Does anyone else have abandonment issues? How do you deal with them?

[Anonymous]

Mine started after a horific tragedy left me on my own out of nowhere. Now I'm in a new relationship and I have this completely illogical and unwarranted feeling that as soon as I start to love her, she'll pack up and leave with no warning, and I'll never see her again. It's kinda making me push her away.

She's given me no reason to think that and has actually proven the opposite, but with my badly damaged psyche, it's a feeling I can't shake. No matter what I tell myself.
(Also, I haven't talked to her about this, but I know she'd understand. I just don't want to start drama)

Does anyone else have abandonment issues, and if so how do you deal with it?
Or if not, any advice you might know of?

Thank you

[CallmeTheKnight]

Normally the people who leave without warning are genuinely toxic people. While you’re probably keeping your feelings to yourself, eventually you’ll need to let her know how you feel and about your emotional trouble. She needs to know instead of finding out on her own through tough conversations and situations.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Just don't act it. If you find yourself in a quarrel out of some insecurity, pause and ask if your goal is to push her away or not, because that's all you'll do if you escalate it.

[Selene1600000]

A lot of people with abandonment issues feel the same way after a painful loss, and it can make you push away someone who actually cares about you. The fact that she has shown consistency and care is a good sign, and slowly opening up to her instead of keeping everything inside may help you feel safer over time. can also help you work through those fears and build healthier confidence in relationships without letting past pain control your future.

[Legendarylegacy13]

No, I have the opposite issue I want everyone to get the f*** away from me.