Is it true that some people look better heavier/overweight?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve always been a bigger girl. I’ve envied girls that were smaller or thinner than me. I have a large frame which makes it harder for me to feel small…. well smaller than guys. I’ve been struggling with weight loss for years. I was a thin child, then I got chubby, I was a thick teenager and developed early (got boobs and an as at age 11, got my period at age 10) and now I’m a chubby/curvy young woman. I know most guys prefer curvy women or chubby but I don’t like how I look.
Some of my relatives said I’m not fat and I’m just curvy and most women KILL to have curves.
Why are women obsessed with having curves? Anyways I’m currently 5’8 and 225lbs. Some people say I look good and I got those curves. I do like my curves but I don’t like how big I am.
I did start it at 240lbs when I was 16. By the time I got to age 21, I went down to 186lbs and a size 12 I think. Some of my family were super but most did not agree with my weight loss and said I looked good the way I was. Some said to stop losing weight and I’m a tall girl so tall girls are supposed to weight more.
I got told to stop and I don’t need to be any thinner and my body isn’t built for that. I gained some of the weight back.
My doctor said I look best at 180 or 185 because of my large frame and my body isn’t built for to be slim. I’m a pear shape. When I was thinner my head looked so big on my body and the upper part of my body looked boney. Well I was told that. I did look weird thinner but I love it when I’m slimmer. Some people bluntly said some people just look better bigger/heavier and I’m one of them.
One of my cousins is 5’6” and she’s naturally slender. Nobody says anything to her but when I got thinner, I got criticized for being “too skinny”.

[glennos89]

Sadly for you most guys prefer skinny girls. But there are plenty of guys out there that don't really care that much about her being overweight and there are also dudes who prefer heavier girls. Some of them want their woman as heavy as she can possibly be.

It's harder to find the right person for bigger woman compared to skinny woman but there are a lot of guys that have very low expectations and who will happily cut corners if a woman doesn't match his preferences completely. Guys in general are way less picky then most woman out there because woman have high expectations and don't like to cut corners on their preferred guy to choose

So you have 2 options that get what you want... The first one is looking around for the guy who prefers bigger woman and if that isn't working out for you there is always the option to sign in at a gym and get yourself into a shape by exercising hard to be able to lose weight and feel better about yourself as well.

Everyone can gain weight or lose weight depending on their diet and getting active instead of being lazy. Especially if you aren't happy about the way you are I advise everyone to put in maximum effort and change yourself to the point you are comfortable and happy with your bodyshape and weight. As long as you commit yourself to it 100% anything is achievable

[miramar17]

BLUF: Your health comes first!

Firstly, I think that as a society we put too much emphasis on how we look versus how we feel/how healthy we actually are. And, I totally get that we want to look good (I do too!), but we focus on beauty standards an unhealthy amount.

I also want to note that your doctor shouldn't be telling you if you 'look' good or not; they're a doctor, not a beauty pageant judge. I think you should focus on the fact if your weight is healthy for your height. As you mentioned, taller people do tend to weigh more than shorter people; that's because they have more tissue. However, you want to be sure that you're not overweight or underweight. BMI is a good way to determine if your height and weight are in a healthy range. BMI isn't totally comprehensive though, as it doesn't take into account how much of your weight is muscle vs. fat.

Finally, some people are inclined to be more curvy than others regardless of their weight (me, I'm not particularly curvy). BUT, if you're naturally inclined to be curvy, then why would it look bad? It's your natural bone structure. On that same note: being thin probably looks fine too! Being skinny or not won't change your natural structure--- embrace it! Regardless, I say you rock however you look! Don't pay too much attention to what people criticize about how your body looks. Instead, prioritize on your health and your happiness!

[SphynxUK]

It’s usually other people who’ll say you would look better with more meat on your bones ( or if you lost weight). To be honest, it’s your body, and you should do what to want to emphasise or reduce, where your shape is concerned. Sometimes it’s easier to create shape with the right clothing instead of worrying about doing it with weight.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Depends on if it's muscle or fat. MMA women weigh more than most runway models but they're still not 180lbs. I've dated a lot of women who are heavily into various combatives, rock climbing, kayaking, and they've all been "overweight" if you compared their scales to someone who just starves themself, but none of them could even remotely be considered fat.

[tremendousfern]

First of all, good for you coming down from 240. Second, 225 is still super obese not just a little overweight. That's not curvy, that's being a blob and it's not healthy either.

I can guarantee you'd look better and feel better about yourself at an actually curvy 180 than you would being obese.

[Joshydavid25]

You do sound nice NGL.. But everybody looks better when they're slimmer and healthier.. Plus, your doctor was really trying to tell you, that it's better when you are slimmer.. Better for your health.. It's not hard, just eat less, and move more..

[DextroShade]

5'8 and 225 is morbidly obese and nobody looks good with those numbers; you should weigh no more than 140 lbs. The people who shame you for losing weight have a crab bucket mentality and do NOT have your best interests at heart. Your weight is seriously a fucking emergency as you are at an extreme risk of diabetes, stroke, and heart disease so you need to cut out the carbs, shrink your portions, and start exercising immediately.

[KostasKouvalis]

I have to see you, preferably in all your stages. Though I will say, I've seen a few girls who I couldn't imagine being slim. Some girls are just bulky and have a larger frame, so they need to have a bit of extra fat in order to look more proportionate. So in short, the answer is YES

[Nikki1989]

Everybody looks better with some meat on their bones.

[Asker]

Yea that’s true. We need meat on our bones. Im not trying to be anorexic. I wanna be slimmer again.

[FebrezeRelief]

Hang on. This is just saying you don't have those body image issues, then saying you do... lol. Might want to look up what you really should go for, rather than what your clothing sizes or a scale says :/

[Paris13]

I have a Cousin Who is Very Tall and She is Sexiest at 170 Pounds. xxoo

[Asker]

How tall is she? Do you know?

[Paris13]

I would Say Maybe 5'9 The Most. xxoo

[Asker]

I bet she looks amazing

[Paris13]

Yes, At 170, Very Model Like. xxoo

[robhazelnut]

If you feel better slim, then may you succeed in healthily making your body that way. To answer your question, most women do to me, but that's only a taste. Better to feel well than to satisfy the tastes of others.

[McLlovin]

I know what you mean but being overweight isn’t something to glorify in any way. don’t want to catch yourself thinking being overweight is cute. to I think you can look just as good healthy.

[JacobJordan]

Curvy and chubby are not the same. Chubby is a polite way of saying fat. Curvy is not that. Fat people are not attractive to the vast majority of the populace.

[lilyyy123]

I'm a very petite girl and I had always thought bigger girls look so much better in clothing and always wished I was a lot bigger. But no matter how much I tried I can't gain weight.

[Asker]

Oh you don’t wanna be a bigger girl. It isn’t all that great. Being tall and big isn’t that great. My best friend wishes she was taller and bigger because she hates being thin. I would love to be thin. She said she envies taller and thicker women.
Why would you wanna gain weight?

[Asker]

Plus I wish I was petite. Most men love short women.

[lilyyy123]

I guess most of us want to be something else than what we are. My whole life I've always been picked on for being so little and lots of snide comments from people and strangers. Thin girls get as much nastiness as bigger girls.

[Asker]

Oh well I’m very sorry to hear that. I got bullied for being fat in elementary school but they didn’t mess with me much in middle school since I’ve been 5’8 since 7th grade. And gotten chubby

[lilyyy123]

Im only 5'2 and 105 pounds and right from kindergarten I was bullied because I was the tiniest in my year. People would say I had worms in my stomach that were eating all me food and then when I was a teen they would call me Annie short for anorexia. Small girls have it tough too. It's a cruel world.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Could be it. But you could always ask your doctor what a healthy weight is for a person your height too.

[Asker]

Yes and I explained it on my question. I should be around 175-165. Not in the 180s

[PBandJ_Nerd]

As long as you're a healthy weight, you should be fine.

[Asker]

Appreciate it

[Apple1996]

Yeah a little weight fills out people's faces better and makes them cuter.

[Asker]

So…. I should stay thick?

[Apple1996]

Yes ofc if you want

[Asker]

We’ll I won't

[Anonymous]

Probably true if you’re a big girl, I would say 185 probably looks better at your height but other women can look better at 145 at your height. No woman should ever be over 200 pounds unless she is 6’4

[Asker]

I’m not trying to be 145lbs. I wanna be at least 175 or 160lbs. Why did I have to be a bigger girl? Bigger girls always get criticized for wanting to lose weight. My sister is 5’4, naturally slim and 125lbs and nobody says anything about her slender built? Why are people criticizing me for wanting to be slender? Even some slender girls said they wish they had my bigger built body.

[Opinion Owner]

Strange how your sister is so much smaller, me and my brother are about the same and we’re four years apart, lots of people are never really happy with their body no matter what they look like, some people do look better bigger than they would look smaller

[Asker]

We’ll I’m not one of those people that look better bigger.

[Opinion Owner]

Seems like everyone else around you thinks you do, I prefer someone slim myself

[Anonymous]

225 sounds kind of heavy for someone who’s 5’8”. I think you’d be better off around 185. But I’m not an expert. If you’re happy at your current weight, then definitely don’t listen to me and stay with what makes you happy.

[matchrestore]

Yeah. Weight adds curves, and curves look good. A little weight gain can go a long way.

[Danny_dan92]

False. Everyone looks better when they’re healthier

[Asker]

True

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah.

[Crankor]

No. That's just an illusion. The only instance I can think of is if your around 40 and have wrinkles skin. But all it's never worth the health risks of everything else

[Pohjolan]

Maybe if a little extra weight but with a 34 BMI you are obese.

Heck you are heavier than most gym bros I know.

[VabAmy]

Every Body is beautiful - as long as you love yourself ^_^

[FebrezeRelief]

People put too much emphasis on that kind of thing anyways, just making up another "reason" to hate others. I got some extra weight I don't mind tbh, and yeah I'm gonna be around regardless of what those people say when it comes to how they don't like the fact us bigger people are even around.

Not to mention I'm doing pretty much fine according to my check-ins with primary care :) if I'm doing good overall then I could care less what the scale and clothing sizes say about me lol.

[VabAmy]

@FebrezeRelief curves are cute ^_^ you do you boo

[FebrezeRelief]

I can say without lying that having some is kinda nice as for my situation. And being made to dislike how I look isn't exactly something I'm about to let happen. But don't get me wrong, I'm making sure my results from those check-ins are good, and I'm not ignoring that :) it's a dumb misconception some people tend to have with us lol. But yeah anyways I like myself as is compared to trying to be thin, yk? XD

[DextroShade]

This is shit advice.

[zagor]

Not overweight, but my F friend I grew up with was looking very haggard until the last year or so when she filled out.