoDico]

Try to go out with another person who you really trust. Go to places which are less overcrowded or at night.
Tell the person who comes with you what you fear about and ask questions as much as you need to to feel good with going outside.

[Anonymous]

So how do you pay for public services and buy food or generate income?

[Asker]

My work is from home, I order food from my home and I pay the bills online.

[Wise4myage]

Go out with friends.
Maybe talk to a doctor about your fears.

[SewerDemon]

Carry a taser everywhere u go? Ask a friend to go with you? Stay away from people you don't know?

[Leavesbound]

My first question is "where do you live?"