My efforts to lose weight were for nothing?

[Anonymous]

OK , I've been trying to eat healthy for the past 4 weeks, and except few days I did really well.I also exercised here and there when I could as I had the flu for the past 2 weeks.

But here is the point, at some days I look into the mirror and I feel okay, but I just been on french fries and had some beer to it and I feel terrible, for the past 3 days I Haven't eaten clean but was very active.

I don't have a scale as I can not afford it, but first I was wow I feel I'm losing weight, but no one else from my family or friends notice it.I know I'm impatient, but I feel as I don't do something right, and maybe ill never reach my goal.

A recovered bulimic girl.

:( feeling so worthless, and stupid

[madmisskelly]

First of all, don't beat yourself off. Just get on track the next meal you eat. You didn't just gain 10 pounds, probably not even 5. Maybe a little water weight but that will come off when you eat normally again and when you pair it with exercise. Also drink more water, that always seems to help.

Sometimes people are so busy they don't pay attention to what is going on outside of themselves. Also, it is important to remember, that we all tend to have a "self" focused mentality, not necessarily in the selfish sense, but we spend ALL day with ourselves and WE know when WE do/look/feel different and its sometimes shocking when others don't. Then you have to remember that they are feeling the same way about themselves. They are probably wondering why you didn't notice that they put a bit of extra effort into how they looked today, or that they look a bit skinnier than usual. Its all relative.

4 weeks is just the beginning! You will really begin to see some major changes in your body if you keep working at it. Try throwing in some different exercises if you can- running, sprinting, biking, hiking, and if you have a gym, see if they offer any classes.

[rachiee]

Binge eating unhealthy can overturn 4 weeks of hard work. Breathe and remember that tomorrow is a new day. Start over tonight/tomorrow. Make an effort to eat healthy all the time. And exercise! Go for a jog! You need to diet AND exercise to get the best results.

[Asker]

I do not think I'm a binge eater, but this night I was just so emotional and tired, couldn't hold myself back cos the whole family sat down and ate this unhealthy food.

It felt really good and comforting, as my heart is torn apart by pain and disappointment about my love life

[rachiee]

It only takes one night (or a few days like you said) of going off track to ruin things. Just brush yourself off and get back up and try it again but this time tell yourself that its the last time and that you're going to accomplish your goals. Find other ways to feel comforted other than food such as a hobby or even use exercising as a way to feel good. Once you see results you're going to feel great, trust me.

[WeaponZero]

It takes time. And if you're not that far off your goal weight or within the healthy weight range it'll take forever. Because believe it or not you are not in the "weight loss" phase. You are in the "fine tuning" phase. You're trying the things an obese person needs to lose weight and you're not obese. You're in the maintenance or fine tuning phase, depending on what you want to do. But your bigger issue here is self image. That needs to be worked on first. Learn to love yourself and be proud of who you are, and not let the media influence your view of yourself. Never ever compare yourself to a photoshopped image in a magazine. That is not real. You are.

[Anonymous]

You have to do it for yourself.

When I lost a lot of weight, I didn't care about whether or not people noticed. It was about losing weight, and no matter what their opinion of me was, I knew my ultimate goal was what would satisfy me.

So keep working at it. When you reach your goals (on healthy terms) then you can start nit picking.

[Prof_Don]

Just because your family and friends don't notice you losing weight...doesn't mean you're not losing weight and getting healthier.

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The journey of sustainable and ever-lasting weight loss is a very steady and slow process. Others mat not notice, but you're getting healthier, and you feel better inside.

As for tweaking your plan, what do you usually eat (or not eat)? What do you usually drink (or not drink)?

What do you do for exercise, and for how long?

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I'm trying to help you. Talk to me. :)

[Asker]

I exercised for 30 or 35 minutes every day, mostly online videos, and I've eaten lots of veggies and lean meat, less sugar, no pop and minimum chocolate

I also cut down on carbs and tried not to eat later than 7 p.m.

[Prof_Don]

link

Use this link (I got from my college nutritionist so it's legit) and calculate your base metabolism using your TARGET weight, and "rarely" for the activity level.

Do this to make sure that you're not eating too little, cauz that will make your body think it's starving. That is why steady weight loss is the best way to go.

What carbs do you eat? You need to eat a moderate amount if you're exercising that often.

[myusername24]

Don't give up you just need to control what you eat better. try to avoid those bad foods as best as possible but a day of unhealthy eating here and there won't hurt. I would recommend looking online for a possible diet and exercise routine which will help yo stick to it. But most importantly, DON"T GIVE UP!

[Shyguy_1988]

Yes losing wieght takes time, but if that is a picture of you, you look good in my opinion. Its still good you're trying to eat healthy and exercise, just work on feeling better about yourself! I'm sorry about you're past troubles, but you are not worthless and you are not stupid, think postive!

[Asker]

thanks, I know I'm not obese or like...fat in any way, but I do think I have that extra weight that takes all myconfidence away and makes me feel unattractive really .

[Shyguy_1988]

Well, you are an attractive girl, I know some random guys on the internet's opinion isn't going to matter much but I do mean that. You should start thinking of your postive qualities, a little extra weight isn't a bad thing, plus if you are exercising it will eventually go away within time. A little extra weight shouldn't make you feel unattractive, you shouldn't be that hard on yourself. Learn to like yourself for who you are! :)

[Asker]

well, thank u, I do not feel that way about myself for whatever reason, but I will try to change my thinking and not give into emotional swings

[Shyguy_1988]

Just try your best to stay postive, maybe compliment yourself! Changing how you veiw yourself is very difficult, I know this and had to deal with it before, but is something you can overcome!

[Anonymous]

4 weeks of healthy eating, isn't undone by 3 days of binging.

Get back on the wagon. And remember it's a marathon, not a sprint. It takes time.

[scnbabe89]

Well loosing weight is going to take longer then that so your going to have to give it time.

[Anonymous]

Join the club. I'm stupid and worthless too. And not to sound mean but wow you look like just threw up are you ok?

[Asker]

lol I am ok

[Opinion Owner]

Did you take your picture down cause of what I said?

[Asker]

yes

[Opinion Owner]

why?

[Asker]

Because I realized some people sre just douchebags :D

[Opinion Owner]

i asked if you were OK lol how is that being a douche?

[Asker]

I do not see the purpose to explain this sh*t,ain't worth it

[Opinion Owner]

ok lol whatever.