Ugly & overweight vs. beautiful & slim

[jlynn151]

I was in a relationship for 6 years. He cheated on me a lot ..lied and stayed out all hours of the night and day. We had our bad days and our good. Sometimes things seemed perfect and other times not at all. Whenever he cheated on me it was with an ugly over weight girl. Guys, if your going to cheat..why not with someone worth it?

[catinthehat89]

Honestly? I'm sure you're lovely, but perhaps don't have the best understanding of a functional and fulfilling relationship. He's cheating dear, who cares what type of girl he's with? You're distracting yourself from the fact that this guy is clearly not invested in being with you by rationalizing that if these girls are less attractive than you that you will be able to prevent him from cheating. There's nothing you can do, the only person you control is you so focus on what's best for you.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. He doesn't want a relationship the way you (and most of the female population) wants a relationship. That's not going to change. The physical qualities of the girls he cheats with aren't important.

But to really answer your question: people who cheat are often people who need a lot of approval from a lot of people. Cheating makes him feel good about himself, he can have the girl he just met at the party AND come home to someone who loves him. They fulfill a role that's not physical- it's emotional.

At the end of the day: you're not getting what you need from this relationship. Let him go. I promise that there are plenty of guys out there who would gladly treat you well.

[what-do-guys-want]

LMAO!

I have seen millions of ugly skinny ladies as I have overweight ones.

sure, body weight all comes down to how you look, but putting your title as "ugly and over weight vs beautiful and skinny" is completely immature and f***ed.

obviously you were one of those bickering, shallow bitches who is constantly on their boyfriends backs, and in addition to that, pushed the poor guy to cheat with a woman a lot more caring and deep then the arificial stuck up girl.

and who knows, maybe, just maybe your boyfriend likes the ugly fat ones as you put it, but settled with an ugly skinny girl instead?

god woman, grow up.

[Anonymous]

He's looking for something easy. Easy sex if he wants to go that far.

A lot of overweight girls are looking for sex and they can get it because they are looking for it and there are a lot of desperate quick guys out there.

It's brutally hurtful to the one who's beautiful and slim but it's all about easiness and quickness.

No offense to overweight people. Nicer overweight ones of course, do actually have a little more self-respect.

[PassionZ]

If you dint write the last line I would have sat on you LOL just kidding :) peace

[Opinion Owner]

Lol :) I've been out with one or two overweight people before. I just looked into personality. And once you like the personality, you naturally find them beautiful.

[Anonymous]

wow who says the "ugly over weight girl" is not worth it? as far as I'm concerned someone who makes that comment is not worth it. Then again the girl who made that comment might be worth a slap and a load to the eye, but definitely not worth a relationship. No wonder he cheated.

[skycat]

This made me laugh so hard.

[shuba]

what do you think OVERWIEGHT aren't good... NOooo .. they are good looking too. as a matter of fact change your way of thinking.. I am sure the guy learnt you well in 6 yrs. thought he couldn't continue with you any longer.. so he moves on. I am sure the guy might have realized. the difference being with a Ugly & overweight girl Vs Slim and beautiful.

change your way of thinking. Beauty is not all that matter in life. To be sincere you protryaed yourself who you actually are, by writing such stuff. lol.( no offence).

[Anonymous]

People cheat because something is missing from their current relationship. So even though this girl is ugly & overweight in your eyes, she gave him something you couldn't. A guy once cheated on me with a girl who looked exactly like me. He wasn't looking for something physical in her, but there was something about the relationship he was having with her that he was attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Because they want what they want right then and there... whoever it is with... my boyfriend has pointed out girls he dated before me if we see them at the store or the mall... and they were all fat and ugly with unibrows and shit... lol... just be content with the fact knowing he lost something great and you may be the best thing that happened to him.

[gravygirl]

Maybe it wasn't something physical he was looking for. It could have been a personality thing. Or maybe he was just looking for the easiest opportunity and didn't care that it came in an overweight package.

[Amor3x0]

Not every fat girl is ugly. You would have still complained if he slept with skinnier or skinny girls anyway. Just get over him because a persons numbers (weight) has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a guy but maybe those girls know they were ugly and overweight and the guy had a pretty slim girlfriend so they would try a lot harder to please him. Maybe they boosted his ego and made him feel good about himself.

[Anonymous]

agreed with xemilyonfirex. but I will say, different people have different tastes/preferences so maybe to you she is ugly while to him she is beautiful. in any case, cheating is a no no and you're better off without him.

[xemilyonfirex]

Completely skip over that idiots "no wonder why he cheated" comment.

[Abu-Shreek]

see,guys not so shallow after all! LOL

[jbone79]

I'm with you on this one, among other things as well I won't discuss here.