My boyfriend has what looks like a hickey that I did not give him, How should I go about this?

[waterwingit]

I was giving my boyfriend a massage last night when I noticed a mark behind his armpit on his back. I looked closer and it was quite red and looks like broken blood vessels under the skin (aka a hickey). It was the size of a nickel and there were no bumps, scratches or dark bruising that would indicate a cut, rash or bug bite. He notices me checking something out and asked what was up and I told him there was a weird mark on his back that kind of looks like a hickey. He said it was stupid and too awkward of a spot for one and that he probably got a bug bite or hurt himself at work etc. I agree it's a bit of an odd spot but I could see it how you could get a hickey there (different positions). When I got quiet he became really mad at me and told me I'd find any excuse not to massage him and went to sit on the other side of the room to ignore me. I feel like his reaction was really strange and I have had suspicious about him before (lying about weird co-worker stuff etc.). I am not really sure how to approach the situation because I don't feel 100% about his answer. He got a really worried look and checked it out in the mirror. I mean it could be some weird injury but a mark like that doesn't just happen usually.. I am a chef and I hurt myself at work bumping into tables and stuff... nothing has ever turned out like a hickey.

[Mtsmith]

Be careful...if he got upset over this question, and you wonder about other things (weird co-worker, etc), this could explode...so...

At a point with no deadlines, stress and all, sit back with a drink, talk...in general terms, see if he is happy. Open by telling him what you like that he does to you, for you. Try to get him to open up a bit.

I know, most guys don't like this, to touchy feelly, girlie. But try...you need to decide where things are headed if you want to put in more time.

Yea, trite, but it works lots of times.

[xCherryKizz]

Add some makeup hickey on your neck and if he gets mad about it, he didn't cheat on you

[SovietBall]

You cunning devil!

[dustin0406]

What if v he doesn't get mad

[Terika999]

Well it actually could mean that he’s cheating y’know. If he starts accusing you of cheating and calling you c**t or slut, then that can mean that he’s thinking about himself but is projecting the things he does on you.

[Anonymous]

it really could just be some sort of weird mark & he's upset with you not trusting him

[Terika999]

Something is definitely wrong. Do your research but please please please keep your emotions in check. An emotionally abusive partner will always make you feel like you’re the problem when you question them. Ask friends and family about your situation and don’t spare any of the little details. Make sure you talk to people who aren’t immature in personality because they won’t be able to give sound advice. If they are all saying the same thing as what you suspect then you should consider just leaving. Sometimes it’s better to not even let your lover get under your skin. They’ll try to make it like you’re the problem and that you’re crazy. Don’t take that abuse. And the problem with trying to dig deeper and deeper into the issue might leave you more scarred than you’ll ever know. Sometimes it’s like having ptsd finding out all the nasty details and they carry into your next relationship. Spare any pieces of your heart that you have left. Your partner may try to make you believe that he’s the most loyal man ever but it’s already a fact that most men cheat mentally and most act on whims. So do your research and talk to all of his co workers to see if he’s been acting differently. If he has, do yourself a favor and leave. Don’t turn in on yourself and contemplate on if you should or not.

[Samvixen]

Maybe he’s bi? It could be a passion mark from his lover?

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Hmmm...its a hard call I'd say.