I'll name three things. Only one is recent.
In my late teens and early 20s, I was surfing, playing lead guitar and singing in rock bands, back packing, snow skiing, going to concerts and festivals, traveling, and partying like a Viking. I had long, rock-star hair.
I was handed a job offer that was too good to refuse when I was 26. I had to cut my hair and start wearing a suit. My lifestyle and my persona changed. I no longer recognized myself when I looked in a mirror. I didn't look the part to hang with hippies/rockers/surfers. But I felt like an imposter in a suit.
So there was that. I wasn't happy with myself.
At the new job, I suddenly realized that I could get taken to lunch every day. Really good restaurants. I discovered food.
At the new job, I not only got free lunches, but I also had lots of money to buy my own food.
My previous lifestyle had been super acting. I was slim and fit. But by age 29 or so, I had gained almost 50 lbs. I disliked myself even more.
I had always had girlfriends, but from around 29 to 34, I didn't have any because I didn't want the kind of girlfriend who would want me.
When I was 34, I went on Weight Watchers and started working out. I lost all the weight and got back in shape. By then, I was also used to my new lifestyle and persona. I had grown up.
I started dating and having fun again.
So, I didn't go back to my old life. I began a new one. That's been the story of my life, making changes as I go along.
I also had a big life change when my wife and I moved from congested So Cal to our own house on 30 acres of oak grass land in a rural part of Nor Cal in 2002. There were towns nearby and I got involved in a few things in one of them. I met lots of people, got popular, made some really good friends, and felt like a little fish in a small pond.
Living in suburbs all my life, moving to a small town was a life changer. I wound up really liking it.
In 2020, my wife and I began investigating the covid campaign. We decided that it was a psy op and that we would resist. That lost us a lot of friends. But, on the upside, we connected with a whole bunch of awesome people who were on the same page.
We're really happy with our new friends. What's interesting is, they are from all races, religions, political persuasions and walks of life.
So life changed quite a bit after mid-2020. And we're still here. :-)
When my wife passed I had too
Me! Getting out of an abusive relationship required me to take back my control and remember that there’s more to life than a terrible relationship. I have had the best summer I ever had in a very long time because of taking my life back 😊
Yes @Paris13 I had an eye opener a week ago. Suffered a heart attack. It made me really think of my mortality. I have always thought I was in good shape & have taken care of myself. I guess things are a changing for me.
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u I think I stopped blaming others for my poor choices when I was in my mid-20's. So I took control of my life a long time ago. And all of those goofy decisions since then are MY goofy decisions!
s Not yet Paris but it's exactly what I need to do. I can't keep living like I do.
Yes, very much so.
If you want to talk about it.
We can talk on Sunday
No, I think I own my life. Well, maybe share it with somebody else.
I'm very happy with my life...
I m living my dreams...✌️
Yes, me today after breaking up with my boyfriend... The past month too after I left someone I thought was my 'best friend'. Here's to new beginnings.
Not recently but done it several times in the last 8 years or so.
i do not get it?
No but not a terrible idea 🙂
I wish I COULD take back MY life!!!
It’s a work in progress
Sort of there but working on the rest
if i could. truly if i could
Currently effecting change.
I'll need to learn more paris
I would but it’s hard
I'd love to, but I'm too poor right now
You need to have a life to take it back
No, Paris!
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