Can emotional neglect in childhood affect adult attachment and neediness?

[Anonymous]

Due to financial reasons I never got to enjoy, connect, or love of my parents. They were forced of a joint family, and I was 3 years old, barely surviving.
They did a great job though, did the education, care and support. But they never got time to play, talk and laugh with me.
Also due to the financial conditions I forced my eating habits to the worst and became a picky eater.
Which affected my growth completely, I was malnourished, and weak (still am).
Now after successfully completing school, degree, and getting a high paying job I felt successful. And I have no knowledge of how to suppress my need for attention.
Due to being malnourished, I didn't have friends to play with, and girls used to be afraid of me, so I never understood how to behave.
Office life was good, but personal life struggled with touch deprivation, lack of affection, and ego.
As I didn't get enough in my early life, now I am starving.
Which sounds horrible special for girls.
It's kind of a bad habit that I get far more comfortable with what I have to say to get the attention.
And getting it from friends is also something not enough, from male friends I feel creeped out.
Does anyone feels the same?

[MontBlanc]

Yes, it can.

When someone grows up with emotional neglect, they often learn to suppress their needs or feel like they’re ‘too much.’

As adults, that can show up as either being overly independent or craving constant reassurance.

What looks like neediness is often just unmet needs from earlier, not a flaw, just something that needs awareness and healing.

[Asker]

I know but do u also feel like that?
And what if someone like this wants to fall in love.
Cause in my own experience it's not possible.
I now have 10 years of complete and utter failures.
I know that it's an ick thing for most women.

[Tomislav7]

You dont need attention, I get no attention and i prefer it that way. Any attention on me results in judgement

[Asker]

Yes that is something I need to be aware of.
Being like this has been difficult, I am in therapy, but it doesn't work because these issues are dependent on someone else.
Who doesn't exist in the picture.
So the exercises fail. Cause in place of helping me it adds a weight on me.

[Tomislav7]

Yeah therapy is a waste of resources. Learn to be content alone. I never had friends or any relationship. Im nearly 32 and believe it or not I got my whole city in opposition to me

[Asker]

I can't learn that, I have tried...
It made me more miserable than being a joke.

[Tomislav7]

Then I don't know dude. Therapy is costly and is only as effective as the effort you put into it.

[Tomislav7]

Like for myself im always told to get therapy but therapy can't help me as my issues are external. Im still going to get bullied for being a sissy, jobs will be impossible to keep etc I just have to live it out. But you have a chance

[Asker]

Oh I am getting it for from my university, which will end in June

[Asker]

I am barely any different then u man, I am 27

[Tomislav7]

Swag. Get yourself some med insurance by the state to help with ur continued sessions.

[Tomislav7]

Yeah well as the mature fag here I advise to kill any emotions and learn to endure. Also look into Jesus its nice to have someone in your corner throughout life

[Asker]

Naa I am not a citizen of the place I am.
😂😂😂 I came to UK for a masters degree, where I got much more lonely and many of my female friends started making fun of me or started studying me, that distance made me feel uncomfortable which ended up talking to the university active listener, which is anonymous but one of them told me u have these issues.

[Asker]

Sadly as soon as my course is over I'll be back on the road or going back to my own country where things are much worse..
It has the highest population and worst civic sense and highest pollution,
Now it's going to be the most starved country on the planet within the next 5 years.

[Asker]

Oh sorry I am not at all religious.
I can't believe
And never will be a religious person.
It just gives false hope to hold on to and then kills you slowly.

[Tomislav7]

Right on

[Jeff51]

Yes. I think so

[jahaims]

Duh.