How can I get my boyfriend to be more manly?

[Anonymous]

He looks like a strong macho guy but he plays gay sports like table tennis and badminton for hours everyday and listens to songs like "i'm a barbie girl" and "little girl" by enrique and other girlie stuff. I didn't know all this when I first started dating him but now I am finding out that he's weird.. he believes in non violence and tells me that he'll never hit a guy. I'm like wtf... I want him to join boxing so that he can be more manly. I also want him to join a gym. What else can I do?

[palek]

Perhaps his repressed manliness could be coached to the surface, over time, through a combination of forced testosterone injections, and repeated public humiliation. For instance, when dining out, loudly request that your server fetch a high-chair and bib for "sissy-boy", and inquire as to the availablility of a childrens menu. When the check arrives, inform management that your "girly-man!" is unemployable, and ask if an impromptu, acapella performance of "I'm a Barbie Girl" might be rendered in lieu of payment. Tauntingly demean his badminton and table-tennis skills to passing diners, and openly congatulate other women patrons on their success in finding "real men". Add to this an unceasing mixture of mouth-taping, open-handed slaps to the ear, and snide arm-wrestling challenges, and he should be well on the road to a full recovery.

Seriously, we're all different, and in my experience, you can't do much to change the way people are. If you can't adapt to his unique ways, then maybe it's just not the right situation for you. Good luck.

[WeaponZero]

sounds to me like you're a little bit too obsessed with things about him that shouldnt matter. he doesn't have a problem, you do, and you need to get over it. learn to accept him for who he is or just move on. if you aren't willing to give him what he deserves because you're obsessed with trivial matters, then leave him to a girl who will.

sounds like you don't want a man, you want a caveman. you have a lot to learn.

[Anonymous]

You seem to have a notion in your head that you want him to want to literally fight for you or something. You shouldn't criticize the fact that he doesn't want to constantly fight everyone for your sake. All that proves is arrogance and agression, not manliness. In my honest opinion, I don't think that you should be trying to change him and push him into doing things such as boxing etc which conflicts his values. There's nothing you can do but accept him the way he is. He may not have seemed like that when you first started dating, either you were more forgiving and blind to it at the start, or you should maybe have taken more time to get to know who he really was. If you care about him accept him without judgement, otherwise stop trying to change him and find someone that lives up to your expectations. He's made his values clear to you, and in a relationship you need to respect each others values.

[tracydomenica]

Table tennis and badminton are gay sports? I don't know who should be more offended by your statement, gays or badminton players. Until you stop being just a judgmental little bitch and realize your boyfriend is not there for you to "fix," you will make both of you miserable in this relationship.

[beccasharkey]

Sounds like a good excuse for getting dolled up and flirting (if one is ever needed) Have some fun with another guy you're into. He'll eventually have a choice to either scrap over you or lose you to a man.

[AJtogo]

He is who he is. Now that you have discovered who he is, you can accept that or go find what you're looking for. It's unfair of you to try and change him into something you want.

I don't fault you for wanting a certain type of guy, but don't fault him for not being the guy that you want. It's your mistake.