How can I leave a person who I care for a lot but is not good for me at all?

[Anonymous]

My current boyfriend has issues besides the fact that is is needy he is jealous. He whines about not getting his way. When I want to spend tiime with my family he gets mad. About a month ago I introduced him to my mom. I told him before he comes please don't smoke. But he did and came in the house smelling like weed. So my mom pulled him aside and asked not to come in her house smelling like that again. So he got in his chest and got mad and left stating that she was about to get cussed out because of how my mom came at him. He said she is a small decimal in the world. And I went off saying she is every decimal in my world. He also disregard the fact that I may have my last couple of dollars and need transportaion for work. He wants it all. I only had 30 dollars one time and I said we an split in half because I need food for lunch and transportation. He said no and wanted it all. He don't like to work. He says working is a form of prostitution. He don't offer to pay the cell phone bill he wants us to move in together and he live off me. I pay for everything down to the free movie tickets. He always complain about how people dint like him. He would rather smoke and drink than anything. My best friend he threated to kill him if he don't stop talking to me. He always threaten me. He got mad to the point where he threw my phone in the toilet. We argue everyday and all I have is headaches from him.

[AliceWonders2013]

"How can I leave a person who I care for a lot but is not good for me at all?" You just do it. You go to the police station get a restraining order, send him a copy with a letter stating that it's over and if he comes within 50 metres of you he will spend some time in jail. Then change your cell phone number and tell your friends and family what is happening. Actually you should do this first and have htem go to the police station with you. Support and love is what you need to get you through this, also a huge wake-up call.

What part of him is it that you care about? The part that he uses you? Degrades you? Dismisses your thoughts and feelings, everything that makes you who you are?

This isn't just another case of bad boyfriend, thiis guy sounds emotionally and mentally unstable, a dangerous combo when you are romantically involved with someone. Please don't become another stat*tstic that shows up on the 6 o'clock news. Get out now and the future, happier, more confident you, will say thank you someday.

[dragonfly6516]

And don't give him "second chances" when he's "changed" a week later. Change takes months, years, and no one ever changes unless they want to!

[harveykinkle]

Write a list of everything he does that upsets you. Read it a million times. Dump him. Read it whenever you miss him.

[stubbsy]

I don't mean this in a harsh way, but unless you want people to look at you and say, "thats the desperate girl whos seeing that control freak of nature. She's so desperate that she allows him to live off her and do nothing, not even pay her the respect she deserves, and not only that, he has no respect for her family or friends either, I mean, how desperate can you get to want to stay with a bloke who treats you this way, and that's just naming a few things,

Is this you, or do you move on and get the life you deserve? what's sounds better, I know what I would choose in a heartbeat,x

[Anonymous]

It's quite clear that he's so manipulative, selfish and very controlling. You need to break up with him.

[dragonfly6516]

Care about yourself more than the asshat who is abusing you emotionally.

[Anonymous]

You're a retard. Just leave him already. I'm surprised he doesn't beat you.