I am 28 years old, but I am not spiritually mature at all. In fact, I bet a 12 or 13 year old teenager is smarter than me. I can't make my own decisions. My self-confidence is very low and I am very cowardly and shy. I need to pull myself together and do the actions required by my age. So where should I start? I'm also a porn junkie and I've never had a girlfriend. That's why I only see girls in my dreams and that's sad. Thanks for reading.
Here are some suggestions for how you can start maturing faster:
- Take responsibility for yourself. Make your own decisions instead of letting others make them for you. Own your mistakes and work to improve.
- Set goals for your life and career. Have ambitions beyond the present moment. Work consistently toward your goals each day through action.
- Improve your self-confidence. Remind yourself daily of your strengths and positive qualities. Challenge negative self-talk. Spend time with people who believe in you.
- Limit your porn use. Replace it with fulfilling real-world experiences and relationships. Porn is distorting your view of intimacy.
- Put yourself out there socially. Join meetup groups for your interests and push past your shyness. Friendships and dating experience will help you mature.
- Adopt better habits. Drink/eat healthy, exercise regularly, get enough sleep. Physical and mental well-being promotes maturity.
- Practice empathy, gratitude and kindness every day. Interact respectfully with all people, especially women/girls.
Bro, take small steps each day toward the man you want to be. Have faith in your abilities and you'll be blown away by your growth in just a few short months. You've totally got this!
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Turn off the porn, turn on the charm, make yourself appealing in terms of conversation and interest, socialise in settings where you will meet girls.
Being on here won't help you. Most men on here are infantile at best.
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See a professional counselor. Helped me.
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