How do I get my boyfriend to toughen up?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend's dream ever since he was a child is to join the army and I 100% support him in that choice and is one of the main things that attracted me to him but I do fare for him he's very sensitive, gets easily stressed out and crys a lot when he can't deal with difficult situations. Don't get me wrong I dont see anything bad in men crying but I'm scared he's going to get eaten alive once he joins the army. He's a proper mummys boy and doesn't stick up fot himself.

Once we were in a bar and a guy started hitting on me in front of him we both told him to back off but he turned physical towards my boyfriend and I ended up punching the guy in the face and giving him a black eye to defend my boyfriend. My boyfriend was really mad about it and told me I embarrassed him because I beat a guy up for him, I said regretfully "well maybe if you would man up a little I wouldn't have to" I know how offensive and sexist that was of me to say but I just said it in the heat of the moment. But you see were I'm coming from he needs to learn how to control difficult situations without the tears and stress.

Yes I am being a pushy girlfriend and I love him for him but It's only because I want him to fulfill his dream or he'll regret it later on. I'm being cruel to be kind he's to reliant on me or his mother to fix his situations and no one's going to be there when he's in the army to cuddle him and tell him everything's going to be okay.

[ChurchOfIron]

Jeeez, what a bitch. He'll never make it through bootcamp. He will get eaten alive. No way he will survive in a room full of testosterone dripping murder-indoctrinated alphas. No way. He's gonna get murdered.

I understand. You are really kind. Most people don't do that kind of thing and just want to pretend to be kind, so they can look good to themselves or others. I can appreciate your style.

Well. I don't know. Let him try it. Maybe the Army will toughen him up, on its own. He won't have any other choice except sink or swim. So let your baby bird fly. Maybe he'll crash. And if he does, you'll know he doesn't have the balls on him.

Maybe just support him in going to the gym. Support him until he can do 3 strict pull ups, push ups for a minute, sit ups for a minute, and run 2 miles in 16 minutes--so, he needs to practice running as fast as he can. Jogging will not boost his testosterone that much. It needs to be explosive strength and speed running.

The better shape he is in, the better he'll be prepared for the Army. But, no matter how hard he trains, they will destroy him and push him to his absolute limit. But it'll still be easier if he already has some conditioning and strength.

Add in bench press, squats, and deadlifts: 5 sets, 5 reps each. That's it. It doesn't need to be fancy. He just has to get strong. And those will make him strong. And boost his testosterone, too.

Also, he should practice hanging from a bar. He'll do a lot of hanging from a bar in the Army. Like, a lot.

[Kkaos]

These things can be complicated because you don't know how they're going to take it. I was bullied sometimes as a kid and that made me toughen up.

I would say once he's been away with the army, he'll come back a different person. But then again people react to things differently.

Some people become stronger through adversity whereas others become weaker. It's important he's on the side of the former.

Perhaps you can council him, see why he is so emotionally weak, is there a level of insecurity he's got? Try and find out what the root of the problem is.

[Asker]

I think it has a lot to do with his mum as lovely as she is. She smothers him way to much. His dad's also in the army so he didn't get to see him much growing up and has practically been raised by all woman

[Kkaos]

And he knows what to expect in the army? He knows he's going to get shouted at, insulted, forced to push his body to the absolute limit regardless of the pain? I'm surprised his mum is even letting him join the army.

[Asker]

She's not happy about it at all

[bcc99]

I live near an army base and have a lot of friends in the army, what they respect more than anything is someone who gets the job done and is reliable and has integrity. They aren’t all these hard ass murderous killers. I’ve known lots of mild mannered guys like you describe from colonel all the way down to pvt. he’ll do fine if he’s dedicated and you support him through the tough parts

[LeoZay]

Your not going to toughen him up, people either are aggressive and tough, quiet and tough or on the passive side. He will probably be fine in today's Army, it would probably be the perfect amount of tough to help him, though make sure he does not go infantry.

[ok285]

I mean im sensitive but if a man hits on my girlfriend in front of me even tho we both say fuck off then he got a Problem with me lmao

[ok285]

PS tell him to boost his testestorone and tell him to work out

[Asker]

I think going to the gym will really help him out. He needs to learn to discipline himself without his emotions getting in the way. I've started getting him to run with me and he seems to enjoy it

[ok285]

Nah not run let him bulk up muscles that alone will boost his testestorone and confidence i dont think much of running when it comes to testestorone and muscles lol

[Asker]

He's very skinny and tall he's 6ft4 will it be difficult for him to gain muscle?

[ok285]

Wow 6"4!!! It ll be harder for him but only cuz his body is bigger and longer
Being taller =not gaining muscles faster it depends on genetics but mostly it takes for taller guys longer to get bulky and strong but then theyre monsters haha im just 5'7 and bulky i d love to be 6'4 haha

[Anonymous]

"one of the main things that attracted me to him"
The idea that he would be a soldier did it for you, god that is so weird and gross to me, but whatever.

A girl has much greater permission to be violent so it's not like he was in exactly the same situation. Also, you solved the problem with violence, that's hardly a good alternative to tears and stress.

[Asker]

Well firstly I say it attracted me to him because he's willing to put his life on the line for his country, yes there's certain aspects of it I don't feel comfortable with but I respect him for it and the only reason I hit that guy was because I got scared and thought he was going injure my boyfriend if no one else was going to step in and help. I don't think me turning around and saying "hey how stop that and let's talk it out" was going to stop the guy whilst he was kicking the shit out my boyfriend.

[InDetail]

Ok, if he joins the army problem solved. he needs an emotionally difficult time to not do that anymore, I'd just say, be careful what you wish for

[hihihiihiiihi]

My grandfather was in the army and because of that my dad's personality is not that good. Army makes people depressed.

[Anonymous]

your dream is to be in the army. sounds like he has a death wish, is what it sounds like he fantasizes about

[OldDad]

Don't let him join the Army, encourage him toward the Air Force or Navy.

[iFarted]

Are you sure you dont have a girlfriend?

[Asker]

Well last time I checked yes... yes He's definitely my boyfriend or that's a rather large package in her pants if not 😂

[fitemeat]

punch him in the nuts

[kpz24]

Kill his family