Have you ever effectively changed yourself for the better?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever gotten rid of a bad habit? Bounced back from rock bottom? Changed yourself to achieve your dreams? Etc.

I don't mean changing to be popular or win over a partner, I mean shedding a behavior/mindset/trait that holds you back in life...

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I'm working on myself I think and I think I have in the past. Like I was a slacker toward the end of high school and my first year of college, but after I left that college and went to a local one to figure out what I wanted I really made myself work hard in classes and was pretty much a straight A student. Stayed that way mostly when I went to another college to finish my bachelors and I am about to graduate with 2 degrees. I do still have much more I wanna work on though. My own outgoingness, my social abilities, my confidence (it's not horrible, but it can always use a boost imo :P) and ya.

It is possible, but like all truly good things, it takes time.

[TurbulentDan12]

I'm in the process of changing a lot about myself. My insecurities, self esteem, social anxiety, and shyness were holding me back my whole life. I never took any chances and never was satisfied with my dating life but I was too blinded to see what the real problem was. It's a long process, but at least I'm going now. I'd rather not get into specifics of progress I've made, but I will say that I went from pretty much nothing (not even having friends who were girls) to what I think is a situation right now that might blossom into a relationship. And it feels damn good :)

[swiftsaver602]

Good for you : )

[TurbulentDan12]

Thank you :)

[Anonymous]

I stopped downloading music illegally and deleted all the music I had downloaded.

When I was younger I became depressed for years after my parents separated, but finally recovered.

I lost 20lbs last year :D I plan to lose another 10lbs though.

I started wanting to do charity work after reading a book about Mother Theresa and began volunteering for the first time a few months ago.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

While it's great you do charity work and good Mother Theresa's lies influenced you positively, you might want to learn why she really did stuff and what she was really like :P she wasn't a horrible person imo (unlike Christopher Hitchens might), but she was human and we are all flawed after all.

[Opinion Owner]

I know. Everyone's flawed, but her life is so inspirational. I've never met anyone who would be willing to give up everything for the sake of strangers.

[swiftsaver602]

Yup. Used to be REALLY depressed and suicidal with horrible self-esteem. Saw a therapist and worked really hard to change my mindset to a more positive one, and I've never been happier or more confident in myself.

[lucky24]

wow that's pretty cool

[swiftsaver602]

Thanks! : )

[Asker]

Wow! I actually would like to do something similar. What process did you use to make progress?

[swiftsaver602]

Well, it was really just a matter of going to therapy regularly (once a month), and making a conscious effort to think positively about myself. I was also prescribed a low-dose anti-anxiety/anti-depression medication before reaching that point, which really helped, too. It's a matter of a good balance between all three, though: therapy, medication, and dedication to change.

[martyfellow]

Coming to Chna really gives me perspective on life in the USA and frees me from questioning myself about why I'm often feeling maladjusted in my own country..it's because said countr is screwed up!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I wanna visit the oriental nations myself one day. Just to get more of a perspective on the world as a whole. Visited European ones plenty (would be fun to go back). Would also be fun to see what the South American countries are like and African. But those two seem more volatile and I do wonder.

[martyfellow]

China is safe and friendly!

[Anonymous]

yeah I used to be depressed a lot and I was bad at talking to people but I have gotten rid of the depression stuff and I'm working on dealing with people better to get where I want. Still have a lot of work to do though

[sixstring]

Yes, I have. And it's been with the help of a girl.

[Konnour]

I used to be quite shy as a teenager, but I've perfectly overcome it.

[aliyasmith13]

Well I'm actually in the process of that and hope to make it.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the process of it, I'm social-phobic and it's really holding me back I hate it but I can't see anybody for help so I'm on my own :(

[Jpalms56]

Used to be shy, now I'm not haha