Does anyone else have this issue or have had it?

[Anonymous]

So I tried with a tampon can’t do it and hurts I’m worried I won’t be able to insert anything but I feel fine and have no other issues I get my period and everything but it makes me self conscious because everyone else I know of probably uses tampons & I can’t so it’s really weird I’m worried if I can’t insert anything then I’m doomed because maybe won’t be able to be initiate someday if I try so I don't know what will happen afraid to get checked too. I don't know what it could be. Need some help

[RowenaRavenclaw]

A few things. First of all, don’t feel self-conscious that you’re using a pad just because everyone else is using tampons. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with, other peoples experiences really shouldn’t matter. On the other hand, I also struggled with it when I was first learning how to use them. It came to my attention that sometimes peoples vaginal canals are angled different ways, for example mine kind of goes back to the left a little bit. So go slowly and maybe even use a clean finger first just to see the direction. If that doesn’t work, I recommend going to a gynecologist. I would say don’t be worried about going to an OBGYN, Because it’s better to find out early if something is a little bit divergent

[Asker]

Yes I know but still an embarrassing to be like there’s something wrong down there I don’t want it get operated on down there

[sheikalana]

I also used to struggle with tampons when I was a teen mostly because I didn't know how to insert them properly. Then I tried tampons with applicator and it changed my life it's actually very comfortable, however, after doing some research I stopped using tampons due to the risk of TSS. I feel like the materials of the tampon are super dry hence why sometimes is so hard to insert a tampon at times.

[Asker]

Yes I agree i think it’s the material that was causing issues to be honest

[Anonymous]

I also struggle with putting in a tampon bcs my vaginal muscles are usually tense when not turned on. When I’m sex I can handle thick dildos just fine bcs I’m relaxed. Tampons don’t work for everyone so don’t worry too much about it. Have you tried fingering yourself? If that also hurt then you might wanna ask your gyno about potentially having “vaginismus”.

[Asker]

I have tried to just put one in to see it didn’t seem as bad but I don't know don’t do it often to sum it up it didn’t seem as bad as the tampon so maybe I’m over reacting I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

If you’re nervous or overthinking it, it can definitely affect your vaginal muscles to “accept” the tampon. So relax, take a breather and practice

[Jessica405]

Get yourself a tapered dildo. Use it to stretch your hymen. If need be, improvise. Like use the handle of a silico spatula.

[Jessica405]

silicon*

[Asker]

I thought some object like that lol I’m guessing it’s a hymen issue or something but it’s not fully closed off I get my period

[Jessica405]

Sounds quite normal to me.

[Asker]

Maybe I’m overthinking and worrying. I tried with a finger once it didn’t seem that bad

[HelpfulWoman]

tampons don't work for everybody and thats okay. it doesn't mean sex will be affected.

[Asker]

Yeah true I was worried about if I can’t use that how am I gonna get the D in lol I hope that’s not affected. I’m thinking it’s a hymen issue I get my period it’s not closed off which is good something flows out but it just kinda makes me self conscious because of it

[swettannie]

You know, for that kind of question, its better to ask your gyneco

[Asker]

Worried about going there

[swettannie]

Dont be, this is exactly where to ask that

[Asker]

I know but still