Why do I seem happier when I’m chubby than when I was thin?

[Anonymous]

So growing up, I was slender. I was a slender child, teenage and when puberty hit, I gained about 15 pounds and got curvier but still slim. I know most girls (not all) wish they had a slender figure and this May sounds crazy but I was miserable! I was miserable being thin and it didn’t make me happy. Ladies, just because people are thin doesn’t always mean they’re happy with their bodies. I got told I was too skinny, I was bullied and I got guys hitting on me a lot. I had toned abs and that. My girlfriend who is chubby and she’s always been a heavy, chubby girl thought I was crazy and she killed to have my body but I told her it didn’t make me happy. I don’t like being thin. I started to gain weight. I just kept piling up the weight and honestly was thrilled. I went from 120lbs to 220lbs the past few years and I’m 5’6”. I was so happy. I feel more confident, less guys hit on me a lot and no more stick legs! I don’t miss being thin at all! My doctors said it need to lose weight before I hit t health problems. Okay but I’m not going back to 120lbs. Im happier than ever and I feel more ALIVE! Being fat is better than thin. I don’t miss having abs but most men don’t like abs on women and they like them thick and got something to grab and I got a bigger booty! 😃😀

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8 mo

I noticed that some fat people seemed happier than thin people. Even my younger cousin is trying to put on weight because she HATES being thin and wants to be thicker, curvier and wants her thighs to touch. I told her don’t gain too much.

[Wonderingguyy]

I think being healthy is what makes people happy. I think if you feel healthier being bigger then you will be happier and if you feel healthier being thinner you will be happier. It just depends on the person and their preference. I am a big guy, and I have tried every diet under the sun and have been successful in losing some weight during some diets, but they have also made me feel really weak and sick, and I don’t feel healthy doing them. I am aware having too much extra weight is bad, but I I feel healthier and happier when I’m not starving myself.

[stepyo99]

220 is not healthy at all for your height. Because you're young you might be able to get away with it for now, but that weight is a ticking time bomb for your mental and physical health as you age.

Sure, a little bit of extra curviness can be attractive, but 220 is way too heavy. If you got down to 150-160 you'd still be curvy but at a much healthier weight.

[Asker]

Hmmm I may have to consider that but I’m not going back to being thin. Men don’t like thin women anyway.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere in the middle sounds perfect. Good luck finding it.

[Asker]

What do you mean? Like my weight? Look I’ll lose some weight but I refuse to go back to being 120lbs. I didn’t like being thin. Chubby is the sexiest.

[Opinion Owner]

Like maybe 170?

[Asker]

Maybe. But I’m happier fat and that’s the end of it. I don’t wanna go back to being a miserable bean pole.

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few things at play here:

1. Body image is complex. What society deems "attractive" does not always align with what makes an individual feel comfortable and confident in their own skin. You evidently feel happier and more yourself at a higher weight.

2. Being thin does not guarantee happiness. As you experienced, being skinny can come with its own challenges like bullying, unwanted attention, and body image issues. Happiness depends on many factors beyond physical appearance.

3. Heavier women can also be made to feel unattractive by society, but you have found self-acceptance at your current weight. That inner confidence often outweighs what size you actually are.

4. Weight loss is about health, not aesthetics. While some men may prefer thinner or curvier women, your weight should be based on what feels healthy and sustainable for you - not what others find attractive.

5. Be mindful of potential health issues at a high weight. While you feel happier now, continuing to gain weight could lead to health problems down the road. 200-220 lbs. at 5'6" is considered obese.

In summary, what matters most is that you feel comfortable and confident in your own body. If that means carrying some extra weight, so be it. But also be mindful of potential health consequences and set a boundary that works for you - physically and mentally. Continue prioritizing inner happiness and self-love at any size. I hope this perspective provides some useful insights! Please let me know if you have any other questions.

[Truthatanycost]

Health is priority and without that, nothing else in life matters period. Think about it. You could have everything in the world, but without health none of it would matter at all. I suggest you never take that for granted. I've seen the outcome of a guy that did recently and now he's paying the price. If you are 220lbs at 5'6 being happy won't change the stress that is being placed on your body in the multitude of ways. We need to find balance rather than extremes.

[Billlewis]

Probably because you're sexier chubby than you were when you were skinny.

[Asker]

Hell yeah!!! That’s why I’m so happier and I’m getting more looks from men then I did when I was skinny! Men like you don’t like thin women at all. Who wants to fuck skinny chick? I don’t wanna fuck a skinny man.

[Billlewis]

I think you should just keep gaining weight and try to get as heavy and plump as you can... I'd love to fatten you up for your boyfriend and spoil you rotten:)

[Asker]

Hahaha well I think I’m fine the way I am. I don’t wanna get up to 300 pounds.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You need help. That's not a healthy weight and how you feel about it doesn't matter, because feelings don't stop heart disease and diabetes.

[Asker]

I know I know. Being thin isn’t all that great and not every thin people is happy! I don’t need help. I’m happier fat and I’m not going back to being a miserable bean pole.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nobody said anything about thin people being happy. I don't care if they're happy. Their issues/baggage are on them. They ARE healthier than you though. Enjoy your coronary disease and host of other medical conditions then. Whatever, you do you.

[Asker]

Healthier than me? Being a beanpole isn’t healthy but you do have a point. I won’t get a disease

[BoopBoopBeep]

It's a false dichotomy to say I can either be a beanpole or obese. There's a lot of middle ground there, you just don't have the self-control to be there.

[Asker]

I know but I’m not going back to being thin.

[BoopBoopBeep]

awesome. What do you want us to say? go you!

[Asker]

That thick is beautiful. Thick and chubby is IN. Skinny and fit is OUT.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're not thick you're obese. Fit will never be out. I'm not a fan of skinny but I'm also not a fan of sticking my junk in something built like a football player either.

Women don't like short/fat/bald men but first time you even hint that every big girl out there isn't Aphrodite incarnate people want to get all butthurt about ist.

Sorry. No.

[BoopBoopBeep]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Paus%C3%A9

All the denial in the world doesn't stop heart disease, diabetes and failing joints. The nice thing is eventually all this "Fat Acceptance Movement" BS is going to take care of itself because all the influencers will be prematurely dead.

[Anonymous]

I doubt you’re really happy. You’re just telling yourself all these excuses to justify it. The same way women do w a lot of things in their life. But doesn’t matter not my life.

[warren_zevon]

Lots of reasons, but it basically comes down to being true to yourself.

There is nothing wrong with being 220 lbs, thats very normal weight for a woman. The BMI they use at the doctor is utter BS