How can a 28 year old man mature fast? Why am I acting like a child so often? How should a man of my age act and what should I do to mature?

[KralArthur]

I am 28 years old, but I am not spiritually mature at all. In fact, I bet a 12 or 13 year old teenager is smarter than me. I can't make my own decisions. My self-confidence is very low and I am very cowardly and shy. I need to pull myself together and do the actions required by my age. So where should I start? I'm also a porn junkie and I've never had a girlfriend. That's why I only see girls in my dreams and that's sad. Thanks for reading.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some suggestions for how you can start maturing faster:

- Take responsibility for yourself. Make your own decisions instead of letting others make them for you. Own your mistakes and work to improve.

- Set goals for your life and career. Have ambitions beyond the present moment. Work consistently toward your goals each day through action.

- Improve your self-confidence. Remind yourself daily of your strengths and positive qualities. Challenge negative self-talk. Spend time with people who believe in you.

- Limit your porn use. Replace it with fulfilling real-world experiences and relationships. Porn is distorting your view of intimacy.

- Put yourself out there socially. Join meetup groups for your interests and push past your shyness. Friendships and dating experience will help you mature.

- Adopt better habits. Drink/eat healthy, exercise regularly, get enough sleep. Physical and mental well-being promotes maturity.

- Practice empathy, gratitude and kindness every day. Interact respectfully with all people, especially women/girls.

Bro, take small steps each day toward the man you want to be. Have faith in your abilities and you'll be blown away by your growth in just a few short months. You've totally got this!

[slatyb]

See a professional counselor. Helped me.

[ushagomez]

Turn off the porn, turn on the charm, make yourself appealing in terms of conversation and interest, socialise in settings where you will meet girls.

[Anonymous]

Being on here won't help you. Most men on here are infantile at best.

[NathanDavis]

who is paying your bills?

[KralArthur]

What? What bills?

[NathanDavis]

all that porn...

phone, internet, food bills... who's paying for all that

[KralArthur]

My father pays home internet bill and its not that much. Plus i have a job and i can pay the rest. Im living with my family by the way and i dont watch porn 24/7. I have a job and i watch it when im home. I dont even watch it so often i guess because im looking for a fb or friends with benefits or just a girlfriend

[NathanDavis]

well... the first step would be to get out of that situation

become actually responsible for yourself