Why are men more emotionally weak?

Question

Studies have shown that men are more likely to leave their sick wives. Part of the reasoning is men are unable to cope with the illness. The other part is that the illness often takes a toll on the woman's appearance and her ability to please him visually as well as s*xually (due to the toll the illness has on her body).

So why are men less emotional and less attached?

NO, I'm not a feminist and I don't hate men. And I'm not blaming men for leaving. If I was married and got ill, I'd fully expect him to have an affair or to leave me.

toulouse · Accepted Answer

Emotion is measured by the bodies physiological reaction to an event. studies show men have stronger emotional experience in reactions to events than do women. experiencing a reaction does not equate expression of that reaction..whether someone expresses their emotions outwardly or not has nothing to do with the emotion existing in the first place.

many people react stronger than cover it up or only show anger not sadness or happiness. people who hold their emotions in are more likely to develop unhealthy attachments to drink, drugs, smoking, sex food... in attempts to dumb what they are trying to pretend they don't feel.

someone leaving does not mean they don't have emotions. it means they feel strongly overwhelmed , unhappy. scared. helpless. bored. resentful, weak disgusted, etc etc. strong emotions they can't handle it then they leave. they are not 'not feeling'. they are acting purely off of their own personal feelings. are catering to their own feelings instead of caring about another person. they are emotional and self rather than emotional and altruistic in their actions.

when someone appears cold to another person it doesn't mean they feel nothing and are impervious to emotion.. . they act cold because they are acting on behalf of and protecting the feelings they do have. their feelings no one elses..

why would you expect anyone to leave you if you were sick. would you leave the person you swore to be with forever if they got sick. doesn't it go something like. ...'in sickness and in health... till death dos part'.

xjesspandax · Accepted Answer

I think it really depends on the state of the relationship when the wife falls ill.

If they are a couple that truly love each other, I doubt the man would cheat unless he had some serious issues (self esteem issues or something).

Tbh, I know a man who's wife cheated on him when he was in hospital from a car crash... so its down to the person not if they are male or female.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most men do not leave their wives during serious illness. For the few that do, I suppose they do so to escape the inevitable responsibility of nursing their wives - the around o'clock attention to detail that requires their undivided attention. In addition, abandoning their wives may be done in part to escape the emotional and financial burden that's associated with caring for an ill person.

I recollect visiting my cancer stricken aunt(26yrs. old) in the hospital as she came near the end of her road. The physical transformation she endured was so shocking that I could not brig myself to visit her there again. I thought to myself over and over again, "three months ago she was looked so healthy and beautiful," and now..

Sadly, the next time I saw her again was during her wake. I felt so guilty that I didn't man up to be there for her in her time of need. I just could not bring myself to see her in such a morbid condition. Nevertheless, I love her and think of her regularly.

With that being said, I certainly can understand the rational of a husband that avoids seeing his wife suffer and undergo catastrophic change. Guys in general avoid hospital and doctor visits like the plague, so, for some men, leaving a sick wife is just an extension of the cowardly fears.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The guys who leave are not men.

Your definition of men is a loose one. Anything with a d*** is not a man.

Women make the man, If a male has a mother who screwed around he knows all women are just tool like devices. If he see his father changing women like underwear then when old girl gets sick it is time to let her go.

When God is removed as a party to a marriage, then dumping the wife falls in line. A marriage is a contract between man and God and woman and God, not man and woman. I promise to God to take this woman in good and bad.

A man is a male who loves and respects God, so a man would never leave his wife when she is sick but a d*** will.

Phoenix1991 · Answer

Depends on the guy, but most guys who truly love their wives aren't going up and abandon her because of a sickness.

On your wedding day, your vows clearly state, "To stand by your side, Through sickness and health"

Some guys will probably miss the opportunity to make love to their wives when she is sick, but a right man will be more concerned about trying to be by her side as support.

jmurk · Answer

LOL! Your last sentence  makes you look like you have incredibly low self esteem. I don't really  go off studies because there's no way to really prove that they really did  a extremely accurate  leave no stones unturned research.  Men have little emotion because they are taught that it's not manly to have emotions.

Anonymous · Answer

Serious question. You come off as extremely abrasive and combative here. Are really expecting any legitimate, useful responses? Are you just making a statement to pick an e-fight.

What are you really asking?

"So why are men less emotional and less attached?" or "...Why are men more emotionally weak?" So are we less emotional or emotionally weak? Please feel free to respond in an insulting, condescending tone.

Bob1227 · Answer

You obviously have some seriously low expectations for men and marriage in general if you expect a man to leave you if you get sick.

Anonymous · Answer

What kind of stupid question is this? It's women who I see crying all the time

Yes men will leave and cheat if their wife is useless. Women do the same thing, if a man losses his job and has no money they will be gone like the wind

JamielovesKU · Answer

I can't say I've met an emotionally weak man brfore

kheserthorpe · Answer

Men initiate divorce twice as often as men.   Is tht because generally women are less emotional?

danix · Answer

It depends. People cheat, duh. Moreover, nobody is owed anything in life.

ChristopherLosRivera · Answer

Would be nice if you had given links to these studies.

Anonymous · Answer

Men aren't less emotional or less attached. I am the "hard on the outside" and "soft on the inside" kinda guy and when I fall in love, I fall hard. Please site your statistics.

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