Alcoholism is a genetic trait - some people are genetically pre-disposed to addiction, and others aren't. That's why some people can have a drink or two with dinner and be fine, while others can't have a single drink without continuing to drink until black-out drunk. Being that it's a genetic trait, it is often one passed on from parent to child, as are many other traits.
For that reason, it's natural and normal for people to be cautious about girls who have a mother with issues.
Part of it is also environmental. Chances are, whether you know it or not, and even if you actively reject your mother's behavior and attitudes, that you have been influenced by her in ways you haven't discovered yet. Some of those could be positive things, and some negative, but you have to look out for the negatives and be willing to recognize that some odd-ball behaviors you might have that "don't seem like you" probably come from your childhood experiences with her.
That doesn't mean that such issues can't be overcome, but the fact is that most people have a hard enough time even recognizing and admitting they have a problem, much less doing the work it takes to change. And THAT is really why people tend to warn others about "the apple not falling too far from the tree."
Again, don't take this to mean you are doomed to be like her; you aren't. That's just one possibility, and there are other possibilities as well, and YOU have a whole lot of control over the choices you make and the paths you follow. Just don't take those choices lightly, because if you make a mistake, it can be very costly, in time, relationships, and other things that you can never get back.
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i personally wouldn't pay any attention to what her mother her is like to determine what she will be like
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